There is a kind of bullying called school violence, and it often happens. Most of the bullied children are introverted and inferior children who are not valued by teachers. Why are such people bullied? Because they dare not resist and have no courage to expose the bad guys. So how do they resist saying "no"? In our society, there are still many situations that need to be rejected. Take your seats accordingly and see which one suits you better.

? First, bravely saying no is respect for the facts and maintenance of the facts. In academic occasions, you can just say "no".

A conductor named Seiji Ozawa once participated in a European conductor competition. In the final, he came last. But in the process of his performance, he found a little disharmony in the music. At first, he thought the performance was mainly wrong, so he directed the band to stop performing, but he still felt unnatural. He thinks there is something wrong with the music. On further consideration, he is convinced that his judgment is correct. So he said confidently and loudly, "No! The score is definitely wrong! " As soon as the voice fell, the judges immediately stood up and gave him warm applause. It turns out that this is a trap carefully designed by the judges to test whether the conductor can stick to his own judgment when he finds an error and the authority refuses to admit it. Refreshing cognition

2. Speak bravely and refuse tactfully, which not only protects yourself, but also resists the madness of the wicked.

There is a hot video on the Internet, in which a girl wearing a school uniform is slapped by several students and forced to kneel. This kind of school bullying has always been a hot topic in teenagers' personal rights and interests. Victims are usually introverted, cowardly, lacking in self-confidence, credulous, lacking in legal knowledge and self-protection awareness and ability. In every bullying incident, the victim actually has a good chance to get rid of it. They are more resourceful and brave. For example, some students stop by themselves and want to be called to a deserted place. In this case, don't be timid and listen. Bravely refused to follow, and boldly said loudly, "No, I won't go with you. This is a school. This is a society ruled by law. If you treat me any way, the school will not let you go, and the law will not let you go. " Wit, walking in crowded places, keeping company with classmates, ignoring the provocation of gangsters, telling parents in time and reflecting to teachers. If you still can't solve it, you can call the police or ask for help online. In a word, you must find ways to protect yourself in an appropriate way.

3. Say no bravely and refuse tactfully, which can make you comfortable in your work and develop healthily. If you are just Nuo Nuo at work, how can you break your own world? Those employees who are considered as "white rabbits" are afraid to say "no".

There is a vivid case in history, because he didn't know how to refuse, and he was finally forced to draw his sword and commit suicide. Mao Sui is an ordinary door-to-door guest. Because of his unique talent and ability, he was recommended to the State of Chu, which contributed to the unification of Chu and Zhao. This is also an allusion to "self-recommendation". Later, Mao Sui became a very dependent red man in Ping Yuanjun, and let Mao Sui come forward for everything. But the next year. The army of Yan sent a general, Fu Su, to lead the army to invade Zhao. Ping Yuanjun still appointed Mao Sui as the commander-in-chief to resist the enemy. Although Mao Sui knew that he could not be commander-in-chief, he was embarrassed to flinch from Ping Yuanjun's kindness and had to take the lead. As a result, it is conceivable that all the people were killed. Finally, Mao Sui felt ashamed and resentful and committed suicide. Investigate its reason, still won't refuse.

Many times, because we accept each other's demands but fail to complete them, it will destroy the trust of both sides, which is more thorough than the harm. In the workplace, learning to refuse is also the value embodiment of self-defense and self-esteem. A sense of valuable gain

Fourth, bravely saying "no" and politely refusing are also respect for friends or colleagues. When you can't do it yourself, you can't simply say "no" You should consider the feelings of others, refuse tactfully, and minimize the harm caused by refusal.

In daily life, when you get along with your family or friends, there will be related things to deal with. Sometimes refusal is extreme and will hurt everyone's goodwill. For example, if you are exhausted from working at home, your family will entrust you with the "burden" of looking after children. Most people may be coming into being like a volcano, and some even want to speak out to solve the problem. In my opinion, the first thing you should do is to clear your mind, find out the cause and effect, calmly explain to your family and say "no" politely. How can we be tactful? If you want to be tactful, you must not offend people. You can use language to imply and so on. At least others are not embarrassed; Or changing the subject is also a kind of language suggestion; There is also a kind of "Ken" before "No", which can be said to be eaten all over the world. For example, it is very difficult for your sister to ask you to write a paper of 1000 words, so we can use the method of "yes" before "no": "Of course I can help you write your paper, but I can't spare the time. 1000 is too difficult for me. I can recommend you a better candidate." Let her be tortured by others These methods can avoid family misunderstanding, because family members are family members after all, and the purpose we want to do is not to dilute feelings. These words can make our life better.

To sum up, I will give you some advice on how to say "no" on some occasions. But there is another key point. If you are afraid to speak, have no courage and feel inferior, all the above words are useless. Before speaking, we can take a deep breath and not be influenced by what others say. Think about what you can say to make the other person understand. To believe that you have countless advantages, you can boldly say "no".