Differences between Chinese and Western Educational Methods
Spiritual needs and material needs
Some families in China love their children very much and provide them with material conditions that they can or even can't. They prefer to scrimp and save and let their children have everything, but they often ignore their needs mentally and lack due respect for their emotions and personality. This is contrary to the western concept of family education. In the process of cultivating children, westerners pay more attention to their spiritual needs and respect their personality, but as long as they eat nutritious food and wear comfortable clothes in their lives. Therefore, parents should change the way of education, so that children can truly feel your love for their children, your concern and your expectations, which are the driving force for their growth. Only in this way can parents' expectations have a positive effect on their children.
Reasoning and concrete guidance
China pays attention to theory and macro guidance, and is rough and reasonable; The west pays more attention to concrete and microscopic guidance. We have a lot of parents, so we just have to be reasonable. If a child does something wrong, he will be beaten in a daze, and he still doesn't know where he is wrong after playing the child. In many foreign families, children will be punished for making big or small mistakes. For example, they are not allowed to watch TV or play games outside with their children for several days, that is, they are not allowed to do what they want, so that they can experience right and wrong in the consequences of their actions. Children understand what to do and what not to do from these various experiences; What is right and wrong to do, so that we can understand the truth of being a man step by step.
The importance of family education
Family education has attracted much attention since ancient times. Someone once said that the fate of a country is in the hands of its mother rather than those in power. ? This sentence profoundly points out the role of parents in educating their children. According to the traditional concept, family education refers to the education of parents to their children in family life. Family education is the foundation of school education and social education, and it is also a lifelong education. Start with the date of birth and the baby's family education history? The education of "the beginning of life" plays a fundamental role in a person's life. After children go to primary school and middle school, family education is not only the foundation of school education, but also the supplement and extension of school education.
Beware of inappropriate educational methods.
First, nagging.
Many children say they are tired of listening to their parents' nagging. Please think about it, you are still tired of the constant nagging between husband and wife. The husband's nagging annoys his wife, and the wife's nagging annoys her husband. Nagging is a foolish way of tutoring.
Second, the number is declining.
Meanwhile, nagging is a curse. Children are always scolded at home: why don't you study hard? Why don't you do your homework? Why do you only play? Criticism is more vicious than nagging, because it often has the nature of condemnation. Completely cancel the sign reduction formula. It is these wrong ways that poison children, destroy their learning state and extinguish their enthusiasm.
Third, reprimand.
It's not good to train children easily, and that's not right either.
Fourth, beat and scold.
The number of parents who beat and scold is small, but the influence on their children is even worse and must be abolished.
Fifth, the standard type.
It is stipulated that the average score of children's exams must reach how many points, the ranking should be in the top few, which key middle school to attend, and which famous university to take the exam. This is the so-called standard type.
Reaching the standard is also a way of tutoring that hurts children's five enthusiasm. Enterprising children will set goals for themselves. Parents will impose high goals that are divorced from their children's reality, and children will be very tired and increase their mental burden.
Sixth, fatigue.
The school engages in sea tactics, and parents add extra study time and content.
Seventh, arrange and accompany reading.
You worry about your children's study, give them endless counseling, and study with them all day.