In love and marriage, understanding the roles of both parties is the foundation of love. The process of love is also necessary for mutual understanding and support to upgrade to life. If he (she) is not around you, you seem to have lost your soul. People who feel this way can be said to be interdependent. With more support, we should understand and support each other. In the process of love, you can't go your own way. Both sides need to put themselves in the other's shoes and think about whether their actions are appropriate or not. At the same time, you should stand in the other person's position and consider whether it is correct to do so yourself.
In life, we often find such a phenomenon: men like to monopolize the TV remote control and keep changing channels, while women don't mind which channel to watch. Under pressure, men drink and do stupid things, while women eat or shop. Women criticize men for being insensitive, inconsiderate, taciturn and rarely expressing their love, while men criticize women for being unreasonable and full of nonsense ... Men think men are the most rational and women think women are the most rational. It can be seen that men and women have different concerns about life and different ways of thinking, so disputes are inevitable. At this time, we should calm down and think from each other's point of view. Maybe many things that you find incredible will become reasonable, at least try to accept them.
If you are tolerant and understanding of others, you will be more tolerant of your family, so I say that the most complicated human relationship is marriage, and you need to learn to put yourself in the other's shoes in interpersonal communication. In real life, most people always want to be respected, supported and understood by others. Couples, friends and colleagues should know how to put themselves in others' shoes. Views are often an important reason for conflicts between lovers. After the contradiction arises, if we always hold our own opinions and do not give in to each other, the relationship between the two sides will break down. Therefore, men and women who are in love now do not accommodate each other when they encounter problems, which should also be the reason why it is easy to break up.
Therefore, in communication, people need to be honest with each other and know how to put themselves in others' shoes. Only by constantly putting yourself in others' shoes can you respect each other, and only by constantly putting yourself in others' shoes can you gain more respect. If you can put yourself in the other person's shoes, even if there is more anger and resentment in your heart, it will eliminate a lot. Because when we are conscious, we often realize our own problems and understand others, then people will become more and more harmonious, and so will the happiness of marriage. In the process of running-in, everyone's interests, ambitions, values and living habits are more and more consistent, and they will become more and more harmonious. If you can put yourself in your shoes and face all the changes in your life with a normal heart, you will get unexpected gains. In fact, as long as we are open-minded and open-minded, we will feel that the sky is vast, people will naturally be cheerful and optimistic, and lovers will get along more harmoniously.
What do you need in love and marriage? You need to think from the other person's point of view, then turn your thoughts into actions and pay more for the other person you love. I think the more you give, the more you get. We try to put ourselves in each other's shoes from another angle, that is, think of what others think and understand first. Understanding is indispensable between people. Understanding is an aspect of understanding and a kind of tolerance. We are all misunderstood sometimes, and if we worry about it, there will be an inextricable knot in our hearts; If we can go deep into each other's inner world, maybe we can reach an understanding. Generally speaking, it is understandable as long as it does not involve issues of principle. Understanding is a kind of love, consideration, tolerance and understanding.
Empathy seems to be a simple truth, but it is difficult to do in real life. Many people feel that others always don't know themselves, don't understand themselves, but rarely think comprehensively or really understand their lover. Men and women think differently. Men cannot understand or make mistakes in the troubles of many women. In fact, nobody is wrong. What is lacking is understanding and understanding. If you can put yourself in the other person's shoes, you can really understand your lover.
Women are inherently fragile and insecure, and often your casual actions can make her sad and desperate, so you should be polite when dealing with girls, but you should also keep a certain distance. Men should think more about girls sometimes. When she is angry, when she is willful, when she deliberately ignores you, don't act like a big man. Men are under great pressure, with overwhelming competition and considering the future, so men tend to focus on their work and sometimes ignore women, but please understand him as a woman, because he is fighting for your future and wants to have a future with you, so he is so desperate. In love and marriage, sometimes it's as simple as that. You have to think about your other one. Now what do you want to ask others to do? Why not ask yourself to do it? Turn your demands into giving actions.
Be the defender of love or marriage with a grateful heart.