Today's society is becoming increasingly complex. There are sometimes dark clouds in the blue sky overhead; The land under your feet is not all smooth roads. Things that make people worry, worry or even unbearable often follow. This requires a person to have a mind, tolerance and self-restraint. Be lenient with others and be strict with yourself. Don't care about the gains and losses of a sentence. Take care of the overall situation and build harmony through your own mind, generosity and self-restraint.

The Chinese nation is a nation that stresses mind and self-restraint, which is the traditional culture and national characteristics of China's 5,000-year history of civilization. In the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a story about making friends with Bao. Guan Zhong and Bao are good friends. They do business together and join the army to fight together. When doing business in partnership, Bao has more capital than Guan, but after making money, Guan gets an extra share. When others refused to accept it, Bao defended Guan, saying that his family was poor and he deserved an extra share. Guan Zhong often hides behind when fighting, and runs fastest when retreating. When others were dissatisfied, Bao still defended him, saying that his family had an old mother out of filial piety. Bao's mind touched Guan Zhong. Later, the two became friends in need and worked together to achieve their career.

Mind is a kind of magnanimity. As the saying goes, "a prime minister can hold a boat in his stomach" means allowing others to object, no matter what their attitude. "Historical Records" once said: After returning to Zhao in perfect condition, due to Lin Xiangru's merits, Zhao named him Shangqing, located on the right of Lian Po. Lian Po, the old general, was very dissatisfied when he saw that Lin Xiangru "lived on me for your breath". Declare: "I am ashamed to see each other." Lin Xiangru believes: "The two tigers fight against each other, which is far from the same." . He endured everywhere, showed an open mind, and left a legendary story of "peace will eventually be realized" in history.

Mind is a kind of cultivation. I'm good at extricating myself when things are not going well, that is, I'm not in a hurry and take my time. It is a respectable cultivation to be able to bear and let go, regardless of temporary gains and losses. In the Qing Dynasty, there was a man named Zhang Ying in Tongcheng, Anhui Province, who was a university student in the official cultural center and had a history of rites. His father was Zhang, a minister of the Qing Dynasty, and was deeply trusted by Emperor Heganlong. Zhang Ying's hometown is adjacent to a Wu surname in Tongcheng. There is a clearing next to the house where the Wu family lives. It is rude for the Wu family to cross the border. When the family is tall, they can sit back and relax and be humiliated. I wrote a book in Kyoto. After reading the letter, Zhang Ying wrote a poem and sent it home: "A paper book is only for the wall, why not for three feet?" The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, but there is no Qin Shihuang. "4 poems to persuade, modest tone, open-minded from the page. The Wu family was moved and admired, and gave up three feet of land and became a six-foot lane. The year before last, when we went to Hefei, Anhui Province to attend the pen meeting of China Railway Literature and Art magazine, we specially went to Liuchi Lane. This alley, which is only 6 feet wide and 100 meters long, has been preserved to this day and has become a tourist hotspot. It can be seen that people admire open-minded and sensible people and will never forget them. In the face of small things, the lessons of short-sightedness, narrow-mindedness, mutual intransigence and mutual loss are common in history and real life.

It is not without principles to be generous, generous and self-disciplined. The mind is a gesture, a realm. Among comrades, friends, relatives and compatriots, we should adopt a tolerant and understanding attitude towards those who disagree, especially those who hurt themselves. Open-minded people have broad understanding and humility. At the beginning of last century, Liang Qichao and Chen Yinque were both mentors of Tsinghua University Research Institute. Liang's fame, qualifications and age are higher than Chen's. But Chen Tongliang and Chen Tongliang are very different academically. With his sharp academic edge and lofty temperament, Chen Yinque often mocked Liang Qichao in his poems. However, Liang Qichao laughed it off every time he saw it. Don't give in to the question of principle, and don't care about the question of non-principle. The relationship between the two is as always. This shows that if you forgive others' mistakes with an open mind, it is equivalent to leaving others an opportunity to correct them, which is conducive to the benign interaction between the two sides in various occasions in the future. Of course, the mind is principled and the mind is limited. Too much is a kind of connivance, and it is essential to fight to the limit.

In interpersonal relationships, it is easier said than done to treat people with an open mind as a way of life or self-discipline. There are some hot-blooded young people in the society who want to be competitive. Even if you know that you should be open-minded, when things come out, it is easy to do things without brains and reason on a whim. As the saying goes: "endure a calm moment, take a step back and broaden the horizon." This "forbearance" and "retreat" are bosom, forbearance and self-restraint. This is a long and arduous process of tempering, character cultivation and edification.

Although the competition in today's society is fierce, people need mutual support to live and work. There are all kinds of people in society, and there are often unpleasant things. Therefore, only by tempering into an open-minded mind and cultivating good self-restraint can we adapt to this society and build a harmonious society.