Have you ever come to dinner uninvited?
One day in June 2002, I heard two pieces of news at the same time. One is that Li Yuanyuan, 4 1 year-old, died young with many unfinished wishes; The other is my colleague's friend, a 4 1 year-old economist, who is very capable, but eventually exhausted. The most regrettable thing is that although his income was extremely high, he still lived in a small house of 4 1 square meter before his death. It is said that he has been tired for many years. He paid attention to economy, society and friends, but neglected himself.
The three "4 1" gave me great stimulation and made me realize that many people, including me, are so easy to ignore themselves and the foundation of their existence, such as health and mood. Some people say that a seed has to go a long way to blossom. It was a sacred and arduous journey, but in fact, we are not even as good as a seed, because a seed knows how to absorb sunlight and nutrients as much as possible, and knows the value of patience, but we humans often can't take care of ourselves and moisten ourselves.
I noticed an interesting phenomenon: generally speaking, people are often generous when entertaining others, and sometimes even people who are not very familiar with them may implement a standard far higher than that of themselves. Few people will go to a very elegant place, sit there quietly and taste the food they have always wanted to taste, especially when they want to taste it alone, regardless of the price and without missing other entertainment. For such people, socializing with themselves is the most important thing. Only socializing with themselves can socialize with their own lives. Unfortunately, there are not many such people.
Not long ago, I went back to my hometown to visit relatives and met a relative of mine. In fact, he is only in his 40 s, but he seems to be 60 years old. He gets up at 4 am every day and goes to bed in the afternoon 12. Because he keeps minks, he often stays up late. Milk is for my granddaughter, money is for my son, and only illness is for myself. And this is just a portrayal of the lives of countless people in China.
Bai Yang once said that a man who turns his wife into a yellow-faced woman after a few years of marriage is a fucking man. What he said is a very important meaning. A person should take good care of his loved ones before he gets old, including taking care of himself and his family. An old man I know wants to do most after retirement is to go back to his hometown where he hasn't been for 40 years and visit his brothers and sisters in several nearby cities. His son and son-in-law are both taxis, but they are both busy with business in the city. Let's talk about it later when we have time. But unfortunately, in less than a year, the old man had a stroke and died soon. He has no time to talk about it.
Be the best shoemaker
Lincoln is one of the few presidents born in poverty in American history. When he became president of the United States ... his father was a shoemaker, and the whole Senate felt a little embarrassed. In fact, a shoemaker's son manages the reputation of the richest people and the upper class. They think they are superior because they are richer and belong to a family with a long history. The whole Senate was embarrassed, angry and offended. When Lincoln became president, no one was happy.
When Lincoln made his first speech in the Senate, an arrogant bourgeois stood up and said, "Mr. Lincoln, before you start your speech, I want you to remember that you are the son of a shoemaker." The whole Senate laughed. They want to humiliate Lincoln. They can't beat him, but they can humiliate him, but what they didn't expect was that it was really harder to humiliate someone like Lincoln than to ascend to heaven.
Lincoln said quietly to the man, "I am very grateful to you for reminding me of my father." He's dead. I will always remember your advice. I know I can never be a good shoemaker like my father. " The audience was silent-this was Lincoln's performance when he faced these words ... He told the man, "As far as I know, my father used to make shoes for your family. If your shoes rub or don't fit-although I'm not a great shoemaker, I learned this art from my father at an early age-I can correct it. For anyone in the Senate. If those shoes are made by my father and need to be repaired or improved, I will try my best to help, but one thing is certain: I can't be as great as him, and his craftsmanship is unparalleled. " When he thought of his father, his tears fell down.
In fact, smart people will know very well that many roles can never be played well by themselves. He knows the boundary between his ability and intelligence. He won't chase things that don't belong to him impulsively, but he also knows what he can do well. He will do his best, just like Lincoln's father. He doesn't want to be someone else, he just wants to be the best himself, try his best to realize those sincere wishes and try not to leave any regrets in life.
Only those who can light a lamp for themselves can light a lamp for others. Like the stars in the sky, although they can't shine on the earth, they can always shine on some people's hearts and eyes. Which star are you?