Whether life is happy or not depends entirely on personal views on people, things and things; Because, life is caused by thoughts. If all we think is happy thoughts, we can be happy; If all we think about is sad things, we will be sad.

1. Optimism is an open-minded expression.

Bigger than the sky, bigger than the heart. Open-minded people are really strong, and optimism is their emotional experience. Optimists can cope with the dangers of life and take control of their own destiny. Deng Xiaoping is very open-minded. At the age of 80, German Chancellor Kohl asked him "the secret of longevity". Deng Xiaoping replied, "I'm not afraid of the sky falling, but I have a big one." An optimistic person, even if things get worse, can react quickly, find a solution and make a new life plan. An optimistic person will not show disappointment and despair in his career. As EQ says, a pessimistic attitude will destroy hope, while an optimistic attitude can inspire hope.

Optimism is the magic weapon of good health.

According to the current research, the natural limit of human life should be between 130 and 170, but most people have not lived to this age so far. For a long time, scientists have also done a lot of research, and began to admit that there are "psychological and social medical models" in addition to "biological models" for human diseases and longevity. A longevity person in the Middle East 150 years old summed up the secret of his longevity in one sentence: "Happy life".

Despair leads to early death. The researchers found that in the first six months after the death of a spouse, the mortality rate of the elderly was six times higher than that of their peers. Pessimism destroys immune function. Emotion is not only a psychological experience, but also a materialized process. Pessimism will not only cause metabolic dysfunction, such as heart rate, blood pressure and digestive dysfunction, but also destroy endocrine or reduce immune function.

Happiness will make sick people forget their pain, and even make sick people live longer than ordinary people.

3. Happiness is the foundation of interpersonal communication

If you give others happiness, you will get happiness. When people get together, your happy mood, smiling expression and witty language will warm others' hearts like spring breeze, trigger everyone's laughter and drive away their troubles. When people get these wonderful spiritual comforts from you, they will naturally feel grateful and appreciative, and they will feel that you have a "spiritual attraction" and are willing to associate with you. In this way, you will get twice as much happiness as others.

4. Optimism is the condition for a smooth job.

Contentment means to treat the status quo calmly, set a practical goal, don't expect too much and don't look down on yourself. Being optimistic about one's work is a condition for smooth work. If a person expects too much or always feels unhappy, his work will not go smoothly, then he will feel pessimistic and disappointed, and he will fall into a vicious circle of emotion and behavior. A few years ago, several students were worried that they could not stay in the big city before they were assigned. When I learned that I would stay in a big city, I was worried that I would not be able to enter a big chemical company; After entering a large chemical enterprise, they are worried about which factory to enter. The horizontal proportion is always unsatisfactory. Obviously, it is the job that most students envy that makes them worry and lament. However, a classmate calmly faced the distribution and went to work happily after entering the factory. Although he was very tired, he said to himself, "This is much easier than helping the family farm before school." Working in this optimistic mood, coupled with the original knowledge base, the transition period of one year has arrived, and he was mentioned as a statistician in the workshop. It was with an optimistic attitude that I taught myself statistical theory, and it was only one year later that I was mentioned to the planning department. This may be an accident, but it is also inevitable that the pessimism of those students who have been dissatisfied has played a role in their work. And an optimistic attitude doesn't help students who work smoothly at all? In fact, optimism, like self-confidence, can make the journey of life smoother.

Optimism is a means to avoid setbacks.

The so-called optimism is to face setbacks and still firmly believe that the situation and situation will improve. From the perspective of emotional intelligence, optimism is a kind of mentality that keeps people in trouble from being indifferent, powerless and depressed. C.R.Snyder, a psychologist at the University of Kansas, found that students' grades have a decisive relationship with their optimism. When you give a subject a score of 80 and you score 60, the most optimistic students decide to study harder and want to get a remedy; Students who are not optimistic also think of some methods, but lack perseverance to practice; The most pessimistic student gave up.

Martin, Professor of Psychology, University of Pennsylvania, USA. When studying the importance of encouraging optimistic people, Sariman found that some salesmen with high optimistic test scores exceeded 265,438+0% in the first year and 57% in the second year compared with pessimistic salesmen. After refusing again and again, pessimists may tell themselves in their hearts, "I can't do this business, and I don't want to sell insurance policies." An optimistic person will tell himself "Maybe I did something wrong" or "I just met a customer in a bad mood".

(B) Self-training methods

(1) Use mirror image technique, put a happy smile on your face, stand up, take a deep breath, and then sing a short song. If you can't sing, whistle. If you can't whistle, hum a song and remember your happy expression.

Insist on smiling at others, as the saying goes: smile, ten years old. Laughter can dilate the lungs and promote blood circulation.

③ Learn to use humor. Humor is a special emotional expression that can find happiness in life. It can calmly deal with many unpleasant, annoying, even painful and sad things.

(4) Promote interpersonal relationships with joy, tell a few jokes in the dormitory before going to bed or suggest reviewing sketches and fragments in cross talk.

⑤ Forget unpleasant experiences and things. Cultivating a wide range of interests can not only enrich life and maintain a happy mood, but also be used as a means to resolve tension.

⑥ Take part in more beneficial cultural and sports activities. Cultivate a lively, enterprising, cheerful and positive attitude towards life, create a source of pursuit in an ordinary and stable life, and write a happy life.

⑦ Don't make unrealistic demands on the environment and others, tell yourself that the core of happiness is self-satisfaction.

When others try to provoke you, hint to yourself: "I am an open-minded person, a person with a chest like the sea."

Pet-name ruby make a motto. Whenever tension appears, think about your motto, such as "I am a calm person", and then relax yourself.

Attending if there is a disease, tell yourself that the quality of life is not measured by the absolute length of time, but by the quality. A happy day is more meaningful than a troubled year.

First of all, you must be fully responsible for yourself.

You must admit that you are responsible for your current level and situation, take full responsibility for your achievements and take full responsibility for sales within your level.

You are the owner of your own life, career and professional sales company. The most powerful word you can control your thoughts and emotions is "I am responsible!" These words will reduce your anger and improve your negative emotions. They will get rid of your worries and make you start thinking positively instead of reacting passively. "I have a responsibility" to let you hold the whip rope of your life.

As a completely responsible person, you will refuse to make excuses and refuse to put the blame on others. If you succeed, the credit will go to you; If you fail, you have to bear the responsibility. Responsibility is forward-looking.

Responsibility is always to think about answers rather than questions; It's about solving problems, not complaining. As a completely responsible person, when encountering adversity, you will immediately stop and say "I am responsible". Then, instead of thinking about what has happened, think about what to do next. Responsible people will focus on future opportunities, not past problems.

They won't cry for spilled milk. They know that what has happened is irreversible. They will regard every setback or failure as a valuable lesson and say, "Next time, I will …". The motto of the person in charge is "If the problem is inevitable, I must take full responsibility."

In any professional sales field, self-responsible attitude, high performance and personal efficiency must stand together at the same time.

The second necessary condition for developing personal strength is a positive way of explanation.

This means that you will take a positive attitude to explain what happened to you. You will regard difficulties and setbacks as valuable lessons or opportunities. You refuse to let this problem linger in your mind or blame it on personal incompetence. You shrug your shoulders and tell yourself and others, "Next time will be different."

Optimists are used to explaining problems in a positive way, while pessimists will explain problems in a negative way.

Optimists forget the differences and refuse to stay on the problem. Pessimists think that the problem is their shortcomings, or that their products and services are poor. Optimists will keep thinking about how to do better, while pessimists often stop at what they have done wrong and become depressed.

The third step to develop personal strength is to commit to pursuing Excellence.

We must make up our minds to excel in the industry. You must set the standard at an excellent level and continue to go all out. Most people, because of their low self-affirmation, don't want to regard themselves as the top figures in the industry. Even when they redouble their efforts and achieve a certain degree of success, they tend to deny or quietly attribute their success to pure luck and accident.

In the sales industry they choose to engage in, their love and respect for themselves are not enough to convince them that they have the best ability. One of the worst things about growing up is that we always doubt what we deserve. Many of us feel that we are not worthy of the ideal level of success.

On the surface, we strive to achieve our goals, achieve our scheduled performance and earn income, but deep down, this feeling is so strong that we don't even want to start trying.

Sooner or later, you will face the topic you deserve. You must believe that the success you have achieved through firm efforts is well deserved. You deserve all the beautiful things you expect and desire. You deserve the rewards you get through self-development and hard work. You are as good as others, and you can do what anyone can do.

The obstacles to your desired health, happiness and wealth come from your heart, not from external factors. Life is a process of taking two steps forward and one step back. If you don't advance, you will retreat. We will make progress, and we will stagnate in your career.

I have worked with many top salespeople in the United States and around the world. Each of them succeeded only after making a real commitment to get ahead in the industry. Once they make up their minds and make a commitment, they will go all out without hesitation.

Sometimes, it takes them months or even years to surpass other salespeople in the industry, but they will eventually do it. Once in the lead, they will constantly push themselves and expand the lead distance. They will eventually climb to the highest position in the industry and be highly respected by people around them. All achievements stem from a sincere commitment to the pursuit of Excellence.

The fourth element about personal strength is persistence.

This is your insistence that you are willing to leave work later than others and work harder, which will usually bring great changes to your life. A persistent person will gradually surpass others in his career because he will never give up easily.

Persistence is indeed a condensed combination of many characteristics. Persistence is an evaluation of one's own value and ability. You can know how much confidence you have in yourself through your willingness to persist in difficulties. Persistence is a self-restraint of action and an evaluation of one's personality.

Persistence and courage are inseparable. If the first part of courage is the ability to face uncertain situations, then the second part of courage is to persevere even if success is not guaranteed. As (C.s.Lowis) said:' Courage is only a virtue, and any virtue will stand out when it is tested. "Without persistence, you won't succeed.

The fifth element of personal strength is integrity, that is, complete honesty with yourself and others.

As an honest person, you should be able to really face yourself and your limits. Only in this way can you be completely honest with others.

Honesty is the most important quality that customers require when deciding on long-term patronage.

This is why all top salespeople are absolutely honest with their words and deeds. They will never sell products or services to customers they think are inappropriate, and their customers believe this.

Just as trust is the foundation of all interpersonal relationships, honesty is the concrete manifestation of this trust. All super salespeople have a very good relationship with customers, and customers buy from them without asking the price. Their customers know that no matter what the price, they will be reasonable and honest, otherwise the salesman will not introduce them to buy it.

Honesty is very important for building self-confidence. When you are honest with yourself and the people around you, you will be very surprised to find how good you feel about yourself. Honest people will deeply agree with themselves and their actions in their hearts. They make you the most irresistible salesperson and are constantly recommended by customers.

The sixth element of personal strength is the attitude of gratitude.

This attitude is based on the law of increasing returns, which means "when you really appreciate what you get, you will get more things to be grateful for." A grateful attitude is a reliable proof of the integrity of the upright. A grateful person will see beautiful things in daily life and express gratitude for them instead of complaining.

Gratitude and a positive attitude are closely related. Salespeople with this attitude will cherish many things deeply in their lives. He cherishes his health, family, house, car and work. He thanked his company and the products or services displayed.

A grateful person must be an optimistic person. He has been very happy. In any case, such people always say positive things. Even in the face of the most difficult customers, he will be very friendly and grateful, and even send thank-you cards to the most difficult customers in the most hasty situation.

Fortunately, an attitude of gratitude can be cultivated. When you show gratitude, it doesn't even take a long time, and gratitude will form a part of your personality. You will become a warm and friendly person.

You will find yourself very popular wherever you go. Everyone wants to do business with you, and friends are happy to associate with you. You will be recommended to his potential customers. Every aspect of your life will be improved.

When you get along with future customers or customers, don't bring your problems and worries to them. Even if you are at a low point in your life and career, you should keep your mouth shut. When people say how you are now.

Wait, tell them your business is good. Tell them that your situation is "couldn't be better". Tell them you are "happy at work".

When you tell others how happy your life and work are, you will become more and more convinced. Soon, you can't tell whether this is your attitude or your actual situation.

The seventh element of personal strength is clear and definite goals.

In order to exert your limit, you should write down your monthly, quarterly and annual sales and income targets. You need to set goals for your health, family and house. You need to set financial goals, personal development goals and spiritual goals. You need to draw a blueprint for your life like a blueprint for a house. You need to make a daily work plan.

In any field, the most important personality of the best salesperson is a strong sense of purpose. With the same age, education, experience and wisdom, the salespeople who can run to the front are always those who are more eager to succeed.

The intensity of your purpose is closely related to your sales career and achievements in your life journey. You stimulate this strong desire by writing down your goals, writing down a plan to achieve them, and carrying out such a plan every day.

The advantage of the goal is that it has an incredible power, which can stimulate your sales potential and release your positive attitude. They will release energy and creativity to help you achieve your goals. Clear goals can focus your attention and energy. Goals let you see the future clearly. They give you the courage to start and stick to it.

With a clear goal, you can accomplish what the average person can accomplish in ten or even twenty years in a year or two.

Goals also have other effects. They can make your life in harmony with other spiritual laws.

Goals allow you to apply the law of cause and effect to get the maximum benefit. Your goal is to define the expected results. When you clearly understand these effects, you can easily explore the factors you can apply and achieve your goals.

Goals give you control over your life. Use targets to control the direction of change. Goals can help you make better decisions and choices. Goals allow you to allocate time and resources more clearly. When you fully understand what you want, you will be more calm and confident to deal with everything.

The goal will deepen the assurance of winning. When you can write down your goals concretely and clearly, you will overcome your psychological doubts and fears. You begin to believe that you can achieve your goal. When your confidence grows, you will do more things to help you achieve your goals.

Soon, the line between what you want and what you believe you can achieve begins to blur. Your confidence and commitment will deepen, and soon, your goals will begin to be realized in the world around you.

The law of concentration states: "What you focus on will grow and expand in your real life." So what should you pay attention to? Your goal! As long as you always remember your goals, you can exert your spiritual strength to achieve them.

When Newton was asked why he made such a great contribution to physics and mathematics all his life, he said, "Nothing is distracted." When you reach a state where there are no distractions except the goal, you don't have to control the goal, and the goal will automatically control you.

From that moment on, you will achieve more than before. You have created the law that birds of a feather flock together, turned yourself into a powerful magnet, and attracted people and environments that can help you achieve your goals.

The more goals you remember, the stronger your psychological motivation. You will send out thinking waves to attract more opportunities and events to help you realize your dreams.

As a result of implementing the law of reflection, your external world will reflect your central ideas, concepts and imagination.

Your outer world will reflect your inner world. The persistent thoughts in your heart will begin to appear around you concretely.

The more you keep your goal in mind, the more you think about how to achieve it, and the more you imagine the happiness after achieving it, the more your achievements in the outside world will echo your inner world.

"Born from the heart, the shape is outside." Happiness is defined as "the positive realization of goals and ideals". Every step you take towards your goal will increase your happiness, enthusiasm and self-confidence. Work hard according to your own goals every day, and you will gradually form absolute confidence in your mind that everything will succeed.