Doing good also needs wisdom, which requires us to put ourselves in a position to provide a space for the recipients to protect their self-esteem, so as to help others without being known.

In a domestic university, if a student eats more than 60 times a month in the campus canteen, and the total consumption is below 150 yuan, that is to say, the consumption per meal is lower than that in 2.5 yuan, this student will attract the attention of the school. After the school verifies the situation, the monthly subsidy of 160 yuan or 100 yuan will be automatically credited to the student's "campus card" account without the student's application. This kind of "hidden funding" is to make students lose their dignity and gain benefits.

Yes, let people accept help with dignity, which should be an important starting point for good people and must not be ignored. I once heard such a story:

A businessman suddenly felt pity when he saw a pencil salesman in rags. Without thinking, he stuffed 10 yuan into the pencil seller's hand and walked away without looking back. After a few steps, he suddenly felt that it was inappropriate to do so, so he quickly turned around and apologized: I forgot my pen, I hope you don't mind. Finally, he said solemnly, "You are a businessman like me." A year later, in a social place where business gathered, a salesman in a suit and tie was greeted. He said gratefully, "You may have forgotten me long ago, but I will always remember you. You gave me confidence and dignity. "

Every time I feel that a businessman is just a simple sentence, it can make people feel confident and regain their self-esteem. Respect is a kind of cultivation, a kind of character, and a manifestation of affirming and recognizing people. Respect is not worship, flattery or flattery, but a science. If you learn to respect, you will learn to respect yourself, and you will learn and master an element of life.