The career growth of psychological counselors is of great practical significance. The following is my psychological growth counselor's paper, welcome to refer to!
abstract
With the acceleration of people's life rhythm, psychological pressure is increasing; As a result, the psychological counseling industry is booming. In the process of psychological counseling, the counselor's own personality characteristics will play a decisive role in the process and effect of counseling. This paper tries to summarize the main aspects of psychological counselors' personality, and puts forward the ways of their personality growth, so as to promote the construction of a good relationship between counselors and visitors and help them better.
Psychological counselor; Character; Personality growth
Psychological counseling can be said to be a noble cause that life affects life and personality affects personality. Counselors' own personality and their growth are important links in psychological counseling. Scott parker, a famous American psychological counselor, mentioned in his book The Road Few People Walk: "How far you can lead others depends mainly on how far you can go."
I. Concept definition
(1) psychological counselor
Psychological counseling refers to the relationship between those who help others and those who seek help. In this relationship, the means of helping others and the atmosphere created by them make people gradually learn to treat themselves and others in a more positive way, which is a definition of counseling by American psychologist Canel. In China's "National Professional Standard for Psychological Counselors", it is clearly defined that psychological counselors are people engaged in psychological counseling, and their occupation is defined as "psychological counselors are professionals who use psychology and related knowledge, follow psychological principles, and help clients solve psychological problems through psychological counseling techniques and methods".
(2) Personality
The definition of personality has always been expressed in different ways. In 1937, G.W. allport lists 50 definitions of personality, so this paper only lists the two definitions of' personality' that the author supports most.
Personality refers to the inherent tendency of individual behavior, which is manifested in the integration of individual's ability, emotion, needs, motivation, interest, attitude, values, temperament, personality and physique in the process of adapting to the environment. The so-called personality characteristics, literally speaking, are one's own personality, one's own behavior, one's own thoughts in daily life, and refer to individual differences between people in psychology and behavior.
Personality refers to the inherent tendency and psychological characteristics of individuals to people, things and themselves in social adaptation. Performance is the integration of ability, temperament, personality, needs, motivation, interest, ideals, values and physique. It is a self with dynamic consistency and continuity, and a unique psychosomatic organization formed by individuals in the process of socialization. Integrity, stability, uniqueness and sociality are the basic characteristics of personality.
Second, the study of psychological counselors' personality traits
What personality traits should psychological counselors have to be competent for psychological counseling? In this regard, many scholars have also put forward different views.
This paper summarizes the characteristics of psychological counselors' performance level, namely: caring, humorous, good listening ability, tolerance, consulting experience, necessary life experience, insight, sensitivity, adaptability, passion, strong appeal, strong affinity, dedication, clear self-role orientation, personal charm, active learning ability, sense of responsibility, care, tolerance and consciousness.
It is believed that psychological growth should only include self-concept clarification, value promotion, emotional therapy and job burnout.
Using semi-structured interviews and questionnaires, it is found that the selection rate of the following 15 personal characteristic words is 100%: sincerity, carefulness, wit, respect, * * affection, tolerance, patience, affinity, warmth, creativity, optimism, acceptance, reason, courtesy and concentration.
By comparing the excellent psychological counselors with the general group, it is concluded that there are differences in basic attitude, interpersonal understanding and insight, flexibility, influence, self-awareness, self-control, sound personality and so on.
After many times of analysis, the personal growth analysis with similar contents is classified, and finally it is concluded that personality characteristics include self-confidence, being able to know oneself objectively, accepting different opinions from others, having positive expectations for others' abilities and potentials, being able to frankly express their feelings of failure, being good at listening, being patient and having affinity, which makes people feel warm.
It is pointed out that successful psychological counseling requires psychological counselors to have the following personality characteristics: optimism, positivity, understanding, tolerance, acceptance, affection, respect, enthusiasm, strong happiness, objectivity and high moral standards.
The personality characteristics of psychological counselors have always been a topic of discussion among scholars. Some of them are recognized, but more personality words are mentioned. In view of this, the author is terrified and puts forward his own personality standards for psychological counselors: self-knowledge, insight, healthy mentality, respect, value neutrality, self-knowledge of human nature, optimism, positivity and sincerity.
Third, the ways of psychological counselors' personality growth
As a psychological counselor, you can't just focus on professional growth. The perfection of personality can not be ignored. Only by taking two measures can psychological counselors serve visitors better. As Wei Yaoyang said, personality growth is a necessary prerequisite for psychological counselors to help others and help themselves. What methods can psychological counselors use to promote their personality growth? The author puts forward his own views from the following aspects.
self-consciousness
The main ways for psychological counselors to realize themselves are: asking questions by themselves, writing consultation diaries, filling out case evaluations, watching consultation videos, attending training and academic seminars, receiving mutual consultation and peer counseling, seeking professional supervision, collecting feedback from visitors and analyzing others' imitation of their words and deeds. Self-awareness can help counselors accumulate experience, improve their consulting skills and reduce frustration. This is very necessary for early psychological counseling, and it is also a way to maintain psychological balance.
(2) insight
Self-awareness mainly refers to the psychological counselor's understanding of self-counseling, and the awareness of how to better help the seekers help themselves and better complete the psychological counseling. Insight refers to insight into other people, especially for psychological counselors, and insight into visitors. In this regard, psychological counselors can train step by step, starting with a series of video materials, and analyze the expressions and behaviors of characters; It is absolutely correct to "train" people around you until you are skilled enough to communicate directly with friends and relatives.
(3) Respect
True respect is to treat visitors equally, and it is also a full affirmation of their personality and value. A consultant who truly knows how to respect visitors will inevitably face his visitors with an equal attitude, whether he is lucky or unlucky, successful or unsuccessful. Psychological counselors can respect themselves as much as possible and don't underestimate themselves and their careers; Respect everyone in life. Everyone is equal, which should be borne in mind by psychological counselors. Even the visitor, who is troubled by something, can't change the fact that he has the same personality as you.
sense of worth/values
In psychological counseling, the counselor's personal values will affect the visitors, and the counselor will even fall into the black hole of judging and educating the visitors with his own values. About the order of generations, about selfishness or dedication, about fairness, about gender roles, about power relations in important interpersonal relationships, about enterprising, trying or retreating, and being comfortable, these are some value themes that China psychological counselors often face. In the face of visitors' problems, the correct way should be to know their thoughts and all their emotions afterwards, instead of accusing them of their mistakes and teaching them to walk left or right like their parents. Psychological counselors can have their own values, but that doesn't mean they can tell visitors what to do.
(5) the concept of human nature
As a psychological counselor, do you know what kind of human nature you support? Do humans have the nature of growth and development? Are people rational, kind and trustworthy? Do people have the ability to guide themselves? Are people good or evil? Psychological counselors should strengthen their self-awareness of their own view of human nature and always reflect on what kind of view of human nature they have; After you figure it out, admit the truth. Because in psychological counseling, psychological counselors will subconsciously use this view of human nature to label visitors. Only when psychological counselors know themselves can they better understand and accept themselves and avoid unnecessary troubles in psychological counseling.
Psychologist Corey once said: "As a consultant, the most important tool is to become a consultant yourself." In the relationship between consultation and interview, psychological counselor is an extremely important link. If you can grow up in personality, it is good news for visitors and good for you. This paper only puts forward my own ideas on five aspects of personality traits, and the connotation of personality richness is not just these. I hope scholars can do better research. In addition, the author's literature is quite limited, and there is no empirical research, which is also the direction we should continue to work hard.
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