First of all, open your heart and be honest with each other
When people get to know each other, it is important to know each other. How do you know each other? Honesty is the key to each other's hearts.
Feng has been in some trouble recently. His mother was hospitalized with an acute illness and needed surgery. A Feng scraped together the money in hand and found that there was still 2000 yuan short. Although he doesn't have much money, he is worried about Feng. When his friend Xiao Zhao saw him moping all day, he knew he must be in trouble. However, no matter what he asked, A Feng said no problem. Finally, under Xiao Zhao's repeated questioning, he reluctantly confessed the truth. Without saying anything, he took out two thousand yuan and gave it to Feng, which only solved his urgent need.
As the saying goes, "Go out with friends". Friends are the bright lights on the road of life, helping you light up the ditches and ridges in the road ahead. Sometimes a word from a friend can change your destiny, and a helping hand at a critical moment can save your life. A Feng met with financial difficulties, but because of his face, he didn't want to tell his friends frankly, so he had to endure the pain himself. Fortunately, he met such a considerate friend as Xiao Zhao, so that he could open his heart and resolve the pain and crisis. In this world, no one will always be smooth sailing, and the real road to life is bumpy. Everyone should learn to bear pain and pressure, and also learn to release pain and pressure. It is undoubtedly a good way to talk to friends. Honest conversation between friends is better than all the medicines for heart disease in the world. More importantly, the frankness between friends can also give the troubled party a "timely help" and resolve the crisis. People who have friends are the happiest people in the world.
In modern society, the pace of life is changing with each passing day, material desires are rising, and people are gradually indifferent, with more cooperation and less friendship. Busy work and convenient life make modern urbanites lack the intimacy and friendship between people in the farming era. The survival law of survival of the fittest has given great pressure to modern people, so everyone has become a commodity with a clearly marked price and a machine made for making money. The management principle that input equals output tells everyone that input must be rewarded, otherwise it is failure. This kind of utilitarian consciousness makes many people a little eager for quick success and quick success, and a little impetuous. Ignoring the emotional input, the relationship between people has essentially alienated into a mechanical relationship of combining interests. I hope others will pay, but I am stingy with my own. In this case, being honest with each other becomes an extravagant hope.
The pressure of reality always makes people feel insecure, and only by getting together can they feel good. As a result, nightclubs have mushroomed and parties have become popular. Some people are immersed in it and enjoy it. They pass the time in short laughter to relieve stress and depression. However, just like drifting in the sea, they can't catch the lifebuoy left by the boat of the mind. The boulder pressing on their hearts can never be pushed away by those superficial happiness.
Li Wei is an employee of an Internet company. He is very busy at work every day, and it is common to work overtime and stay up late. He was exhausted by it. Because of the narrow contact range and no friends after work, a person feels depressed, so he goes to a bar to find some strangers to drink and chat to kill time. However, those who drink are still strangers after all. Although they enjoy drinking and chatting every time, they always keep their distance and the possibility of becoming bosom friends is almost zero. Because the distance between heart and soul can't be eliminated, Li Wei's anguish in his heart can't be confided to others. Over time, his pressure is getting bigger and bigger, and his body and mind feel that he can't support it. Finally, he had to see a psychiatrist.
Spiritual barriers make people who seem to be trying to keep close contact with others far apart. They have many friends on the surface, but they are extremely lonely inside. Looking at the popularity of BBS blogs on the Internet, we can infer people's inner desires. Eager to be understood, listened to and paid attention to. Many striking events emerge one after another. Sister Furong, Sister Feng and Xiaoyue Yue were all born on the Internet, which makes people happy and worried. However, the more so, the more you can expose people's inner weaknesses.
If people's sense of emptiness and loneliness goes hand in hand, then insecurity, anxiety and guilt will follow. Therefore, the only way to get rid of loneliness and get happiness is to "have fun", get pleasure from dazzling goods, and get satisfaction from thrilling games, messy alcohol and tobacco, delicious food, crowds and movies. In the eyes of modern people, the world seems to be a huge cupboard filled with things they use to satisfy their desires. However, no matter how to fill in, their desires are bottomless, and the cabinets are infinitely enlarged. The items inside tempt people to indulge their bodies and consume constantly. However, everything is a cloud, and finally it is empty.
Second, the issue of being honest with each other.
Being honest with each other is a way for modern people to get along with each other and escape. The prevalence of online chatting fully shows the desire of modern people to open their hearts and talk to each other. However, the cruelty of reality and the objective existence of various interpersonal concerns caused by the competition of interests between people make people dare not easily release their emotions, confide their feelings and show their softest parts to others, even in the face of their best friends. In the virtual space, a specific person is hidden and replaced by a code name. Just like wearing a mask, everyone in the network doesn't have to worry about their identity exposure. Real worries are easily eliminated by the internet, so people dare to show their true selves, communicate freely with others, enjoy themselves and experience the happiness gained by honesty and care.
Xiao Li likes surfing the Internet. He spends all his time surfing the Internet except work every day. In reality, he doesn't have a friend, but in the virtual space of the network, he is a popular forum with many followers, including many friends who can talk to him. These online friends are all unknown friends. In reality, they are strangers, but in the network, they are intimate friends who talk about everything. Xiao Li said that because of these online friends, his life is rich and colorful, and he is also in trouble. He turned on the computer and said it would be solved online. Talking about the shortage of friends in reality, he said that friends in reality can't be honest with each other because they really exist around them. In contrast, communicating with friends online is more reliable and more casual.
It is not easy to be honest with each other. Being honest and outspoken really requires a spirit of self-sacrifice. In real life, many people are complacent and think they are great because of a compliment from others. But when they heard the objective evaluation, they frowned and stamped their feet, wishing to put chicken feathers in their ears and turned a deaf ear to the heartfelt words of the evaluator. A friend's kindness is dismissive and even misunderstood as ulterior motives. This misunderstanding will also destroy friendship to a certain extent and completely break the original close friendship. But sometimes, the honesty of friends will be the chief culprit of revealing privacy, and the honest party will suffer irreparable losses. Honesty can sometimes do bad things with good intentions, and it is unfair and sometimes dangerous to be honest easily in front of friends. Many people can't be honest with each other, not refuse, but be timid.
Ada has had a crush on her boss for a long time. Although the boss is unmarried, it is a secret that cannot be told because of the special relationship and the ignorance of the parties. Ada was under a lot of pressure and was at a loss, but she could only grit her teeth and wait for the right time to express herself. Xiao Bai, her colleague and good friend, found that she was always absent-minded for no reason recently, because she paid attention to several inquiries without results. One day, Xiaobai went to stay at Liu Yan's house and stumbled upon her diary. Originally, she wouldn't read her friend's diary, but because of Ada's abnormal behavior before, Xiaobai opened the diary and read it carefully from beginning to end. Naturally, she discovered this secret that can be the number one news of the company. Xiao Bai used the diary as evidence to accuse Ada of being not frank enough. Ada had to explain it in detail and told Xiaobai not to leak it. However, it wasn't long before Ada's company rumored that she had a crush on her boss. Ada asked Xiao Bai about the situation. Xiao Bai felt very guilty, but still argued that he didn't keep a secret because one day his company colleagues had a few more drinks at the party and then let it slip.
Third, being honest with each other is an attitude towards life.
It is really too difficult for people who live in a competitive society where fame and fortune are generally sought after. Although "a word or two of honesty is better than a ton of cleverness", many people are still willing to hide in the corner with their selfishness and covet fame and fortune. So in reality, such a person was born. Their eyes are like monitors, constantly taking care of others in sight. If others are better than themselves, they will be angry, cynical and will not associate with them. If others are not as good as themselves, they will gloat, laugh at sarcasm and even disdain to associate with them. Such people will never be honest with their friends, and of course they will never get honest friends. An important meaning of honesty is the beauty of adults. We should treat people fairly, take pleasure in friends' happiness and suffer from friends' pain. Similarly, people who have such feelings are bound to get selfless returns from their friends. After all, people are still talking about a love word. People who have a frank heart will win the respect and trust of others, which is a powerful guarantee for success. The power of honesty is sometimes beyond your imagination.
Recently, Meng always goes out early and comes back late. His parents asked him, and he said that the company had many orders and needed to work overtime. In fact, he takes care of an old man in a nursing home after work every day. The old man can't move easily. Although he was taken care of by a nurse, he still felt depressed and lonely. But when he came, he was happy. The young man is sincere, enthusiastic and sincere. After chatting with him for an hour or two, the old man felt energetic all day. Meng Ke has been a volunteer for a year. This old man is an old friend of mine. He is willing to talk to the old man about some troubles in life, work and love. The old man gave him some advice from his own experience. This year, the spirit of the elderly is getting better and better, and their work, life and love are all smooth sailing. The former teenagers have matured a lot now.
When a person loses his integrity, he loses his humanity, loses his integrity, and loses his light. With frankness, we have real humanity, and with frankness, talents deserve to be the soul of all things. Honesty shows high self-esteem and inner sense of security and dignity. Being honest with others benefits not only others, but also personal charm. Treat others with sincerity, and the other person will be infected by your sincerity, adding points to your character, and that unbreakable friendship will be possible; Be honest with others, your friends can be your best friends for life, and your friendship tree can last forever; Be honest with others, and you will meet not only friends, but also bosom friends you will never find in your life. Be honest with others, and you will find that there are more people around you, and your heart is no longer lonely, and the big stone on your heart doesn't know where it is; Be honest with others, and you will find that the gloomy mood has disappeared. When you look up, you will see the blue sky and cloudless Wan Li.
Fourth, honesty makes friendship last longer.
It is easy for friends to misunderstand each other. The reason is that friendship is a close relationship and is related to each other. When we meet things that both sides care about, it is inevitable that we will not stumble, and misunderstandings are common. There is nothing terrible about misunderstanding. As long as the two sides treat each other honestly and keep secrets from each other, any misunderstanding can be solved. I'm afraid many people are unwilling to be honest with each other because of various concerns, but the other side's attitude is firm, which further escalates the misunderstanding and finally ends up with scarred friends and friendship, which makes people sigh. In fact, there is nothing to worry about between real friends. When there is a misunderstanding, the two sides sit down and talk, solve it calmly and take it seriously. I believe there is no misunderstanding that cannot be erased.
Merry and Zhao Yan grew up together. They are as good as sisters. They go to school together and go home together. From elementary school to high school, they were inseparable. Recently, however, Meili was very upset, because Zhao Yan had a problem, and people suddenly became very stingy, and their previous generosity was gone. For example, when eating together, Zhao Yan used to grab the bill. Now when it's time to check out, she will find an excuse to slip away, or keep silent and watch Merry pay the bill. But when they went shopping together, Zhao Yan changed her simple style and was willing to spend money on some expensive and beautiful clothes and accessories. This makes Meryl feel very bad. Merry thought: Zhao Yan is her good friend. She usually spends money regardless of each other, so it doesn't hurt to bear more burdens by herself. But in order to save her own money to buy expensive clothes, she took advantage of her friends, a little disregarding friendship.
When misunderstanding comes, the two sides who can't be honest with each other will have two kinds of psychology. One is to regard the friendship between friends as invincible, and think that since they are good friends, they should not care about trivial matters, misunderstandings should not occur at all, and explanations are redundant; The other is to consider the problem from the standpoint of human nature, thinking that the misunderstanding of friends actually cares about their own performance. Since there is a misunderstanding, we should take it seriously, understand each other's ideas, find the root of the problem, and actively resolve it with a frank heart so that friendship will not be implicated in the slightest.
Two different attitudes towards misunderstanding determine the different development of friendship. The former is negative, mistakenly thinking that friends should trust each other absolutely, taking the word should seriously and ignoring each other's feelings. In fact, in this world, sometimes we don't even know ourselves, let alone others? Silence in front of friends, blindly asking others to understand themselves, is actually a selfish performance, which is not only not conducive to eliminating misunderstandings, but also hurts friendship, makes things worse and worse, and eventually leads to the end of friendship, and even friends turn against each other. However, if you are honest with your friends, face misunderstandings, handle misunderstandings between friends with an optimistic attitude, explain your thoughts frankly to each other, and discuss the shortcomings honestly with each other in order to get their understanding. This kind of treatment can not only solve the misunderstanding smoothly, but also enhance the understanding between friends, and further strengthen the trust of both sides by opening their hearts to each other.
Merry and Zhao Yan have always been close. Zhao Yan's sudden change must have her reasons. It is essential to find out what happened. In this case, Meili needs to restrain her emotions, communicate with Zhao Yan actively, and express her thoughts frankly, and Zhao Yan should also be proactive, without any worries, and honestly explain to Meili the reasons for her change, so as to obtain Meili's understanding. We should know that the maintenance and promotion of friendship is not a natural process, but the result of the efforts of both friends.
Honesty is the external expression of a beautiful mind. Don't always complain about the hypocrisy of the world and the indifference of human nature. If you are willing to open your heart generously to others, the spring breeze of friendship will always make you lose face. Hypocrisy and indifference are not the products of nature, but the result that people close themselves and prefer to sleep in a private corner without paying more attention to others, being more frank and sincere. In fact, the world is full of beautiful flowers of friendship. As long as you are willing to honestly clear the snow from your heart, those fragrant flowers will appear in front of your eyes.