From primary school to middle school, many children will be somewhat uncomfortable. So as parents, how can we guide our children to make a smooth transition to junior high school? Generally speaking, the age of twelve or thirteen is an "extraordinary period" for children's growth and development, and it is a necessary process for children's psychological growth and development. During this period, parents can neither let it go, nor take care of it too much, but should master the strategy and guide it well.

1, realize that this is the only way for children.

We should realize that children don't want to be against their parents, but want to show their immature self-awareness. We should be calm and avoid overreacting to children's confrontation.

2. Give children room to "show off"

Actively create opportunities and atmosphere for children to reflect their self-awareness, respect their independent will and respect their friendship with their peers. When children do something, let them do it. Even if they have done something wrong, they should not be rudely accused. But to help them analyze the reasons for failure and make them confident and mature as soon as possible. We should adopt a tolerant, understanding and accepting attitude to communicate with them, so as not to induce their rebellious mentality.

3. Take care of the children with a tolerant heart.

Parents should understand their children's psychology during this period, face up to the growth of their self-awareness and the improvement of their cognitive ability, guide and help their children to correctly understand their physiological and psychological characteristics of their age, and clearly point out their childishness, dependence and one-sided understanding.

4, empathy, be a child's "confidant"

Since parents know that children don't want to communicate with themselves, you might as well reproduce childlike innocence, take the initiative to watch TV programs that children are willing to watch, and then analyze and communicate from the perspective of children, so that children have a feeling of discovering "bosom friends", and then you can capture the content of children's psychological activities at any time.

5. Respect children and become mentors and friends with them.

Children's diaries, letters or phone calls must not be eavesdropped and peeked, and children's privacy should be respected. Children of this age are particularly good at "showing off their talents" in front of people, and parents are no exception. Then give them the right to participate in politics (housekeeping). When children express their unique views to you, even if they don't agree with their views at first, listen patiently, and then express their views by exchanging opinions. Don't just nag and preach, regardless of the children's opinions. Respecting children will help them learn to respect themselves and others, while lessons often bring disgust and opposition, which will only have the opposite effect.

Finally, parents are advised to adopt a positive attitude in psychology and action, so that children can always feel their parents' love.