First, the importance of college students' interpersonal relationship is a very important aspect of people's life, and the essence of people-the sum of all social relations also confirms this. In today's society, which emphasizes win-win cooperation, good interpersonal relationship is conducive to the formation and development of college students' healthy personality and the cultivation of college students' cooperative spirit. Communication ability is increasingly becoming an important indicator to measure personal ability in college students' minds. However, the interpersonal relationship of college students is not optimistic at present, which has caused various problems. Society is formed under the combination of various relationships between people. The harmony between people and society determines the quality of society and the direction of social development. It can be said that harmonious interpersonal relationship is an important foundation of a harmonious society. College students are in an important development period of learning knowledge, understanding society and exploring life. The harmony of interpersonal relationship is of great significance to college students' personal study, socialization, life, career choice and career development. With the in-depth development of market economy, people's values and lifestyles have undergone profound changes. In social communication, the utilitarian consciousness of communication is increasing day by day, and the principle of equal exchange permeates interpersonal relationships. The interpersonal relationship of college students is relatively simple compared with the interpersonal relationship in society. However, with the development of society, college students have more and more contact with society. For college students, good interpersonal relationship is conducive to the exchange of information and the discussion, understanding and development of academic views; It can promote the socialization process of college students and create conditions for the development and perfection of their personality. As Carnegie said: Of all the factors that make a person successful, 85% depends on interpersonal and communication skills, 15% depends on your professional skills. It can be seen that success often depends on the atmosphere of interpersonal relationships. Good interpersonal relationship can make college students' ability, knowledge and professional skills develop to the best state. Second, the current situation of college students' interpersonal relationship. At present, the interpersonal relationship of college students is generally harmonious. Adolescent college students are simple-minded, energetic and have a wide range of interests. They have a strong demand for interpersonal communication and are eager for friendship and more friends. Under this psychological effect, their interpersonal relationship shows a trend of diversification and openness, which is manifested in the expansion of communication scope: the object of communication has changed from former relatives and peers to a wider social communication group. Classmate communication is no longer limited to classmates, but develops to classmates at the same level, in the same department, in the same school and even in colleges and universities; Secondly, the frequency of communication increases and the means are diversified. However, the survey shows that many college students often feel difficult, lonely and lonely, and a few college students can't get along with their classmates. Specifically, the current situation of college students' interpersonal relationship is as follows: 1. The difficulties of college students' interpersonal relationship include that some freshmen have poor adaptability to the new environment and it is difficult to establish new interpersonal relationships entirely on their own. In particular, some only children are used to being spoiled, often self-centered and do not know how to share and cooperate with others. After entering the university, these children often can't get along well with their classmates and live together. There are also some college students with poor family economic conditions. Because of poor family circumstances and financial constraints, they often feel inferior and withdrawn. They always feel inferior, which is manifested in their psychological lack of confidence in interpersonal communication, and their behavior adopts the way of escape and retreat, so it is difficult to establish good interpersonal relationships with their classmates. In addition, a few college students can't handle the problems in life and study correctly, and often have bad emotions, such as anxiety, depression and jealousy. Because of a small problem and I don't know how to adjust it, it is easy to directly affect my interpersonal relationship, which is characterized by being unsociable, indifferent and refusing to communicate. 2. The interpersonal relationship of college students actually exists stratification based on economic conditions. In China's colleges and universities, the disparity between the rich and the poor in family economic conditions is still quite prominent. Different economic conditions determine the gap between college students in hobbies, consumption concepts and behavior patterns, which will be transformed into psychological and ability comparisons over time and have a certain impact on their interpersonal relationships. In fact, economic conditions determine the realistic problem of who college students associate with and make friends with, forming two special student groups centered on rich students and poor students. Students with poor economic conditions can't pay too much communication costs, so they naturally have less opportunities to participate in various activities and communication occasions. With the passage of time, there has been stratification among students. Even in a class, there is little or no communication between students from different circles. 3. The interpersonal relationship in college dormitory is not harmonious, and the relationship between classmates is tense. Dormitory life creates communication conditions for college students, but on the other hand, it also becomes the source of contradictions and disputes. College students come from all directions. They have different family background, educational environment, personality characteristics and habits. Living together for a long time will inevitably lead to contradictions and conflicts of one kind or another. In today's society, another change in the relationship between classmates is the monetization of interpersonal relationships. Influenced by bad social atmosphere, many college students think that interpersonal relationships are inseparable from money, and the proportion of economic exchanges is also increasing in reality, such as giving gifts to classmates' birthdays, treating guests first, joining the party to evaluate scholarships and so on. 4. The development of virtual network of college students' interpersonal relationship has promoted the development of social interpersonal relationship to a certain extent, and created convenient conditions for people's communication, so that people can communicate with relatives, friends, classmates, teachers and strangers or establish new interpersonal relationships without leaving home. The virtual society formed by the Internet is attracting more and more people to communicate with each other online. As a susceptible group, college students' virtual interpersonal communication has brought unprecedented changes to their lives. The rich and convenient network society attracts them and makes them fondle admiringly, so that some college students cannot do without the network. But at the same time, long-term addiction to the Internet has weakened the ability of college students to communicate face to face with others. After all, online communication can't replace real interpersonal relationships. The lack of interpersonal skills can easily lead them to form a self-enclosed character, unwilling to communicate with people in real life, resulting in abnormal real interpersonal relationships, such as indifference to friends, loss of interest in things around them, and in severe cases, selfish and irresponsible communication attitudes. Thirdly, it is also an important task for college students to guide them to adjust their interpersonal relationships correctly. From the above characteristics of college students' interpersonal relationship, it can be concluded that the factors affecting college students' interpersonal relationship are nothing more than cognitive factors, psychological factors and social factors. Therefore, we should guide college students to adjust their interpersonal relationships correctly from these aspects. 1. Advocating a good social atmosphere and creating a good social environment are the basic prerequisites for guiding college students to adjust their interpersonal relationships. Nowadays, an important manifestation of interpersonal relationship under the condition of market economy is the gradual weakening of emotion, which is replaced by the exchange of material interests. At present, the bad social atmosphere of "money first" and "everything depends on relationship" which is popular in society also affects the freshmen's view of communication. So as to form a harmonious and healthy social environment and a fair credit social environment; Vigorously carry forward the excellent moral tradition of the Chinese nation, establish the moral principles of patriotism, law-abiding, courtesy, honesty, unity and friendliness, advocate an aggressive and optimistic attitude towards life, establish the humanistic spirit of ultimate concern for life, condense into a new moral system in the new era, create a harmonious social environment, and cultivate fertile ground for the healthy development of college students' interpersonal relationships. 2. Create a good campus environment Schools, departments and classes can consciously carry out colorful activities according to the interpersonal characteristics of college students, such as various parties, literary competitions, speeches and salons. Through these activities, we can carry forward the spirit of equality, honesty and friendship, make the campus and classes full of vitality and popularity, create a good interpersonal environment for college students, encourage them to take the initiative to participate in communication, establish good relations with students from different backgrounds, and give full play to their talents. 3. Guide college students to form correct cognition and learn to eliminate psychological barriers. Discordant interpersonal relationships come from imperfect cognition. A correct understanding of yourself and others is the premise of regulating interpersonal relationships. Students come from all over the country, have different backgrounds and life backgrounds, and also have their own strengths and weaknesses, which are natural. In the case of interpersonal problems with classmates around us, we should first correctly understand ourselves and put ourselves in a correct position, and we should not be condescending and domineering, which will only aggravate the tension of interpersonal relationships and is not conducive to communication. Knowing yourself correctly also includes "accepting yourself" or "accepting yourself correctly". People who can't accept themselves can hardly treat others correctly. For example, people who can't accept their own shortcomings will feel inferior. Once this kind of psychology is not alleviated, the "hostility" to the people around you will become an obstacle in interpersonal communication, and it is difficult to be sincere and frank in the process of communication. Therefore, it is necessary to guide college students to learn to overcome psychological barriers, such as stereotypes, jealousy, inferiority and so on. For example, don't be biased against classmates' origins, family economic conditions and academic achievements, but should give them understanding, care and help to enhance their self-confidence; Be good at discovering and giving full play to your own advantages, and learn to look at yourself from different angles; When you don't get along well with your classmates, you can adjust and control your bad mood in many ways, such as participating in cultural and sports activities, diverting your attention, and broadening the scope of making friends. 4. Guiding college students to master the knowledge and skills of interpersonal communication (1) should follow three basic principles of good interpersonal relationship. First, the principle of active opening. College students come from all over the country and have different habits, experiences, feelings of life and customs. Only by opening yourself up actively can we make better friends and let others know ourselves and others. Second, the principle of equality. There are differences among college students, which come from the original living conditions and background. Therefore, in study and life, student cadres should treat ordinary students equally, students with excellent academic performance should help each other equally, students with good family economic conditions should help students with poor conditions, students from cities should help students from rural areas, and Han students should help ethnic minorities and even male and female students equally. In practice, it is not easy for students to truly treat each other as equals. In colleges and universities, counselors or class teachers should guide and set an example. Third, the attitude is enthusiastic. Enthusiasm is a strong and infectious emotional state. In interpersonal relationships, the enthusiasm for people can cover up all ugliness, and the warm treatment between classmates can effectively close the relationship between them. (2) Learn to treat others' behaviors correctly. In dealing with people, you should immediately express your attitude clearly about the behavior you like, and don't "reluctantly" praise others. People in a bad mood should adopt the method of "listening", listen to each other sincerely and patiently and comfort him. One of the most difficult problems in interpersonal relationships is how to deal with behaviors that you don't like. In classmates' communication, an intentional or unintentional behavior of others may affect your interests, or some opinions of classmates conflict with yours. At this time, the common attitude is to answer blows with blows, which can only further worsen interpersonal relationships. Once you encounter this situation, you should calm down and think about how to solve the problem without hurting your feelings. (3) selective communication. Nowadays, college students' interpersonal communication is not only concentrated in schools, but also gradually increases with the society. Consciously choosing those who have ambition, morality and taste will help to form a positive and healthy interpersonal network. In addition, there are many communication skills that are conducive to the formation of good interpersonal relationships, such as the correct use of verbal and non-verbal skills, giving people sincere praise and smiles, and proper use of humor, which are also conducive to the adjustment of interpersonal relationships. Is this ok?