Children who grow up in a chaotic and conflicting family environment, or whose parents are often furious, often think that loud quarrels and insults are normal ways of communication. Therefore, when they are adults, they often get along with others in this way of communication, which is easy to hurt their intimate relationship. In addition, growing up in an environment where both parents are often depressed and often quarrel will greatly improve the anxiety level of children. They may have trust problems and think that family life is unstable and all relationships are fragile and unreliable.

Children are often rejected and ignored by their parents.

Children need their parents to "see" and accept them for who they really are. If parents can't see their children's true character, but blindly demand their children's ideal appearance, children are prone to depression, lack of self-confidence and lack of opinions-they often need others to evaluate themselves and tell them what to do. For example, a shy child, but his parents always ask him to deal with various social occasions. Children don't really change as their parents expect, but they don't understand their own advantages and disadvantages. They may develop contradictory self-knowledge and often think, "I am like this now, but I should have been different." Parents ignore the true face of their children and refuse to accept their nature. On the one hand, children always feel that they are not good enough until adulthood. On the other hand, many of them become nitpickers and often set unreasonable standards for others.

Is a survivor of traumatic experiences such as mental/physical/sexual abuse.

Abuse is a very complicated problem, and its impact on children can't be described in several papers. Generally speaking, being abused often leads to these consequences: inferiority complex, anxiety, depression, trust problems, low self-evaluation, aggression, intimate relationship and problems in gender relations, and so on.

One parent's role is missing or emotionally abandoned by one parent.

Many children lack love. They don't lack food and clothing, but they never feel the love of their parents and have a strong sense of distance from their parents. In fact, these parents often have serious problems (they are also victims of the family! ), so that they can't express warmth and love to their children. Children often feel that they can't feel the love of their parents because they are not "excellent" or "perfect". They may become perfectionists, demanding themselves and others around them with ridiculously high standards. And because they feel that they are not good enough, it will be difficult for them to open their hearts to their partners and share their feelings and ideas. Because they are always worried that once the other person knows their true appearance, they will lose their respect and love. At the other extreme, they may be extremely dependent on their partners and hope that their partners can give them endless love, which they can't get from their parents.