Starting from the same starting line, the gap gradually widened in middle age.
Some people preempt others and have a successful career; Others walk slowly and fall behind others.
But as Lin Yutang said:
Middle age is not the end, but the midpoint. A good life also needs to be cooked slowly in time to have a taste.
No one will have unlimited scenery all the way, and no one will always be frustrated.
As long as you can "survive", the worst result is only a late bloomer.
Renew cognition and "tolerate" wide boundaries
The Zhouyi cloud:
What really opens the gap in life is not the amount of wealth, but the difference in cognition.
If you have been complacent and willful, then you can only stand still;
If you constantly reflect on yourself and correct your cognition, you will see more possibilities.
In the Tang Dynasty, Weichi Gong was arrogant because he saved Li Shimin many times.
He thought that Li Shimin's accession to the throne would be completed for his senior officials, but as a result, he was not entrusted with an important task.
He ran to ask Li Shimin why he was treated like this, and Li Shimin replied:
Weichi Gong woke up after hearing this. As a courtier, he should not be arrogant and conceited.
Since then, he seems to be a different person, fighting bravely on the battlefield, doing his best in court and restraining his behavior in life.
At the age of 60, he went out to command again, defeated Koguryo in one fell swoop, and made great achievements.
Later, Li Shimin read his merits and hung his portrait in Lingyange, becoming one of the famous "Twenty-four Outstanding Lingyange".
Schopenhauer said:
People with low cognition are like watching the world at the foot of the mountain, but they can't see the rocks and flowers as far as possible, so they are inevitably arrogant.
People with high cognition watch the world of mortals at the top of the mountain, once at the top, then at a distance, so there are hundreds of rivers in their chests.
Many people are easily locked by their own inherent cognition, trapped in their own cocoons, and hold back.
Breaking through cognitive limitations and thinking inertia is the best way to achieve personal leap and enhance their own dimensions.
Thinking determines the pattern, and the pattern determines the outcome.
Only by constantly renewing self-awareness and broadening horizons can we "tolerate" the boundaries of life.
Accumulate experience and "boil" out abundant capital.
It takes 30 days for the lotus to bloom in the pond, but the flowering time in the pond is not 15 days, but the 29th day.
This is the famous "Lotus Law".
Lotus needs to accumulate strength to fill the pond; If people want to make a blockbuster, they need self-precipitation in the early stage.
You see, many people's lives are like plug-ins, which are accumulated after obscurity.
Shi Yue, the author of Those Things in the Ming Dynasty, was just an unknown civil servant before his works became popular.
Many people envy him for being famous and simple, and making money easily, but they don't know that this is behind his accumulation for more than ten years.
At school, other students play games and fall in love, but he gives all his spare time to literature and history.
After work, other colleagues chat and play mahjong, but he spends his off-duty time writing in front of the computer.
Shi Yue once said:
The winner who laughs last often gets through it.
"Caigen Tan" said: "Those who stay long will fly high. The first person to open, thank you separately. "
Some people are young and wise, while others are late bloomers.
Everyone has a different starting point, but it is often the accumulation and precipitation in the future that determines the thickness of life.
No matter how high the starting point is, if there is no continuous accumulation in the later period, you will only lose your talent and lose everyone.
No matter how low the starting point is, if you can keep precipitating yourself, you will definitely do your best one day.
Only by accumulating experience and wealth can we "tolerate" future capital.
Keep working hard and "endure" from me.
I often hear middle-aged people around me complain that life is boring, regret that they didn't work hard when they were young, and then continue to regret and live the rest of their lives blankly.
When you reach middle age, your life is already halfway through. Instead of being confined to the dullness of the past, it is better to try bravely and realize the gorgeous turn of life.
Xue Qikun, president of Tsinghua University, summed up his personal scientific research experience in four sentences:
The first postgraduate entrance examination, with a high score of 39 points, was rejected by Harbin Institute of Technology. The second entrance examination for physics scored 39 points, which was rejected by the Chinese Academy of Sciences.
Many people advised him not to be stubborn, but he just wouldn't listen. I studied hard while teaching, and finally I was admitted to the Physics Department of Chinese Academy of Sciences for the third time.
People have only been studying for a doctor for five years; He studied for a doctor, but he studied for seven years.
Many people think he is too stupid, so they ignore him. Committed to research, he was finally selected as a Sino-foreign joint doctoral student.
In foreign countries, because he doesn't know foreign languages, his research and study are greatly hindered.
Many students gave up, but he persisted.
Published papers in top academic journals, and finally got the approval of the tutor and got a doctorate.
Behind the road of Professor Xue Qikun's scientific research is the attempt and persistence of repeated battles and repeated defeats.
Tolstoy said:
In everyone's mind, there are always things that they want to do but have been unable to act.
Someone said, "Forget it, it's all old. What are you tossing about?"
Someone said, "Great. At this age, I still have a chance to start again. "
The former is the audience under the stage, admiring the glory of the stage; The latter is an actor on the stage and shines brilliantly on the stage.
Don't be afraid to go the wrong way. It is important to take the first step and stick to every step.
Stay where you are, you can only hold a pool of stagnant water; Take a step forward and walk out of the light.
Dare to try, don't give up, in order to "endure" the true self.
Control the rhythm and "endure" difficulties.
Living in this fast-paced society, people are inevitably impetuous.
Seeing that everyone around you is getting ahead, but you have accomplished nothing, it is inevitable that you will become eager for quick success and instant benefit.
But as the saying goes, "people are impetuous, and those who are quiet are comfortable."
Don't be disturbed by the rhythm of others. Some people slow down after getting sick, while others slow down before getting sick.
It is better to wait for your own rhythm to blossom than to catch up with others.
Once upon a time, there were three very powerful Japanese figures: Nobunaga, Toyotomi Hideyoshi and Tokugawa Ieyasu.
In terms of strength and status, Oda and Toyotomi are much bigger than Tokugawa shogunate, but Tokugawa Ieyasu has the last laugh.
About them, there is a very famous "cuckoo story":
Someone raised a beautiful cuckoo, but he didn't bark, so he asked three adults what to do.
Nobunaga Oda said, "If the cuckoo doesn't crow, make it crow."
Toyotomi Hideyoshi said, "If the cuckoo doesn't crow, persuade it to crow."
Tokugawa Ieyasu said, "If the cuckoo doesn't crow, just wait for it to crow."
Three answers reveal three different attitudes towards life.
The first two people used threats and inducements, both of them were eager for success, which disrupted the original rhythm of things.
Tokugawa, on the other hand, kept his pace by waiting, taking his time, and finally became the ultimate winner.
Wang Yangming said:
When people reach middle age, chickens fly and dogs jump. But the busier life is, the more we should take our time.
As Mu Xin said, "If you walk alone, you won't overflow."
Calm down, just hold your horses, use your own pace and your own way to find the final destination of life.
Only by controlling the rhythm and making steady progress can we "survive" the immediate difficulties.
Take the initiative to attack, "endure" to win life.
Zeng Guofan once said:
Doing one thing depends on knowledge and talent; But to do one thing, opportunity is indispensable.
The weak miss the opportunity, the strong seize it, and the wise take the initiative to create it.
In the Tang Dynasty, there was a man named Ma Zhou, whose family was poor and his parents died.
When he was in his twenties, Ma Zhou quit his job as a teaching assistant in a rural school and left his hometown to make a living in Chang 'an.
But Chang 'an is expensive, and it is difficult for a person with no background and no money to stand on his feet.
Ma Zhou did not panic. He defected to Changhe, commander-in-chief of Xuanwu Gate, and silently took over the job of writing the memorial for Changhe.
Others write passbook is perfunctory, Ma Zhou is meticulous.
More than twenty letters were sealed by the throne, which finally attracted the attention of Emperor Taizong.
Emperor Taizong knew that Changhe, a military commander, could not have such an opinion. By asking others, he learned about Ma Zhou.
Later, Emperor Taizong summoned Ma Zhou and talked for several times. Ma Zhou seized the opportunity and was recognized by Emperor Taizong.
Since then, he has skyrocketed and finally became a prime minister, leaving his name in history.
When it's time to hide, keep quiet and keep a low profile; When it's time to show up, create opportunities and take the initiative.
This is how Ma Zhou succeeded.
I ching has a cloud:
A sharp-edged person can easily become the target of public criticism and let the opportunity be missed in vain;
People who are deeply silent are actually dormant in the dark, making plans and then acting.
People with great wisdom never show off their talents easily, but show their swords by surprise.
Only by creating opportunities and braving the wind and waves can we "endure" and win the best life.
A good life is made.
Dan Tianfang, a storyteller, condensed his 300,000-word autobiography into one word when reviewing his life: forbearance.
Life has its ups and downs, and life has its ups and downs.
No matter what age you are and what difficulties you face, the only solution is "forbearance".
Patience is a life attitude and wisdom.
If life is too bitter, you will make it sweet with diligence and sweat; Life is too light, and it takes accumulation and precipitation to produce a strong fragrance.
In the words "JingShiTongYan" said:
A late bloomer never fetters himself with age, but sits on a cold bench and waits quietly and slowly.
If there is no way, it will fall short and be eliminated for life; Hang in there, the future is boundless, Wan Li is in the sky.
* * * Encourage.