First of all, middle school students spend most of their time in school. How do they communicate with their teachers?
Middle school students no longer regard teachers as the supreme authority like primary school students. They have a new understanding of teachers, higher requirements, and a clearer understanding of what kind of teachers they like, which teachers they have a harmonious relationship with, which courses they like, and which grades they like. If you have a bad relationship with any teacher, you will also hurt that course. How to get along with teachers directly affects learning and campus life.
(1), respect teachers, respect teachers' labor. Teachers teach students all the knowledge selflessly and unreservedly, hoping to see students become mature and climb higher and higher on the peak of knowledge. Students should respect their teachers and greet them politely when they meet them. Listen carefully in class, speak actively and finish your homework on time. How can a teacher not like you? If you want others to respect yourself, you must first respect others. If you talk to a person and he ignores you, will you like this person? Respecting teachers and their work is the basic premise of getting along with teachers.
(2) Diligent and eager to learn. Some students say "this teacher is not so good" and "that teacher's level is too low" ... these views are naive. Judging from age, knowledge and experience, the level of teachers in a class is definitely higher than that of students. Every teacher likes students who are willing to think. Asking questions is often the first step in communication between teachers and students. Being diligent in asking questions is not only directly beneficial to learning, but also can strengthen and deepen communication with teachers, thus invisibly shortening the distance between teachers and students. Under normal circumstances, teachers don't have much time to communicate directly with students, and often ask teachers about learning problems, which will deepen the understanding and feelings between teachers and students.
(3) Treat the teacher's fault correctly and make suggestions to the teacher euphemistically. People who have no shortcomings do not exist. The teacher is not perfect either. His point of view may be incorrect, or he may have misunderstood a classmate. Even some teachers are too arrogant and strict, which is possible. Find the teacher's shortcomings with an understanding attitude, and give advice to the teacher at an appropriate time with a euphemistic tone. If the teacher is wrong about you and confronts the teacher face to face, it will not only help solve the problem, but also worsen the relationship between teachers and students. Hold on for a while until everyone calms down. In any case, teachers are elders, and students should put teachers in the position of elders and take care of teachers' self-esteem and face.
(4) Dare to admit mistakes and correct them in time. I don't know that I am wrong and I am criticized, but I will never admit my mistake; Don't be particularly afraid of that teacher after being criticized once, fearing that he is biased against himself. This is unnecessary. Wrong is wrong. Take the initiative to admit to the teacher and correct it in time, and the teacher will like it. The teacher will not be prejudiced against a student just because he has broken the discipline once, saying that he is a bad student. We should believe that teachers will evaluate students comprehensively and objectively. A harmonious relationship with teachers can not only promote learning, but also learn a lot about being a man, which will benefit you for life.
Second, home is the cradle of your growth. How to deal with the relationship with parents?
Many middle school students find it difficult to communicate with their parents. They would rather chat with their friends than their parents. Because of their age, they are prone to disagree with their parents in values, ways of making friends, living habits, clothes, etc., thus creating a "generation gap." The existence of the generation gap is objective, but it is not helpless. If allowed to expand, it will deepen the contradiction between the two generations and bring some adverse effects to family life and even study. As a middle school student, how should we try to close the distance between the two generations and keep the family atmosphere warm?
(1) Be gentle with your parents. Even if you can't accept the point of view, don't contradict it and don't get angry. You can listen humbly first. Even if it is unacceptable, there is nothing wrong with listening to it, at least it can give parents some comfort.
(2) Do your own thing, reassure your parents, help them with housework, and stop reaching for clothes to eat. Try to care about your parents and make them feel that "our children have grown up", and naturally they will not interfere with your actions too much.
(3) Maintain your independence. Don't neglect communication with your parents. Talk to your parents about your troubles and your ideals. I believe my parents will also talk to you sincerely, from which you can get a lot of useful enlightenment. Don't think that talking to your parents means "not growing up". Being good at communicating with your parents is a sign that you are becoming more mature and independent. In communication, maybe parents will be influenced by you and accept some new things recognized by young people.
Third, how do middle school students communicate with students of the opposite sex?
With the growth of age, middle school students can already feel the emotional impact brought by the attraction of the opposite sex, such as shyness, anxiety, confusion, vigilance, and even infatuation, which leads to certain pursuit behavior, and then falls into the whirlpool of puppy love, which seriously affects learning. So, what should we pay attention to when interacting with students of the opposite sex?
(1) Natural communication. In the process of communicating with students of the opposite sex, words, expressions and behaviors should be revealed naturally, without avoidance or exaggeration; Neither blindly impulsive nor artificial. Eliminating the unnatural feeling in heterosexual communication is the premise of establishing normal heterosexual relations. The best premise of the natural principle is to treat students of the opposite sex like students of the same sex. The relationship between classmates should not be uncomfortable or unnatural because of gender factors.
(2) Moderate communication. How to achieve moderation? That is: don't be frightened by the premature love with the opposite sex, and don't be afraid of avoiding or rejecting the opposite sex to cause mental harm to both sides. As long as you can be natural and moderate, you don't have to worry too much.
(3) Truth and honesty. Mainly refers to the attitude towards students of the opposite sex, to make real friends like same-sex students.
(4) Pay attention to leave room in the process of communicating with students of the opposite sex. You can't be reckless in communication, for example, you should avoid some sensitive topics between the sexes in conversation, be measured in physical contact in communication, especially when you are in long-term communication with a classmate of the opposite sex, and pay more attention to grasping the scale of the relationship between the two sides.
In a word, dealing with the relationship with teachers, parents and students of the opposite sex is the guarantee of learning and healthy growth. I hope everyone will actively enrich and beautify their lives in their study life and be a healthy, optimistic and civilized person.