Recently, a fan contributed to me and told a story about her best friend:
She has a good relationship with her husband. Recently, her best friend came to live with her because she was looking for a job, and said that she would move out when she found a job. They live in a room and a living room. Her husband sleeps on the sofa, and her best friend sleeps on the bed with her.
Her best friend is beautiful and has a good figure, but she has no feelings about it. The main reason is that her best friend often changes clothes in front of her husband, leaving only underwear and so on. After taking a shower, she only wore a short pajamas and bowed her head and left.
To this end, she said that the best friend should also pay attention. Strangely, she didn't care at all and said she was too narrow-minded.
Later, my girlfriend finally moved away, only to find that my husband began to be a little absent-minded and often interacted with his girlfriend WeChat. Once she caught her with her own eyes and almost smashed her husband's mobile phone.
Although her husband assured her countless times that he would never have any contact with her again, it didn't take long for her to find out that her husband had contact with her best friend again.
Because of this, she quarreled with her husband many times and prepared to go through the divorce procedure.
In my opinion, thanks to your best friend, your husband must have betrayed you. There is a general rule that cheating is addictive. Once you have the first time, there will be countless times, especially those who cheat. Once he is forgiven, although he may stop for a while, after a while, he may repeat it unscrupulously.
No one can really guarantee that he will not cheat at all, and there is no completely effective way to completely prevent the other party from cheating.
There are both internal and external causes of derailment. Most cases of derailment are caused by internal factors, and external factors are only the fuse. Sometimes, whether this fuse will detonate the powder keg depends on whether the temptation is big enough.
Because your best friend is younger and more beautiful than you, she was brought here to live with you. Isn't this your husband's chance to cheat?
Human nature often cannot stand the test.
In this life, I will never let my husband have too much contact with my best friend. Even WeChat is not allowed, but we can eat together and go shopping together.
Because I don't know how good this person is to you, whether he is sincere to you or a green tea bitch who wants to break up other people's families.
Once in close contact for a long time, your best friend already knows what your boyfriend needs, dislikes and thinks.
I used to share my life with my girlfriend, but I finally changed to sharing my boyfriend with my girlfriend. Many times, what a girlfriend can do is to give your boyfriend an inner hope supplement, and they just ignore it.
The ancients said, food is also sex. It is natural to taste delicious food, especially for men.
Your best friend may not really like your husband. She is also adjusting her psychological balance. Being girlfriends together is to eliminate the loneliness of being single. If you get married, you can't be with your best friend every day as before. Your best friend is hard to accept.
Many people can't see that others are better off than themselves. Your best friend tries every means to make your boyfriend betray you and make you feel lonely and lovelorn. This is the reward for her loneliness during this time.
This is a very common phenomenon among girlfriends, and the proportion is quite high.
Why did your husband cheat? In the final analysis, the reason is that you gave the third child enough opportunities, which is the key internal cause. Falini once said:
Marriage is a book, the first chapter is a poem, and the rest are plain prose.
Love is like a poem. Men often give, women enjoy love, women will tolerate and understand everything they do, and men will try their best to meet what women want.
Therefore, the efforts in this love period are unbalanced. Although they are all very sweet, there will be no problems for the time being because of the novelty as a support. After marriage, when men face too much pressure in life and work, they will recover some energy and reduce their tolerance for women, which will lead to the end of their love period.
At this time, contradictions began to break out. If girls are immature at this time, they will start to doubt and do all kinds of things, thinking that the other party does not love themselves and ignores what the other party should need. As a result, the love period is over and the cold period is coming. This is what we call the seven-year itch of marriage.
The film "28-year-old minors"
In order to support her boyfriend Mao Liang, the heroine Xia Liang is willing to give up her dream of being a painter and face the sky every day. In ten years of long-distance love, Xia Liang has smoothed out her artistic talent and wiped out their passion. Her daily wish is to marry "Prince Charming" Mao Liang as soon as possible. But in Mao Liang's eyes, she has grown old, so she began to hate her. At my friend Bai's wedding, I tried to force my marriage and break up with her. Finally, Xia Liang was heartbroken.
Life is like this. We are surrounded by daily necessities, soy sauce, vinegar and tea. Children have to pick up and drop off from school and help with their homework at night. When I get home from work, I have to buy food and cook quickly. I'm covered in oil fumes. Slowly, my face turned dark yellow and my figure slowly deformed. People will also become unattractive. Men have no chance to appreciate you.
Do we really know each other in marriage?
Shakespeare said: hasty marriage will not be happy.
I have a friend, Xiao Lin, who married her boyfriend in a flash. It took her a month to get married.
When she was ecstatic about the news that they were getting married, I just reminded her that marriage was a big deal after all. Don't be so hasty, get to know each other better. After all, you've only known each other for less than a month.
She doesn't think so. She believes that as long as love has nothing to do with the length of time, she believes that their love can last forever.
A few months later, she found me and confided in me, lamenting that she was really carried away by her feelings and didn't figure it out. After getting married, I found that I couldn't stand some of each other's problems at all. Even when I finally heard him snoring in his sleep, I wanted to leave him at once and didn't want to stay for a moment.
The British writer Andre Maurois said:
A marriage without conflict is almost as difficult to imitate as a country without crisis.
No one is perfect, no one can be without any shortcomings, and marriage cannot be completely conflict-free.
It's just that you have to understand that living with a person is related to his shortcomings. If you don't know a person, you will naturally be more disappointed in the following days.
Seeing the secret book of love preservation shared by others on Zhihu, she mentioned three methods:
One is to say "I love you" to each other once a day to remind them that you love him or her.
The second is to set the same goal in life, so that two people move towards the same goal and make life full of motivation.
The third is to hug when you are angry. Can a hug and a kiss solve many things by suppressing your own outburst?
Habits will be formed over time, and love will regain its original freshness and will not be washed away by busy life.
So, don't worry when marriage lights up at a red light. You might as well find the reason from yourself. Perhaps, the biggest enemy of marriage is yourself.
When you finally solve the "Little Three", there will be "Little Four" and "Little Five" behind ... Can you catch so many people? Since so many people have been arrested, can we seize each other's hearts?
When you learn to dress yourself up, learn to be confident, and learn to consolidate your marriage, we will naturally find that marriage is a very simple knowledge, and you are not afraid of "mistress" at all.