Parents and children have a continuous blood relationship, and children are the continuation of parents' lives. Everyone will think of their children, which is human nature and understandable. Luo Yin, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, wrote two poems for his friends: "The national plan has a strong foundation, and the family wealth is not for future generations." He advocates being brave in national plans, but never seeking wealth for future generations.
Lin Zexu wrote a couplet: "Children and grandchildren are like me, what should I do with money?" Being virtuous and rich will damage his ambition. My children and grandchildren are not as good as me. What should I do with the money? Foolish and rich, the benefits increase. "It means that if future generations are as honest as I am, why did you leave him money? He's already smart. I left him money and property, but it hurt his will to struggle. Later generations are not as good as me. Leaving money for him will make him lazy and idle. The more money he left, the more he ran amok and made more and more mistakes.
Ancient sages can understand the great righteousness so deeply and treat their children with extraordinary mind. Don't we even understand this? To spoil children too much is not to love them, but to harm them.
There is a word difference between "love" and "doting". In fact, the difference between the two is that loving in a rational way is true love, while loving completely with emotion is doting. If you love rationally, you should know how to realize your love correctly. If you just love with feelings, you can only get lost in doting.
A young mother thinks that Americans are really unfriendly. Look at Beijingers in new york. Where did Aunt put Wang Qiming and them? Broken basement! It's dirty and messy there. Where does the man live? And look at aunt's virtue. She threw Wang Qiming and them a few hundred dollars, saying it was borrowed. Then who did it? When others come to America from a long distance, you should first ask your niece and nephew to find a good restaurant and have a good meal. What a bore!
The young mother immediately hugged her teenage child and said softly, "Good boy, mom won't do this. How can you treat your children like this? Mom wants you to study hard, and you must be admitted to a famous university in the future, so that your grandparents, grandparents and parents will have luster on their faces! " Baby, mom won't let you do anything. You just need to read a good book. If you have no money to spend, just say that your mother will meet your requirements no matter how hard and tired she is, because she loves you. ...
At the moment, I pay close attention to the picture in front of me: a red-faced teenager and a young but elderly mother who have finished a sacred speech in the history of modern family education in China. I believe this mother represents the existing ideas and behaviors of most parents in China today. At the same time, in that mother's sacred and proud eyes, I saw a deep-rooted educational concept almost entered China like a plague.