During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, Gou Jian, King of Yue, was surrendered by Fu Cha, King of Wu. He pretended to be a vassal and kept horses for Fu Cha, the king of Wu, who was ill in bed. Gou Jian personally tasted dung for him, gained trust and was put back to China. After returning home, Gou Jian sympathized with the people, reduced taxes and lived with them. He also hung gall on his head, often tasted gall, and recalled his insults in the state of Wu to warn himself not to forget the past. After more than ten years of hard work, Gou Jian finally wiped out Wu and killed Fu Cha at one fell swoop, realizing his ambition to rejuvenate the country.
Similarly, the story of Zhuge Liang insulting Sima Yi during the Three Kingdoms period is well known. Zhuge Liang went out of Qishan six times and was stationed in Wuzhangyuan. Sima Yi knew that his military strategy was not as good as Zhuge Liang's, so he took delaying tactics and did not send troops for a long time. Zhuge Liang sent Sima Yi a dress and a letter, which said: "If you dare not go out, you will bow down and surrender respectfully;" If your sense of shame is still alive and you have some masculinity, you will immediately admit it and fight regularly. "Sima yi looked around and was very angry and well documented, but Sima yi insisted on not fighting. Soon Zhuge Liang broke down from overwork, and Sima Yi won without hurting a soldier. No wonder the ancients said, "You have to be able to stand the offense and disobedience that others can't stand, so that you can achieve career fame that others can't achieve." "
Gou Jian and Sima Yi are indeed broad-minded, but in real life, we can easily find that some people haggle over every ounce for their petty profits and even fight with each other; There are also people who can't rub sand in their eyes, and they have to be reasonable. As for turning against each other because of an excessive joke, fighting because of strangers' collision and fighting because of neighborhood disputes, there are countless more. It is impossible to expect such a person to achieve great things.
Patience needs to be cultivated, humiliation needs to be measured, and humiliation is a realm. Endurance is a sharp knife in my heart. To cultivate the tolerance of stabbing your heart with a knife, you have to endure the hatred of killing your father, the hatred of taking your wife, the humiliation of your legs, the bullying of your attack, and the injury of fighting for the front ... If Sima Qian can't even stand the humiliation of castration, how can he complete the masterpiece Historical Records of "studying heaven and man, becoming a family" and become a fairy and everyone?
Patience is motivation. As the saying goes, "There are mistakes in the busy, and there are good people in the bitter." To achieve something, we must observe the opportunity, wait for karma, and be anxious. Patience and endurance are a kind of commitment, a kind of treatment, a kind of waiting, and an understanding of the law of cause and effect. Many successful people have endured many failures, and the more frustrated they are, the more brave they will eventually succeed. Therefore, in difficulties and hardships, it is better to endure self-control, and once the time is ripe, it will come naturally.
Su Shi, a poet in the Song Dynasty, said in On Hou: "In ancient times, the so-called heroes must have extraordinary festivals, and human feelings cannot be resisted. Men are not brave enough to draw their swords when they see humiliation and stand up and fight. There are great and brave people in the world, but they are not surprised when they die, and they are not angry when they are added for no reason. This means that they have great hostages and their ambitions are far away. "
Some people think that being kind, patient, uncontroversial, tolerant and never harsh is sheer cowardice, but they don't know that such people are really people with great wisdom, benevolence and courage. Some people even think that it is a coward to endure everything, be humiliated by dirt, admit mistakes and accept punishment. In fact, to measure your own conditions, you must temporarily bear the burden of humiliation. And never admit your mistakes, often afraid of taking responsibility, is the real coward.
"Only by taking responsibility can we be brave; Once quiet, you can change. " A person's mind is open and aboveboard, and he can be inclusive, omnipotent and omnipotent. The so-called heroes in ancient times all had extraordinary attainments and patience beyond ordinary people's endurance. A knife in the heart is forbearance. If you can stand this knife, inch by inch efforts will teach you success. "Tolerance is great, and virtue is great; Be patient, things are in the economy. " If you can tolerate everything, you can accept everything and endure everything, and then you can change everything and overcome everything. The so-called big-bellied tolerance, resignation, is not a born loser. On the contrary, he is a strong man with great achievements!
Writing here, I remembered a story of Sui Tang Jiahua. Loude, the prime minister of the Tang Dynasty, also had a younger brother, who was appointed as the secretariat of the country. He asked his younger brother, "How can we live in a high position without being envied, so as to save ourselves and achieve the goal of filial piety?" The younger brother said, "From now on, even if someone spits in my face, I dare not complain and just wipe it off silently." Hearing this, Mr. Lou said earnestly, "People spit at you because they are angry with you. If you spit, it means that you hate others, confront others and contradict others. This is tantamount to adding fuel to the fire. It is better not to erase him, let the saliva die and bear it with a smile. "
I think today's highly civilized society is a people-oriented era, and people's quality and cultivation are constantly improving. Everyone knows that we should stress principles on major issues and style on minor issues, but if we want to spill saliva on our faces without wiping it, I'm afraid not many people have this realm and accomplishment, and most people don't have this sense of proportion. But just remember one truth: in order to achieve your goal, you must learn to be patient in all kinds of adversity. Patience is beneficial and fighting is harmful. It is true that the humiliation we emphasize is not absolute, but relative. If you follow the rules blindly, you will lose your principles, even your personality and even your national dignity.