With the development of the times, college students' love is becoming more and more common. The research shows that college students' love view presents the characteristics of tradition and modernity, openness and contradiction. Let's share some references of college students' love view.
Reference of college students' love view 1: A study on the characteristics of college students' love view. Wen Rong's research shows that college students' views on love are characterized by tradition and modernity, openness and contradiction. Wang Meiping pointed out that college students' view of love presents diversified characteristics. In addition to inheriting traditional ideas, the new social and cultural background has also given birth to some new ideas.
A study of college students' love motives. Wen Rong pointed out that "looking for a partner for study and life", "the contact between the two sides produces feelings", "seeking spiritual sustenance", "experiencing the beauty of love" and "satisfying psychological needs" are the main love motives. Wu's research shows that 78.2% of college students are attracted by each other's advantages, 3.3% fall in love because of conformity, and 18.5% fall in love because of seeking spiritual sustenance and making up psychological emptiness.
Research on the criteria of college students' mate selection. Wang Meiping's research shows that most college students' mate selection criteria emphasize internal factors, such as personality, personality, the same feelings and language, but pay little attention to external factors such as family background, occupation and education. Luo Ping and Feng Ying's research shows that there are differences between male and female students in choosing a spouse: they all value personality for the same thing; The difference is that girls pay more attention to "economic conditions" than boys. It can be seen that "the appearance of a rich woman" is still the mainstream.
Research on college students' sexual concept. Wen Rong's research shows that with the development of the times, college students' sexual concept tends to be open, and more and more college students are tolerant of premarital sex. Luo Ping and Feng Ying's research shows that boys have more open sexual attitudes than girls, and they are more likely to accept cohabitation before marriage.
A study on the influencing factors of college students' love view. Deng Yan believes that school, society and individuals are the three factors that affect college students' view of paper-based love. Su Hong and Ren Yongjin believe that family education, parents' marital status, children's interaction with parents and children's cognition of parents' marital relationship are important factors that affect the formation of personal love view.
foreign research status
Foreign research on marriage, love, sexual psychology and other related topics began with the establishment of Freud's psychoanalysis theory in the 1940s from 19, and has a history of 100 years.
Foreign college students support falling in love during college. Knox company. Susman's research shows that falling in love is very common in colleges and universities. 83% of college students say that they are in love, and 2/3 people think that love is very important. Love is the foundation of a happy marriage, and a marriage without love will not last long.
Rachel Saul Lacey and others have found that people with different sexual attitudes will have different choices when choosing a partner. People with open sexual concept think that appearance quality is an important factor in choosing a partner, while people with traditional sexual concept value each other's personality quality more.
To sum up, scholars at home and abroad have done in-depth research on the characteristics, motives, mate selection criteria, influencing factors and sexual concepts of college students' love, which is worth learning. However, there are still some shortcomings in their research. Most of them simply analyze the current situation without in-depth analysis of the reasons, and the choice of research topics is limited to female college students. This topic will take college students as the investigation object, understand their love view and its influencing factors, find out the existing problems of college students' love view, and guide them to establish a correct love view.
See 2 1 for college students' view of love, and treat love correctly.
Correctly handle the relationship between love, study and career. Love is a major event in life, but it is not the whole of life. College students should focus on their studies, because learning is their main purpose. Career is higher than love, advocate career first, and it is not appropriate to fall in love too early. But don't think that love is a stumbling block to your career. If handled well, love can also play a catalytic role in your career.
2. Cultivate the ability to love. Its ability to love includes the following aspects:
(1) The ability to meet love. If a person has love in his heart, he must dare to express it in the right way; If you face the love of others, you should be able to choose to accept or refuse in time. Can bear the psychological trouble of refusing or refusing courtship.
(2) the ability to refuse love. You should have the courage to refuse love that you don't want to accept or think is not worth accepting. Pay attention to two points when refusing:
First, if you don't want to love, the tone of refusal should be decisive and firm, and there should be no room for hesitation, otherwise it will cause more harm to the other party.
Second, we must master the proper way. You should master the way and degree of speaking. Although everyone has the right to refuse love, they should at least respect others.
3. Treat love setbacks correctly.
(1) Face the reality, the pain of lovelorn lies in the word "love". Love is two-way, mutual, based on the love of both sides. Without either side, love will be unbalanced and love will end. At this time, it is unrealistic for the lovelorn party to love the other party again. As a rational college student, we should face up to this reality.
(2) Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Doing so will help you understand the reason why the other party terminated love, help you accept the painful reality of lovelorn, and get out of the shadow of lovelorn as soon as possible.
(3) emotional catharsis. Don't hide or suppress the' pain' caused by lovelorn, find appropriate ways to vent.
Usually vent methods are:
1, tears relief method. Crying when you are sad can calm your mood. Experts believe that tears can expel some toxins produced by the body during stress response.
2. Exercise relaxation method. Intense physical exercise helps to release the energy brought by excitement.
3. divert attention. When you are in a bad mood, you can do something that interests you.
4. Decoration method. When you fall in love without the person you love, give reasonable reasons and facts to explain your frustration, so as to get spiritual comfort.
Step 5 talk. Tell your troubles to trusted teachers, classmates, friends, teachers, etc. You can also keep a diary or write a letter. If you feel that your inner depression is too deep to be resolved, you can also seek psychological counseling from a psychological counselor.
(4) Situation transfer. The reason why it is difficult to get rid of the trouble of love after lovelorn is because all aspects of life are inextricably linked with former lovers, so if you want to get rid of the pain of lovelorn, you must change a brand-new environment and temporarily leave the once familiar environment. Put yourself in a happy environment. For example, making more friends, participating in some group entertainment activities, or looking for someone to go shopping, travel and relax, all of which will help broaden your mood. On the other hand, because there is a sense of emptiness after lovelorn, it is difficult to adapt for the time being, so you can enrich yourself with work or other methods to prevent yourself from thinking in your spare time practice.
(5) sublimation. As soon as possible, we should sublimate lovelorn love into a kind of motivation and devote ourselves to study or work as soon as possible. Don't be devastated by lovelorn love, thinking that life and life have lost their meaning. You know, love is an important part of life, but it is not the whole of life. We should treat love correctly, put it in a correct position, and handle the relationship between love and study, love and life, and love and marriage.
4. Correct the love motive.
Love is not for comfort and excitement, nor is it simply for sexual satisfaction. The choice of love object is a complicated process, and factors such as economy, politics, culture and personality cannot be ignored, but the ideal orientation and moral sentiment of * * * are the most fundamental. The quality of love motivation is directly related to the success of love. As a bridge of the new era, college students' love view should be an organic combination of ideal, morality, career and sex.
3 abstract of college students' love view
Love, an eternal theme, was once the main theme of everyone's youth. It makes everyone taste the sweetness, but at the same time, the thorny love rose also brings a lot of sadness. Nowadays, with the continuous development of society and the continuous integration of western ideology and culture, many new changes have taken place in the love view of contemporary college students. A correct understanding of contemporary college students' love view is very important for helping college students whose minds are not fully mature to grow up healthily.
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The causes of college students' love view
First, the concept of love of contemporary college students
1, love for the purpose of marriage
Students who fall in love for the purpose of marriage generally base their love on feelings, which is not much different from the traditional view of love. Yearning for fairy-tale love and being faithful to it. Such students pay more attention to each other's moral character. They depend on and support each other. Not only will they not have a negative impact on their studies, but they will also work together for each other's future and play a certain incentive role.
2. Love for the purpose of process
Most students who fall in love for the purpose of process have no long-term plan for the future, which is immature to some extent. Students in their youth have a certain yearning for love, both physically and psychologically, and have a demand for love. Therefore, their love is only for a temporary need. His love motives are diversified, some pay attention to utilitarian value, and some pay attention to material enjoyment.
3. Take pleasure in love.
Most students who fall in love for pleasure have poor self-control and are not responsible for their actions, just to relieve loneliness and satisfy curiosity. This kind of students are more casual in love, open-minded, and have sex prematurely.
Second, the reasons for the formation of different views of love
1, the reasons for the formation of the concept of love for the purpose of marriage
The concept of love for the purpose of marriage is mostly traditional students, which is deeply influenced by traditional concepts. Strong self-control, not easily affected by external adverse factors. Most of these students have happy families, and their parents can give them timely guidance and cultivate their positive world outlook, outlook on life and values.
2. The reasons for the formation of the concept of love for the purpose of process.
Students who fall in love for the purpose of process, although immature, think that the problem is limited to their own stage and there is no long-term plan, but most of these students belong to relatively independent students. Their concept of love is formed entirely out of their own needs. His view of love is diversified, and he can adjust his attitude at any time according to his own needs. Its flexibility is strong, but its principle is weak. Most of these students grow up in free-range families, and their parents don't interfere too much with their children, so they are influenced by external thoughts. Especially regard love as a means to realize utility and material enjoyment.
3. Reasons for the formation of hedonic love view.
Most students who fall in love for pleasure lack the care of their parents. When they lack love, they have no family to guide their lives. They need companionship and loneliness, so they look for companions at will. At the same time, most children in this period are in the period of physical and psychological development, and they are curious about love and sex, so they pursue sexual stimulation and pleasure regardless of the consequences.
In addition to social factors, school factors and personal factors, under the condition that social stimulation, school education and students' personal qualities are basically the same, the reasons for the formation of love concept aiming at marriage, process and pleasure are particularly profound and important. Because each student's social environment and school education are basically the same, as far as students' own factors are concerned, there is no distinction between good and evil at the beginning of life. Obviously, the main reason for his wrong view of love is his family.
Third, guide contemporary college students to establish a correct and scientific view of love.
1, the guiding mode of love concept for the purpose of marriage
We give a positive attitude to the students who fall in love for the purpose of marriage. We just need to play the role of auxiliary guidance and guide them when they need help, without too much interference. Because such children are usually measured, they can consciously abide by the school rules and regulations and develop their love according to the beauty and purity of fairy tales.
2. The guiding way of the concept of love for the purpose of process.
We should guide students who hold the concept of process love to establish a correct concept of love. In the social aspect, we should strengthen ideological guidance and guide it to mainstream ideas such as truth, goodness and beauty. In schools, schools should strengthen ideological and political education for students, offer guidance courses and resist bad ideas. Personally, we should strengthen our own education on right and wrong and our own moral education while insisting on autonomy. Be responsible for other people's lives and your own. On the family side, parents should give their children timely guidance, always pay attention to their children and resist the erosion of western bad ideas.
3. Ways to guide the idea of taking love as pleasure.
The guidance of love concept to pleasure should be based on family and self-efforts. For such children, we should appeal to the family to give more care, and at the same time, the children themselves should receive an education that will be honed.
Fourthly, the ways and methods to guide college students to establish a correct and scientific view of love.
Although family education guidance has the most profound influence on college students' love view, society, schools and students should also make positive efforts while family efforts are made. For students, the main force to guide them is mainly reflected in family and school.
(1) families and schools should do a good job in adolescent education.
First of all, conduct sexual moral education. Parents should educate students on sexual morality, and schools should carry out courses or special activities such as ideological and moral cultivation to let students know that morality is the bottom line of a person's behavior and become a moral person.
Secondly, carrying out sexual health education and understanding sexual physiological and psychological knowledge can avoid many unnecessary injuries. Finally, carry out psychological education. Students should be given appropriate psychological counseling and education on a regular basis.
(2) Improve the management mechanism of the school.
First of all, we should strengthen the construction of campus culture. Campus culture can not only fill the gap in children's spare time, but also enrich their spiritual life, so that they can resist bad temptations when they encounter the influence of western bad ideas.
Secondly, strengthen the management of campus environment. Create a good environment for students through campus environmental management. In dormitory management, off-campus accommodation is strictly prohibited. Do a good job of daily dormitory inspection to ensure the personal safety of students. Finally, establish and improve various rules and regulations. Only sound rules and regulations can improve the management level and prevent students from taking advantage of the imperfect rules and regulations.
Verb (abbreviation of verb) conclusion
Only by correctly analyzing the love view of contemporary college students and guiding it correctly can the flower of youth bloom more beautifully and brilliantly and help every college student have the best time in his life.