Beibei chatted with me at night, and I teased her: "Quit so soon?" She just looked haggard: "Have you ever seen me flinch in the face of difficulties?"
Yes, Beibei is a strong girl with terrible willpower. She can stay in the study room all day, brush TOEFL efficiently, and don't have to look at the mobile phone next to her. She can listen to the boring lessons in class with relish. In the library, she learned a piece of software that took others half a year to master. We stayed up late to write the paper and got sleepy the next day. Only Beibei still gets up at six o'clock in the morning to jog, wash her hair, protect her skin and put on light makeup. Beibei insists on self-study every night, 365 days a year. When the whole school was flooded by heavy rain, she rolled up her trousers, wore slippers and took books to the library. In winter, the snow accumulated for half a meter, and her face turned red with cold, so she went to study for herself again. I see her full of vigor and vitality every day. She never feels any difficulty. In her words, nothing can't be accomplished, only those who don't work hard.
But such a girl, I never thought about it, even gave up one thing. I asked Beibei what happened, and she was very sad: "This kind of high-intensity exercise really doesn't suit me."
Beibei said that since she started to exercise and made a series of plans with her personal trainer in the gym, she has been meticulously completing it. Three nights a week, she stays in the gym, treadmill for half an hour, elliptical machine for half an hour, aerobics for one hour, and various strength training. Even if she doesn't go to the gym, she will run on the playground for more than an hour. In order to lose fat and gain muscle, she eats low-calorie and high-protein food. Beibei has low blood sugar and feels dizzy after exercise every day. The marathon, which was admired by everyone, also caused her meniscus to wear out. Finally, one day, after two days in bed after exercise, she had to give up.
After a few days of dressing, Beibei finally regained her vitality and her old-age exercise method. She is as slow as a snail on the playground every morning. Beibei said, "I thought I could do anything as long as I persisted. Now that I think about it, some things should be suitable for you rather than insisting. "
I don't know when, our circle of friends, Weibo and a series of social networking sites have been bombarded by all kinds of explosive articles. Our life is full of all kinds of "chicken soup articles" and "dry goods articles", especially a series of articles advocating women's lifestyle in the new era, such as "Girl, what should you do", "Girl, what must you do" and "What are good girls like", which have aroused all kinds of inexperienced girls. Thus, the definition of a good girl becomes: travel all over the world, study in thousands of books, exercise yourself strictly and diligently, keep slim, wish every hair to be carefully maintained, seriously resist aging, and keep a distance from those who waste their lives in small companies or institutions.
However, your definition of a good girl is only so single?
We all have to admit that times have changed and the requirements for women are very different from those in the past. In the past, the concept that "a woman without talent is virtue" and "a woman without knowledge should be kept in a boudoir" has fallen behind the times. Women in the new era have received a good education and seen a rich world, and their consciousness and thoughts are no longer limited to their families. Therefore, everyone began to advocate that girls should travel more, read more books, dress well, make up exquisitely and talk appropriately. If they meet an ignorant young woman in Wash Your Hands and Make Bride Soup, they just don't know how to ridicule her, as if they are wasting their lives if they don't pursue the permanence of their looks and the success of their careers. But, think about it. If you also hold this idea, what is the difference between it and those "old antiques" in ancient times who asked women to be obedient and virtuous, to take care of their husbands and educate their children, and to be gentle and virtuous?
In this world, you should never, you must, only you like, you are willing.
There are thousands of definitions of a good girl, and we really shouldn't kill everyone with a stick on the surface.
For example, Beibei, who pursues perfection, is eager to move when she sees someone drying the vest line of abdominal muscles in her circle of friends, and chooses a fitness that is not suitable for her. Originally, fitness is a way for some people to keep fit and keep their perfect figure. Some people can easily complete these difficult projects, but some people, such as Beibei, have strong willpower, but her body is the first to attack, and Beibei has always insisted on exercising in the slowest, stupidest and oldest way. Before, I was a rosy and healthy girl. I never caught a cold or suffered. Who can say that if you don't push your body to the limit, how can you see your potential? Yes, you may even go beyond the limit, not only seeing your potential, but also being covered by old injuries.
My high school best friend Dina has a vest line and a perfect body fat rate that Beibei envies. Since high school, she has been a member of our provincial track and field team and a national second-class athlete. Every time a sports meeting is held, she can excite many people. After she entered the university with her major, she didn't relax. She spends more than three hours in the gym every day and works as a part-time gym coach. Dina's figure is really the figure of those inspirational European and American fitness experts on the Internet, even more perfect. She doesn't even have an extra piece of fat. Just wearing rags is like walking in Paris. People who don't know her well regard her as a high goddess, and when they talk, they ruin their work. Dina has a big problem, which is that she doesn't like reading. Our school is a provincial key, and she is a professional. She trained every day for three years in high school, and she was not in the mood for class at all. I have always been at the bottom of the grade, and I don't read extracurricular books. We went out to play together, and when she saw the delicious food, her reaction was really: "I'll go, it's beautiful" and "I'll go, it's delicious". After going to college, Dina barely passed every course, and the fourth and sixth grades drifted by under the urging of her boyfriend. Coupled with the influence of popular inspiration in those years, Dina also decided to be a girl with a poetic attitude. She asked me to open the list of books, confidently went to the library to carry a pile of books back to the dormitory, and fell asleep without turning a few pages. She left me an angry message: "The book you opened is really boring." Then I went climbing the mountain.
Can you say that Beibei is better than Dina? Or is Dina a a good girl? Neither. I like them both to death. I like Beibei's hard work and sad face, and I like Dina's bright face with sweat. I like every girl around me, even if they are not perfect.
I majored in engineering at 2 1 1. All three roommates come from small towns or rural areas. They haven't read any extra-curricular books except professional books.
Roommate D, when she was a freshman, we were all busy joining clubs and expanding social activities. She wisely chose to quit. During her four years in college, she didn't know anyone except a few good friends in her class, and she chatted with everyone in her family every day. When we had fun during the holidays, she also went straight home to accompany her parents. I like her frankness every time she helps her parents who can't surf the Internet, and I also like her gentle smile when she mentions her little niece.
My roommate Q, whose parents work outside all the year round, is just her and her grandmother. She loves her grandmother very much, so she does all the farm work every year. She has never been abroad or traveled. The university town is the farthest place she has ever been. She doesn't know the difference between makeup cream and cream, and she hasn't eaten French snails with red wine. But I admire her for knowing how to wash clothes more cleanly and how to do it without deformation. She knows how to fry the best shredded potatoes.
My roommate, M, did well in school, but didn't read many other books. Besides studying in class, her favorite thing is watching comedies. I can't find a comedy that can make her run around, and a very old joke can easily move her tears. She doesn't know that Mao Mu, Murakami and even domestic writers have only read Lu Xun, but I envy her that she is very happy every day, and she can be full of enthusiasm when she walks casually in the street, and she can be excited for several days when she receives a doll the size of her boyfriend's palm.
Can you say that they are not good girls? Because you don't make progress, pursue, and have little knowledge?
However, dear girl, I like your calmness after traveling around the world, your wisdom of reading widely, your exquisiteness and elegance, and your hard work alone in a foreign land, but I also like every simple job you do seriously, like you cooking a pot of porridge early in the morning to warm your stomach, like you accompanying your parents to brush boring soap operas, and like you holding hands with your lover to discuss whether to eat fish or ribs in the sunset market.
I have met many ambitious girls who live in big companies. They felt sorry for the classmate who stayed at home and got married early. They don't understand how a good girl can't figure out how to get married and marry a male classmate like her, seeking a stable position and having no ambition. They live in a modest house, drive a car that is neither too bad nor too bad, and live an ordinary life. In a few years, they will become housewives who only know rice, oil and salt, wear the simplest casual shirts, and mention that their husbands have recently raised their wages by several hundred dollars. Their children won the Good Boy Award in kindergarten. They laughed happily, and the corners of their eyes were shallow wrinkles left by years. Every time I talk about this, these girls wearing new high heels, classic windbreakers, little black skirts and big-name lipstick liquid foundation are disdainful: "Living like that is a waste of life. Look at the skin around her eyes and look at her chubby figure. "
But, dear girl, when you pursue poetry and distance, there are always some girls. Their goal is to have a leisure job, eat and walk with their families every day, go shopping and play chess with their parents on weekends, and accompany their children to interest classes on holidays. They don't ask their lover to make a million dollars a year, nor do they ask him to become an executive. As long as they can get home from work on time every day and go to the movies alone occasionally, they will be very satisfied.
Ann is such a girl. She left home to go to school in the provincial capital city since junior high school. We sat at the same table in high school for three years. When talking about the future, I always talk about my future plans with longing eyes, get into key points, study abroad, enter the top 500 and travel around the world. An Wei smiled and listened to me. Talking about herself, she still smiled faintly: "I don't have any dreams. My biggest dream is to go back to my hometown to be a pediatrician. " Now Ann is studying in a medical college, and her dream has never changed. I used to think that those girls who were content to teach each other and wash their hands and make soup were because they had never seen a bigger world. Otherwise, how can they give up this colorful temptation and live a monotonous and repetitive pale life? But the older they grew up, the more people they knew, and I realized how narrow my previous thoughts were.
My friend Huahua said, "The world is so big, I want to see it." Under the influence of this maxim, she walked tirelessly in every corner of the world. In the first three years of college, she traveled all over the country and visited more than 20 countries on all continents. I often see all kinds of beautiful photos sent by her in my circle of friends, such as surfing on the beach, gliding on snow-capped mountains and riding horses on the grassland ... but this year, she has never sent any photos again. I'm curious to ask where she is now. Huahua told me that I always thought it was cool to walk around and enrich my life, but I have traveled so many places, seen so many different scenery and gained the envy of many people. After stopping, I found that I prefer to wear a blanket, read a novel and listen to my mother tell my youth story in a room that smells like grapefruit in winter, rather than drinking coffee in a foreign street.
Dear girls, I don't want you to be content with the status quo and stuck in the kitchen, but I hope you don't be ashamed to say your ideals, whether they are grand or small, whether they are far away or close at hand. You yearn for the distance, so don't mind being blocked by people around you, because there will always be some people who will stand in the way of your non-stop running. You just need to avoid it easily and don't stop running. At this time, you will find that after crossing the difficulties and obstacles, you will eventually reach a place you miss crazily. If you love the present, the scenery in the park in front of your house is also good. You will cook a pot of soup to warm him up. You will be interested in baking children's favorite desserts. I can smell the sunshine in the quilt and feel that every day is beautiful.
Every girl should not be confined to the frame set by others, nor should she be labeled. The luckiest thing in the world is "I want to do it", the greatest dream in the world is "I love myself very much every day", and the cutest girls in the world are those who live seriously, cry and laugh, and dare to love and hate.
I like your stubborn courage, your occasional complaining temper, and your confidence in making money to buy flowers and clothes. I like you only because you are a good girl.