It is understood that many experts at home and abroad have studied and discussed the definition of mental health. Ingrid believes: "Mental health refers to a continuous mental state, in which the parties can adapt well and have the vitality of life, and can give full play to their physical and mental potential; This is a continuous psychological condition, not just from mental illness. Beaumont believes: "Mental health is a social behavior that satisfies a certain degree: on the one hand, it can be accepted by society, on the other hand, it can bring happiness to itself." Fu Lianzhang of China emphasized that the meaning of health should include the following factors:

1, all parts of the body develop normally, with healthy functions and no diseases.

2, strong physique, strong disease resistance, and can bear hardships and stand hard work, undertake all kinds of arduous and arduous tasks, and stand the test of various natural environments.

3, full of energy, can always maintain high efficiency. 4. Strong will, normal mood and cheerful spirit.

Moreover, college students have changed greatly both physically and psychologically. In particular, the psychological leap, the specialization of learning direction, the diversification of learning content, the autonomy of learning and other aspects have all changed, but also in interpersonal environment, role psychology and other aspects have changed to varying degrees. Then, how to adjust the mentality, so that you can better understand yourself and adapt to college life? This must first analyze yourself and position yourself.

Second, self-analysis (a) personality analysis

Generally speaking, I am an extrovert. Usually, I am keen to participate in various activities and like to meet all kinds of friends, so I feel careless and heartless. However, everyone has an unknown side. Maybe it's because I put on a brave coat because I'm strong, but in fact, the more powerful people look, the more fragile they are, because what's hidden under the strong coat is the unknown fragility. So sometimes I doubt whether it is meaningful to pretend to be strong, but I always find that when I make up my mind to change myself, I can't, because I can't accept the fact that I am a weak person.

Perhaps it is caused by their own psychological factors. Sometimes I feel that because of my external strength, people will think that I can do anything, and I can withstand any stimulus and blow. I think I am a person who doesn't need care and protection. Growing up, my role at school was completely different from that at home. At home, I am a protected child everywhere, whether from my parents or my sister, I have always been a person who can't do anything, so they think I am weak; However, at school, I have always played the role of a strong man. Whether as a class cadre or an ordinary student, my classmates always think that I am a strong enough person to carry everything, and all my efforts will not be easily rewarded. But after a long time, I was exhausted. I no longer want to be a strong person. Few people can understand how much I need to be understood and protected. I want to shout out my grievances to the world, but the fact is that these grievances are always hidden in my heart, showing my heartless strength and optimism. Maybe this is who I really am.

I am not a weak person, but I also clearly realize that I am not a strong person. Behind the optimism and strength that everyone sees, there are also sadness, grievances and tears, but these are starry nights. A rude person doesn't know how to care about Yao Qin, so he can only let his grievances pour out in the dark with tears in his eyes. The next day, everyone still saw the most brilliant me. I don't know if this is a depressing and incorrect practice, but I deeply understand one thing: don't take others to suffer because you are unhappy. We can change our moods and facts without changing the environment, but we can find another attitude to treat them. In short, don't convey your emotions, I'm sure it's correct.

Learning characteristics

Students' learning is learning in a narrow sense. Professor Feng Zhongliang highly summarized the characteristics of students' learning in the book "Learning Psychology", and thought that there were three differences between students' learning and their daily life and work:

1, mastering the experience of predecessors is the main content of students' study;

2. Generally speaking, students' learning is mainly based on the formation of indirect experience, supplemented by the formation of direct experience;

Because students are in a period of continuous physical and mental development, they must develop morally, intellectually, physically and aesthetically. The reason why I mentioned this characteristic and difference is mainly to analyze my own learning characteristics and then compare it with authoritative research in order to find similarities and differences.

I am a self-taught person. I think all the knowledge and abilities you want should be a process of active acceptance rather than passive acceptance. The efficiency of active acceptance and learning is much higher than that of passive acceptance. So I'm used to learning what I should get in my own time, whether it's doing homework or supplementing myself. Growing up, my study has never been under pressure from my parents, which may be due to the family environment. I always thought it was my responsibility to study hard and get into college. So my study will be a process of actively accepting the room.

Although students' learning scope is very narrow, it is not limited to learning scientific and cultural knowledge, but also inevitably includes the ability to adapt to society and study life. Just like learning scientific and cultural knowledge, I think no matter what kind of learning, it is inseparable from taking the initiative to accept this central point. Only what interests you will have the desire to learn, and will want to take the initiative to learn and accept. Therefore, no matter what kind of study, we should follow our own feelings and put interest first.

(C) interpersonal skills analysis

Due to the inherent characteristics of their own growth and their ignorance of the world, college students inevitably have certain interpersonal communication obstacles, such as cognitive illusions, personality disorder, ability defect and so on. There are great differences among college students in living habits, personalities and past experiences. The subjects of campus communication are individuals who are faced with arduous adaptation tasks and lack of experience, and the interpersonal adaptation difficulties of both sides are more prominent.

My personality determines my attitude towards interpersonal communication, and I think it is very important to communicate with others actively. Active communication with people will make you penetrate into the crowd faster and broaden your interpersonal relationship, even your interpersonal network. Only in this way can you have valuable human resources and interpersonal relationships. Of course, the larger the circle, the greater the possibility of conflict. In my opinion, the key to solving interpersonal conflicts is to believe that all conflicts can be solved through rational and constructive negotiations, which also requires a kind of initiative: actively understand the causes of conflicts, actively recognize their own mistakes, actively face mistakes, and actively propose possible solutions to conflicts.

(D) Psychological analysis of love

Love is a kind of advanced emotional communication, and it is a social psychological behavior that men and women love each other and cultivate love with love as the center. Robert Jeffrey Sternberg believes that no matter how complicated human love is, it is composed of three identical components: motivation, emotion and cognition. Furthermore, the love relationship among motivation, emotion and cognition is called enthusiasm, intimacy and commitment respectively. I am a perfectionist and always believe that there will be perfect love, that is, complete intimacy, passion and commitment. As mutually attractive sexes, it is impossible to lack intimacy and passion in life, but I think perfect love commitment is the most important thing. This kind of commitment is not a pledge of eternal love, but a basic guarantee for personality, humanity and life, and it is an essential component for us to gain a sense of security.

Third, shape a sound personality and take the road to success.

Personality refers to the sum total of a person's psychological characteristics that are different from others, consistently displayed in different environments and relatively stable, and affect people's explicit and implicit behavior patterns. Including ability, temperament and personality. The basic characteristics of personality are integrity, stability, uniqueness and sociality. In personality structure, temperament is an important part of personality structure. It is found that human temperament types include choleric, sanguine, mucinous and depressive. I am an optimistic person, balanced, flexible, sociable, outgoing, easy to accept new things and adapt to changes in the external environment, but my attention is easily distracted and my interests are changeable. To shape a sound personality, we should strive to make our hearts develop harmoniously, correctly handle interpersonal relationships and develop friendship; Effectively apply wisdom and ability to successful work and career. Let them integrate into society and adapt to life more comprehensively and actively.

References:

Xiong Jianji Wang, College Students' Mental Health Education Course, Shanghai Jiaotong University, 2006 College Students' Mental Health Quality Course, Main Wuzhou Communication Press, 200.