I think these are the main requirements for parents to play the piano:
1, you must not be an emotional person. Except for joy, your anger and sadness must not be shown in front of children. This is especially difficult for women. I have seen too many women who are angry at work and like to be angry with their husbands. If they are angry with their husbands, they will also be angry with their children. After the quarrel, I turned around and said, "Why are you still playing here and not practicing?" From the child's point of view, it must be a bad thing for mom to do something when she is unhappy. Practicing the piano has become a shadow.
You must not be an anxious person. Some parents' creed is, "When I say practice 1 hour, I can't lose a minute." Because this will lead to children failing to pass the grade. If they fail to pass the grade, they will not be admitted to a good university, and their life will be over. "Then you put the child out of breath.
3, don't be jealous, don't compare with others. Many people don't think so, thinking that they are like ancient water. Things like jealousy and comparison will only come out and bite you at certain times. Especially when the teacher euphemistically says that your child is slow in progress and he is not a good seedling to learn the piano, 9 parents in 10 will be black-faced. You won't admit your failure, you won't be convinced, you won't question the teacher's words, because you believe he is an authority, and you will only start with your own children. Why are my children inferior to other families? Not as stupid as others, you must not work as hard as others. At this time, your anger has turned to the child. The child is wronged by such an evaluation, and he has to face your doubts about him.
4. You can't say something like "I spent a lot of money to buy you a piano. This is not a toy. You should practice hard", especially when you find that he doesn't work hard. Children will think that you force me to practice, not for my own good, but to satisfy your desire for value. In fact, it is a very complicated decision to let children practice the piano, which contains too many things, both for children and to satisfy some of their own desires. In fact, when a person makes any decision, his original intention is very complicated, and it is difficult for him to say clearly. Children don't understand this. Their age is either black or white, good or bad. You did it for yourself, so you didn't do it for me. You don't want to understand what he grew up in, but you can't get through this.
You can't show disappointment, don't force him to give in when he doesn't do what you ask. You think they'll realize it after a few years of coercion. Such children are also trying to please you to a great extent. Obedient and sensible children will eventually give in, can't bear to see you disappointed and do what you ask against your will, just to make you happy. From the perspective of parents, children are afraid of you, and you are indeed comforted. From the children's point of view, this is a surrender to power. No matter what means you use, confrontation or pleading, it is the same in the eyes of children. You just want me to give in. Between sticking to yourself and making you feel better, I chose the latter. That's how I gradually added the factor of compromise to my character. I do things beyond my ability and will in order not to upset others. This other person is a parent at first, then a boss and a husband. Parents originally wanted to make their children happy before sending them to learn this and that, and finally they became children who wanted to make their parents happy before sticking to it. In fact, many parents always say that he doesn't understand now and will thank me later. What children appreciate is not that you forced him to learn the piano, but the wind and the price you paid as a poor man. Does the child really appreciate you letting him learn the piano? It depends on whether they take the initiative to touch the piano, without any pressure. If he meets the requirements, say goodbye to Jean, which means he doesn't approve.
In my opinion, piano is the most difficult to cultivate among all interests. I always feel that the beginning of the piano is very similar to sending children to private schools in ancient times. If you want a child to carry a lot of regrets, you can only force him. So is the piano. It's boring when practicing fingering. It's easy to throw up after practicing for a few hours every day.
The characteristics of piano require practitioners to have several conditions, the first is from an early age. In fact, this is not true. 10- 12-year-old children, the flexibility and plasticity of their fingers are no less than those of 6-year-old children, and their strength is even better. At this age, their minds are much more mature and their understanding of music is much stronger than that of children. However, almost all piano teachers suggest starting with children. This will bring a lot of workload to parents, and parents should pay more time and energy to persuade active children to sit down. Children around the age of 6 have no concept of hobbies, let alone conscious cultivation. They are completely passive and it is difficult to reason with them. Hobbies themselves are driven by strong interests. When a person is about 12 years old, he will consciously like some things, such as playing chess, and then he will go to an information friend without your urging. Even if you ask him to give up, he won't do it. This will improve your skills quickly. But the cultivation of piano is not prepared for this condition. Most parents who want their children to learn piano will not wait until their children are 12 years old.
Second, people who practice the piano are lonely. Compared with other hobbies, Qin Gang is competing with kissing someone, and no one can help you. Other things, such as ball games, swimming, and even study, can learn from your teammates, improve your skills in learning, and release the pressure at the same time, because teammates are friends of your age and status. Piano is not like this. Its principle is simple. It improves its skills through a lot of extraordinary exercises. You have never seen two children play the piano. At most, it is to show who is tall and who is low. You can easily understand what a piece of music should look like. Only take the classic once. Can you play? No one can help you. In a lot of boring exercises, you have no place to vent your depression and no companions. Only supervise your teachers and parents. Another lonely art is painting. Why are many painters and musicians mentally withdrawn? It is because he immersed himself in the art to be expressed, instead of communicating with others, and his feelings were expressed through art. Of course, parents will say that I don't want him to become a professional. This is a difficult proposition. It is because your child is a beginner and unprofessional, so he can't feel the fun of investing and will have resistance to long-term boring practice. But if he is obsessed with the pleasure of playing the piano, you are also worried.
Thirdly, I always think it's not worth it, that is, the piano skills can't last long. Playing the piano, you finally reached a level, and you came back after a few months without practicing. During the Cultural Revolution, Bao Huiqiao's piano was stolen. She pasted a keyboard with a cardboard box and insisted on practicing every day. Because if she doesn't practice for a day, she will regress. One is a musical instrument, and the other is vocal music, so we must ensure that the music does not leave our mouth chords. The maintenance cost of other hobbies is not so high. Most of them won't forget and don't need to practice every day. Painting is like this.
Fourth, the commercial use of pianos is too narrow, and there are almost no pianos. Painting is different. Once you master the basic skills, you can continue to develop in advertising, urban decoration, fashion design and other majors. This painting skill will give you some foundation. What can the piano bring? Unless you take a professional path, it is also very narrow. However, you can say that hobbies are hobbies and don't have anything to do with money. If you have nothing to do with money, you always have something to do with money. If you like sports, you will have a strong body. Like dancing, you have a beautiful figure. If you like the piano, what you get is nothing more than an understanding of music, and what you insist on is victory. However, you can learn from other things that children can usually learn to read and math only through hard practice. In these daily studies, they have long known what perseverance is. In short, practicing the piano can give a person everything else, but the other way around, it won't work.
Fifth, the piano is too heavy to carry, which is its big disadvantage. You can't XB your skills at any time, and you can't satisfy your sense of accomplishment. If the guitar doesn't have this problem. Moreover, because he can't move, once the environment changes, it's hard for you to stick to it. How many children who have gone to college can insist on practicing piano every day? Some go back to their parents' home and don't even want to open a business. As a result, the level immediately dropped. Of course, parents don't care at this time, and children don't care. It doesn't matter if they pass the proficiency test and get credits anyway. If you have this idea, it means that you have succeeded in playing the piano. A hobby can be called a hobby, because it can relieve you when you are stressed and comfort yourself when you are depressed. Among so many people, including those who can play the piano, it is rare to find a person who can play the piano to free himself when he is lost. Usually listen to music or play ball. If a person can relieve stress by playing the piano actively, it means that he is already a professional.
In short, just like the aristocratic atmosphere conveyed by the piano, practicing the piano is also a high-cost sport. It is the majority who fail to reach or deviate from their parents' original intention. Of course, this does not mean failure. My experience is the original intention of my parents, and you can realize it through other hobbies.