"full of losses, modest benefits." This is a famous saying in China's oldest book Shangshu. What does this mean? At the opening ceremony of the Eighth National Congress, Chairman Mao bluntly said: "Modesty makes people progress, while pride makes people fall behind. We should always remember this truth. " When I was a child, I often heard my parents admonish Shangshu and Chairman Mao. I didn't quite understand these two sentences at that time, but judging from the tone and expression of the adults, it should mean: don't show off too much, keep trying. When I grow up, I feel very modest. Knowing means knowing, and not knowing means not knowing. I try not to talk nonsense. I would rather show it to others than cover up my curiosity and naivety. But along the way, unfortunately, I found it difficult for most people to be open-minded, including those parents I talked to. When reading history, my understanding of modesty has been greatly sublimated. We not only find that countless clever debaters in history have stumbled because of their modesty, but also realize that modesty is the foundation of jihad and the supreme way to victory. No matter in the wild battlefield with swords and shadows, or in the intertwined political struggle, the unpretentious people will often be defeated by the modest people in the end. Sun Tzu's art of war said that "victory lies in knowing but not doing it" or "showing the enemy to be weak" is essentially an open-minded method. Chairman Mao once pointed out that great politicians in history are often great military strategists, but great military strategists are not necessarily great politicians. The reason may be that people who engage in politics are more familiar with people's psychology and know the way of self-denial than those who engage in military affairs. After entering the society, especially after I arrived in Beijing, I contacted, studied, communicated, discussed with people from all walks of life, at all levels, and even at all ages because of my conceited "enlightenment" mission and the belief that "people will not abandon me, and I will not abandon people". Those who have encountered all kinds of arrogance have more truly realized the word "modesty". Don't say that knowledgeable pedants are humble and embarrassed, that is, those Jianghu people with great wisdom. They are not only knowledgeable, but also complete in practice, so it is difficult for them to be truly vain. They may be complacent for a while, "disappointing" or even "showing weakness", but stubborn themselves can't put on airs in the end. In this sense, there are also high and low levels of humility, low-level humility is easy, and high-level self-denial is difficult. Why is modesty so difficult? According to "people-oriented", "I" first moves in a circle around "I", that is to say, people are self-centered first. This determines that the easiest thing for people to do is to be complacent, complacent and self-righteous, but never be self-righteous! Modesty is difficult precisely because it first despises human nature. People used to be self-righteous, but now people should be self-righteous. Isn't it fatal to empty yourself first? Dale Carnegie, who specializes in the advantages and disadvantages of human nature, did not mention that he was a murderer, but a self-righteous "cow". What crime? The mountain is high, and it is difficult for anyone to lower his head. The deeper reason is that true modesty, or complete self-denial, requires physical and mental exhaustion and clear mind; In the words of western philosophy, it is to complete the ultimate thinking about the universe and life; In religious terms, you need to be in contact with God, even with God. Without that kind of extreme self-confidence and self-confidence, one is unlikely to really relax. Sooner or later, he will be anxious, will float, and will be impatient. In the final analysis, true modesty is true self-confidence, and it is calm and calm after wanting to go all over the world! In this sense, it is not modesty that makes people progress, but progress that makes people modest. It can also be described as "virtual is real, real is virtual." In real life, how to judge whether a person is modest or even high or low? It's very simple. I can see it in two moments: 1. See if he can listen to others; 2. See if he can accept the dazzle of others; These two points are up to standard, and it can be roughly concluded that this person is already a valuable and modest man, but he is not "having more porridge and less virtue". A monk and virtue must have two things: 3. See if he can stand the humiliation of others; See if he can guide others to make progress. If a person has these two skills, there is no doubt that he is truly modest and can be a bodhisattva, because he is not only modest, but also makes people progress, and is well-deserved "modesty makes people progress"!