Don't care too much, you can often create success. Qian Weichang has been studying all his life. After the age of 64, he studied computers, created the "money code" and won the 1985 Shanghai Science and Technology Invention Award. At the age of 88, he also wrote a 50-page long article "Study on the Structural Characteristics and Uniqueness of China Rubik's Cube", which was praised by many people. For Qian Lao, fame is just a cloud. Only by maintaining a normal mind, "never too old to learn" and advancing with the times can we continuously create our own brilliance.
On the contrary, things that you care too much about are often not done well. The main reason is that overexertion and concentration will screw up what can be easily done at ordinary times. Before Wang Nan 16, the big sister of table tennis, was squeezed out of the 48th World Table Tennis Championships; Not long ago, in the snooker competition, Ding Junhui regretted stopping the first round of the China Open and was really a superstar. When we are being swayed by considerations of gain and loss, all your experience and skills can't be brought into play.
The wise Zhuangzi left us a thought-provoking story: a chess player made a bet with a clay pot, and his skills could be fully exerted; Besides, he gambled on gold and lost a lot. Zhuangzi defines this as "people who attach too much importance to external things are clumsy at home", which means that people who attach too much importance to external things must be clumsy in their inner world. The poet Lu Li has a poem: "Treat yourself like dirt!" If you always think of yourself as a pearl, you will always have the pain of being buried. "
So, how can we not care too much? As Fan Zhongyan said, "Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself." Life is too short for us to grieve and regret; Life is so long, after it is lost, we still have many opportunities to create and succeed. When you are grateful for all the joys and sorrows in your life, when you learn to look at the gains and losses with a peaceful mind and don't care too much, you will have a simple and brand-new life.