An article describing the philosophy of life: Life, don't be so obsessed with reading Lin Weiyin's biography. What moved me was not what everyone praised, but her admirer Jin. His love for Lin Weiyin is admirable, sad and sour. When I closed the book, I couldn't help but sigh: a famous philosopher and logician, a handsome man with a gentleman's demeanor, never married for Lin's life, never abandoned, never abandoned. That kind of love, how deep and persistent, is even more regrettable.
In fact, life should not be so persistent.
Of the three men in Lin Weiyin's life, who can comment on their deep love? Love is so sincere and so deep. However, although Xu Zhimo can abandon everything for love, he can still love Lu Xiaoman so passionately regardless of everything. Although Lu Xiaoman can't always replace Lin Yinhui, he just likes him. It can be said that Liang Sicheng cared and cared for people around Lin Weiyin all his life, but after Lin Weiyin's death, Liang Sicheng married his students soon. Only Kim accompanied her all her life. Even after her death, she kept her soul without any disappointment.
The record of Kim's later years is even more impressive. It is said that one day in the late 1950s, Kim invited his friends to dinner without giving any reason. His friends don't know why. During the dinner, Kim stood up and said, today is Lin's birthday. Hearing this, everyone looked at the unmarried old man for life and wept silently.
Perhaps, for Kim, being with Lin, watching her face and listening to her words is a kind of happiness. However, such happiness is heartbreaking after all. Happy love and good feelings should be paid by both sides. You have me and I have you, not the silent dedication of one side.
Ms. Liang Sicheng's second wife once described that Lin told Liang Sicheng with a sad face that she was very upset because she fell in love with two people at the same time and didn't know what to do. Liang Sicheng's contradiction is extremely painful. He thought hard all night, compared Kim's advantages over himself, and finally told his wife that she was free. If she chooses Kim, I wish them happiness forever. Lin told Kim everything exactly. King's answer is even more straightforward and frank, which surprises ordinary people. It seems that Sicheng really loves you. I can't hurt someone who really loves you. I should quit. ?
From this, we can get a further glimpse of Kim's magnanimity and selfless love. I hope that Jin, who is known as a talented woman in the south of the Yangtze River, can drive away his disobedience and let him leave her completely to pursue his own happiness. Gentle, calm and wise, she never fails to live up to any spring, and her life is always lush, which is exactly what Kim is obsessed with.
In Lin's eyes, Kim is more like a relative. As long as he is here, she will feel at ease. For a long time, they have been living together, often in front of and behind a house. In this way, Jin is willing to silently protect the woman he loves and spend his life together.
It is said that there is infatuation in the world, but how many people are infatuated like Kim? In addition to admiration, I want to say: don't be so persistent in life. While giving others happiness, don't neglect yourself and wronged yourself. Life, there is another way of companionship and blessing.
An article describing the philosophy of life: one must have two moods. One is awe of life, and you can't be indifferent to life at any time.
Life is presented to different people in different ways. Some people were born in excellent families and received a good education from childhood. When he was growing up, his parents consciously helped him revise his life, going all the way to primary school, middle school and university, and then following the route designed by his parents. Life is basically rich. They don't feel poverty, and they don't feel the oppression and blow of money on their lives. They don't even have an attitude towards money, because they are never short of money in their lives. Of course, I can't feel the warmth and coldness of human feelings and the cruelty and harshness of life, because his parents' success has made him the center of the world, and everything will revolve around him. In his eyes, the world is always sunny and full of smiling faces.
For most people who come from poor families, life is completely another presentation. I remember when I was in college, I almost didn't have enough to eat, so I had to exchange my fine food stamps for coarse grain tickets for the girls in my class. At that time, we only had 23 kilograms of flour and rice in January, less than one kilogram a day, which may be too much today, but in those days, people's stomachs were almost filled with staple food. Therefore, the impression that that era left me was not only hunger, but also the unfairness in growth, as well as the inherent gap and inequality between people. Therefore, I will never think that there is complete fairness and equality between people in my life. It is a completely irresponsible statement about cruel life and an unrealistic delusion. Strive to be yourself in inequality, realize your limited dreams, and strive to make your life look a little bit like this. This is the attitude towards life that people born in low cold should have.
The second is to have a kind heart, and don't be indifferent everywhere.
The world is becoming more and more cold and shameless. What is indifferent is the relationship between people, the relationship between others and the world. In our eyes, people are dangerous and untrustworthy. Man and the world are opposites, sometimes even irreconcilable. We have been educated since childhood, and we are forced to talk to strangers every day, not to be confused by strangers' smiling faces, not to trust anyone easily, and not to trust the world casually. Rejection and doubt are the mainstream of our culture, and warmth and closeness have become luxuries. So we always have doubts and doubts about the world. We firmly believe that human feelings are warm and cold, and smiling faces are false. What we insist on is also the most harmful to us, so that today, we can't smile at the world and open our hearts to our peers. Our kindness has been locked up and turned into a beast trapped in our hearts. But it is indifference, numbness, excessive selfishness and ubiquitous suspicion that make people go out and bite people everywhere.
Really, with more kindness, more warmth to others and less indifference and selfishness, the world will become different. In the final analysis, the world is changing its attitude because of our attitude, and the world is also unblocked because of the smoothness of every heart.
An article describing the philosophy of life: Young people, don't always want to break through yourself. A child sent me a message. Ta first asked me if interpersonal relationships were important, and then asked: Sister Mu, a person with low IQ and EQ, can you break through yourself?
From my personal point of view, the standard answer is this:
Of course, it is good to handle interpersonal relationships well, but don't worry too much if you don't handle them well for the time being;
There are not many people with poor IQ and EQ, and most of them are of medium level. What do you mean by breaking through yourself? Do you want to change yourself into something else, from introversion to extroversion, from being good at talking to being calm, like this? !
If this is really the case, then I suggest not to break through yourself. You're fine now.
To be honest, I think it is difficult for most people to break through and surpass themselves.
Those what? Beat yourself? 、? Beyond yourself? Basically, they have beaten the chicken blood, and I will give you an example of a pair of successful people, telling you that they have surpassed themselves to succeed;
You shout a few slogans, your blood is boiling, you are excited for a few days, and you have a relapse. You should be lazy, procrastinating, introverted and impetuous, and you can't solve the problem.
If you are not satisfied with yourself now, what you have to do is not to change yourself and break through yourself, but to try to find some ways and do something to make yourself better and become the so-called best self.
When you become what you like, don't think about how to break through yourself. You will find that you like yourself very much. From personality to personality, from treating people to manners, you have become confident and more open.
You find yourself quite good, and you don't need a breakthrough at all.
I have seen too many stories of inspirational idols before, saying that they have overcome their weaknesses in personality, overcome their natural weaknesses, and made great achievements, which will go down in history.
For example, if someone stutters, he will try his best to practice his speech skills and then become a very good speech master. This kind of story is exciting and desirable to read: Wow, if I want to, I can beat myself, become a completely different person and achieve something great!
To tell the truth, it is difficult for most of us to make such a qualitative leap. This kind of perseverance, perseverance and persistence is beyond the reach of ordinary people. Moreover, the qualitative leap seems to be an instant, but it is actually a particularly long process, full of ups and downs, and there are many hidden twists and turns, frustrated, and I can't wait to surrender every minute.
For example, King George VI in The King's Speech did not intend to be king, because his brother Edward VIII did not like the beautiful scenery of mountains and rivers, and he was pushed to the position of king.
As the king of a country, he has to make a public speech. His father despised him for stuttering when he was a child. These external forces that forced him to change were actually greater than his inner motivation, and he had to do it.
When I was a teenager, I was particularly eager to be a smart, intelligent, docile and popular girl. How many children don't want to be like this?
But I am introverted and shy. I'm embarrassed to talk when I meet strangers, and I'm embarrassed when I'm unfamiliar. In a strange environment, I will be so embarrassed that I have no sense of existence and pretend that no one cares.
So, how I wish I could break through this disgusting part of my personality, and I hope I can make ends meet and be good at dancing.
However, this change is very painful. You have to force yourself to say a lot of things you don't want to say. You should force yourself to deal with people you don't like (because you want to have a good relationship). You have to force yourself to hide your personality and become a gentle cotton ball without edges and corners.
Every time I take stock of the overall performance of a semester and find it unsatisfactory, I decide to take the exam? Break through yourself? ; However, every time the school starts less than a week, I surrender: forget it, forget it, what to do, forcibly change my personality and make a gesture that I don't even know. I'm tired, and people are embarrassed to see me.
So, this is it.
From 16 years old to now, in the past 20 years, my personality has not changed much, but I am a little shy and introverted. Seeing life, I don't like to talk, and I will feel embarrassed in a strange environment.
On the other hand, I am also doing what I like, getting better and better, and watching myself grow up little by little. This feeling is really good. Let me believe it slowly? I'm fine. I like myself. I like it if I like it. You don't like it, I'll forget it. .
That's right. I became confident.
When you become confident, the negative factors in your personality will gradually disappear. You may still be introverted, but you won't be silent because of inferiority. You may still have a strong personality, but you won't put all your problems on your personality when you fail. How nice it is to have personality. There are so many mediocre people in the world that you are the one who lacks personality.
It is very, very difficult to break through yourself, but it is not difficult to do what you like to make yourself better. Try to live a better life and do your best at work. The more beautiful you are, the less you will doubt, be uncertain and even hate yourself.
Children especially like to ask questions, either how to break through themselves or how to change their destiny.
Your problem is too big.
It seems that I can't wait for everyone to become Jobs or Ma Yun, and I can't wait for everyone to fly to the branches and become a phoenix. At least I will go back to my hometown to shine.
Ambition is certainly good. But I still suggest: start from doing a little thing well, start from making yourself better, and start from gradually becoming the person you like.
The more you walk on this road, the more you will feel, the more confident you will be, the wider your heart will be, the more you will have your own understanding of success and the deeper your understanding of happiness.
Sometimes I wonder, have I changed my destiny?
I think I'll do the math.
I realized my childhood dream. I write books, have the time and ability to travel, buy things I like, associate with friends I like, and most importantly, I have a life I like, which is success and happiness.
Isn't this a change of fate?
In this process, I didn't really break through myself. My personality is almost the same as before, but my mood is completely different.
What I have done and read over the years has penetrated into my life little by little. Although I haven't broken through myself, I'm getting better, aren't I? !
So, young people, don't always want to break through yourself, and don't always want to do great things.
Do the things in front of you first, learn the English you have been speaking well, do the internship well, and turn on the computer and start writing if you want to write something, instead of paying lip service.
Obviously, what you need is not a way to break through yourself, but the courage to let go of too many ideas, pick up a small thing and do it well.