There is no doubt that every parent loves his children. Because of this love, we mainly do the following at home:
First, respect children and be their good friends. Whether teachers or parents want to educate their children well, they must first understand them; To understand children, we should communicate with them more, establish close relationships with them, and put down our airs to get along with them as equals. Because in our opinion, although the child is small, he is also an independent and complete individual, and he has his own way of thinking and emotional attitude. Therefore, in our family, children have the right to speak, participate and choose everything. We don't care about their own affairs, but fully listen to their opinions and give them the necessary guidance to make them feel that this is their own decision. Therefore, children's independent spirit and innovative spirit have been better developed. At the same time, because we respect children, children also like us, trust us and treat us as friends, and he can listen to us, and it is easy to have feelings with us, which plays a great role in my understanding and education of children! It is a very pleasant thing for children that their parents are willing to be their friends.
Second, pay attention to lead by example and be a good teacher for children. Because children like and worship their parents, their words and deeds are easily imitated by children, and their words and deeds have a subtle influence on children. So we pay special attention to the great influence of role models on children. Parents don't set a good example for their children, saying one thing and doing another, but their words and deeds are different. Sometimes they even ignore the existence of children, say things that are not conducive to the healthy growth of children, and do things that are not conducive to the healthy growth of children, so the impact on children is very unfavorable, and sometimes even hint or induce children to go in an undesirable direction. In this sense, a child is almost a copy of his father or mother, and his performance is often the performance of his father or mother. Because I like reading and studying, I don't want to waste my time at the poker table, so my children also like reading and studying; I never say a dirty word in my mouth, so the child's mouth is very clean and there is no vulgar performance; I respect the old and love the young, and so do children; I like thinking, and so do children. I am cheerful, and children love to talk and laugh. Therefore, the exemplary role of parents is very important.
Third, trust children and appreciate them realistically. I always insist that every child is a genius. Why? You can think about how receptive a child is, and he has completely learned to speak before he is two years old; Curiosity is also very strong, and everything will be broken to the end. Can adults do this? Therefore, we should appreciate children and don't compare our children with other children, because it is meaningless. To compare, it is only to compare the child's strengths with other children's weaknesses to enhance his self-confidence. It's not that you can't compare, the key is how to compare. I often compare my children with my childhood. I think he is a genius. She is much better than when I was a child. Our task is to let our children find the feeling of genius. When a person firmly believes that he is a genius, he really becomes a genius. In fact, every child is a genius, but for some reason, his potential is suppressed. Our parents should constantly release this repression through hints and convince their children that they are geniuses. Parents and teachers trust their children so much and encourage them, which will enhance their self-confidence and establish the belief that "since God has given talents, let them find jobs". Therefore, special attention should be paid to cultivating children's self-confidence, and parents and teachers should encourage children to establish a positive attitude and the concept that potential can be tapped.
Fourth, parents should pay more attention to their children's academic performance at ordinary times, so that they can feel the concern of adults for his study, and don't ignore it, so that he will get bored. In addition, parents and children should set a goal with clear rewards and punishments. To achieve this goal, parents should abide by the "contract" and give corresponding rewards. If they don't meet the standard, parents should not blame and beat their children, but should encourage and help them guide him to rebuild his confidence. Parents should teach their children to develop good reading habits such as "asking questions without shame", thinking independently and being good at analyzing difficult problems. Be flexible when teaching him to learn things, and don't memorize them. The learning method of "reading by rote" is not feasible, and it takes a lot of time, but the effect is average. Parents should teach their children more good methods.
Of course, there are many other aspects, for example, parents should educate their children to take more physical exercise, go to bed early and get up early, and have a good body; We should teach children some principles of being a man, be kind-hearted, love the world, do more good deeds, be polite to people, and teach them how to treat people; Usually give them something they can do at home, do their own things, and make a timetable for their children to develop good living habits.
In short, there are many ways to educate children, which requires us as parents to be caring, careful, careful and patient. I believe that as long as our parents can do this, coupled with the concern of the school and society, our children will certainly become useful talents for the country and society in the future.