Vietnamese wedding custom wedding refers to a ceremony that both men and women choose an auspicious day for their children and hold it, which is legal and fair to all and is used to celebrate the beginning of their lives. According to historical records, the origin of Vietnamese weddings has a long history, and wedding ceremonies have existed since the transition from matriarchal relationship to paternal relationship. At that time, men and women walked together only through gifts, then ceremonies, and then gradually weddings. The meaning of the wedding was and still is. Wedding is the expression of the culture and social morality of all ethnic groups in Vietnam. It not only inherits the traditional cultural customs of the nation, but also improves slightly with the development of society. Betel nut and betel nut leaf are indispensable things in Vietnamese weddings, representing the symbol that husband and wife will be together for life and forever. The wedding is not only an opportunity for parents to sit together, but also an opportunity for family, relatives and friends at home to get together and congratulate the bride and groom on their long-term life together. Wedding is an indispensable ceremony in life. Wedding customs in Vietnam tend to be diversified. In the past, due to the influence of feudal society, many understandings at weddings were very particular. Children's marriage is a matter for parents. There is a popular saying that "parents sit wherever they put them", and parents are basically masters and have the final say. When there are boys aged 20-22 at home, they are ready to get married. Generally, the parents of the man will invite a matchmaker after seeing which daughter, and the matchmaker will propose marriage to the woman. It is basically appropriate to be optimistic about the woman. When proposing to the woman, the matchmaker should know the age, health and other aspects of the future daughter-in-law. After both families agree, the parents of the man and the parents of the woman will go on blind dates together, and usually bring some gifts such as tea and wine when they go on blind dates. After that, the two men and women began to get familiar with each other for a while and felt that they hit it off. After a while, they began to handle some wedding ceremonies. In the past, my mother-in-law paid great attention to whether her future daughter-in-law was a virgin. If she gets pregnant before marriage, the man will look down on her, let alone her future daughter-in-law. Before marriage, two people are basically not allowed to play alone at night. If you want to go, you must be accompanied by another person, and no matter who you go with or where you go, you must go home before 10 in the afternoon. Some wedding ceremonies in Vietnam are basically the same as before, but with the development of society and the influence of the West, the relationship and communication between men and women before marriage are not as restrictive as before. At present, the marital affairs of men and women are not parents' business, nor are parents in charge, but both men and women take the initiative to understand. Now the elders hardly interfere in their children's marriage, mainly because their children's future life is better than anything else. But in any case, the future mother-in-law still values whether the future daughter-in-law is a virgin, and both parents are proud of it anyway. Vietnamese girls themselves are very conservative, and most of them are traditional. Few people are pregnant before marriage, or there are few couples before marriage, especially in rural areas. When two men and women decide to be together for life, the man's parents ask the woman's parents for a marriage blind date. Blind date is one of the indispensable ceremonies in traditional Vietnamese weddings. The purpose of blind date is to formalize the relationship between men and women. The man's parents informed the future mother-in-law that they would come on a blind date through their son, and asked the woman's parents to allow their son and daughter to have formal relations, give them formal contacts and get to know each other, see what the future daughter-in-law looks like and get to know each other. On this day, women usually wear traditional Vietnamese clothes, and men also wear some decent clothes. The families of the two parties participating in the blind date may be their parents, uncles, uncles, etc. When they come for blind date, of course, the man won't come home empty-handed, and usually brings some gifts such as tea and wine. On that day, about 20 people from the man's family and relatives will come to the woman's house to give gifts. Some of them are young people, who are in charge of some gifts for the woman. Two children walk in front, holding two red lanterns in their hands. Generally, they will stop at a place about1000 m away from the woman's house and then arrange the front and rear teams. Then they will stop for a while when they walk to the door of the woman's house, and invite them to come in and make room. Among these gifts, there are mainly betel nuts, quicklime and 100 betel nuts, which means that the future bride and groom can live to 100 years old. Because these three gifts will produce a sweet red perfume when eaten together, and red is the representative of love, so these three gifts are indispensable. There are also two candles, mung bean cake, wine, tea and so on. When you get to the woman's home, the gift is placed in front of her shrine. The family and relatives of the two families are on both sides, and the bride and groom stand in the middle. At this time, there will be two old people (usually men) in two families. Let's put those presents away and incense them. Next, the bride and groom will put rings on each other at the suggestion of a person standing next to them. During this ceremony, the woman will bring out some prepared meals to receive the man. At this time, the man can call his parents-in-law, and the woman can also call her mother-in-law and Gong * * * as parents. A few months after the engagement ceremony, the wedding was held on the date agreed by both parties. Before the wedding day, the man is responsible for choosing the auspicious date of the zodiac in advance, and then he goes to the woman's house to mention the wedding events to them. This time, they will give women some cash to buy some personal necessities and wedding expenses. In the period before the wedding, both families were in a hurry. They have to write and send invitations, plan what to cook and who will be in charge of the work that day. The wedding day is basically organized by the family, and the woman's wedding takes three days. On the first day, people were invited to the tent, which was beautifully decorated. Tables, stools, dishes and bowls needed should be put away and arranged. On that day, the chefs specially assisted in cooking, and the drum team was also indispensable, because they made great contributions to making the wedding more lively. The first night was very lively, and relatives and friends came to join in the fun, sing, chat and so on. The next day is the day to receive guests. In the morning, the bride and groom will stand in front of the altar to worship. Give whatever to the bride, and spend the rest of the time receiving guests. On this day, the bride and groom are in a hurry to receive guests all day. On the day of receiving guests, the woman's house is usually divided into three times, just like the man's house. 8-9 am, it's elderly relatives and neighbors. At this time, the bride will wear the traditional dress of the southern bride Aode. At noon11-kloc-0/2, she will be younger relatives and friends around 3-5 pm. People who come to the wedding should wear beautiful clothes and new clothes to show their respect for the bride and groom. Guests will give gifts and talk about money. Every time someone will come up to introduce, sing, take pictures, shoot and so on. The bride can wear a wedding dress and the bride can wear a suit. On the third morning, it was a ceremony for the man's family to welcome the bride. On that day, the bride must wear the traditional costumes and carols of the southern bride. If the man's family comes to marry the bride, if it is far away, take the bus and get close. About 25-30 men come to marry the bride, widows and pregnant women can't attend. This time, the gifts brought by the man's family are the same as the engagement ceremony, including betel nut, betel nut leaf and quicklime. When making gifts at the woman's house, her mother-in-law will give the bride a gold necklace or earrings, then the groom will put a ring on the bride, and finally the bride will go to the man's house accompanied by her family and relatives. When going out, the bride usually cries badly to show filial piety and is unwilling to leave. In the man's house, the bride and groom walk in through the gate, and then they have to make a ceremony at the altar, and then the man's house will set a meal to receive the woman's people. On this day, the man's family will treat the guests like the woman's family. The bride and groom will be busy receiving the guests for the new day again. The guests in the afternoon will be friends of the groom, singing, drinking and blessing together, ending at 5-6 pm. Vietnamese weddings have retained more exquisite etiquette so far. Some families, if there is no small yard in front of the house to set up a tent, or want to make it simple, hold a wedding in hotels, restaurants and other places, and all relatives and friends of the man's family will celebrate together, but some things, such as the bride and groom wearing rings and the gifts given to the bride by her mother-in-law, are still indispensable. In the past, according to Vietnamese customs, the bride and groom could only wear black hats and headscarves on the same day to cross the southern countries, but now they can wear them more freely. The bride can wear a wedding dress, black hat or skirt, and the groom can wear a suit. In modern life, the bride and groom will take wedding photos in some beautiful places outside in advance to show their commemoration.