Some children procrastinate, have inertia in their bones and do nothing, as if they have no competitive strength. On the contrary, some children are strong in their bones. I want to be the first in everything. For example, academic performance, such as sports, such as calligraphy exhibitions, such as painting competitions.
Here, I really want to say a few more words on the topic of "children are particularly strong".
There is nothing wrong with being strong, which is a good phenomenon. However, there is a limit to everything. As parents, we should not only urge our children to overcome the inertia of not making progress, but also remind them that it is appropriate to be strong and make progress.
Life is a game, and only along the way can we know that all encounters are scenery.
Let children know that they can do their best in anything and have expectations, but they don't have to put on unnecessary shackles and put on some labels that they think are extremely beautiful. They have to cross all kinds of obstacles and get the so-called first place.
Maggie Cheung is so outstanding that he won the runner-up in the Miss Hongkong beauty contest a few years ago.
Therefore, whether you can stand out in the society, taking the first place every time on weekdays is only a reference at best, and the real result depends on whether you can stick to your dream all the way.
Over-emphasizing and trying to compete for the so-called first place will, over time, make children have an ecstasy that is divorced from reality and pays too much attention to form. The picture has a shiny shell, but it is not realistic and close to the essence of life and nature. In this way, the seeds of vanity expansion will be quietly planted in children's young hearts. Then it is actually a ruthless injury and destruction to the child's body and mind. Jianghu people only have a hollow reputation. Once they meet their real opponents, they will be vulnerable in the end. Can't stand careful scrutiny, let alone big waves.
In addition, if the child fails to achieve the set goals, it will also create a spiritual shadow that is difficult to heal. Will gradually become weird, irritable, will see who is not pleasing to the eye, see which is awkward, so that the bright world around will feel dark. Shiny colors, in his eyes, will gradually fade.
Everything must have a degree, pay attention to rules and regulations. If you go too far, you will lose your rules and regulations, your position and your heart. It's okay to be strong, and it's better to set goals, but the premise is that you can't just shout slogans, you should work hard for them, and on the basis of your efforts, you should recognize the reality, understand the reality and respect the reality. In fact, as parents, we should always let our children know that all efforts are good, man proposes, and God disposes. Everything should conform to nature, be strong and peaceful, and develop a mentality of facing everything peacefully and coping with everything.
Believe that heaven rewards diligence, you have worked hard, and God will give you a fair answer.
There is a limit to everything. Once you exceed the limit, the effect you want to pursue enthusiastically will not only be unexpected, untenable and imperfect, but also be counterproductive and too strong, and will also cause terrible mental illness. Over time, the loss outweighs the gain.
In real life, some children jump off a building because they have not been admitted to an ideal university. Some children committed suicide because such an ideal could not be realized as expected. I believe that as a parent, you have heard of some such examples.
Everything is measured, so is being strong. Don't be too strong, and don't deliberately pursue some unrealistic results ... only live once, work hard, and leave the rest to nature. Let the children really release their nature, say it happily, laugh, sing and jump. Let their childhood be full of real happiness, and let our life be full of sunshine. ...