What is an accusatory personality?

Accusing personality always sees other people's mistakes, shortcomings and reasons. Every one of you is not good, TA can be keenly discovered and even expressed excitedly, which feels like discovering a gold mine.

Accusing personality can be divided into three categories: hedgehog personality, negative energy personality and broken mouth personality.

Hedgehog-type personality: likes to pick holes, but nobody likes it.

Negative energy personality: used to shirk responsibility and blame mistakes on external factors.

Broken mouth character: the mouth of a knife hurts more than a knife.

Characteristics of accusatory personality

1, accustomed to blaming others, accustomed to personal attacks.

2, used to "nitpicking", seeing nothing is pleasing to the eye, used to being against others.

Without Tao, there is no concept of kindness.

4, irritable, emotional.

5, enlarge the shortcomings, no advantages

The root of the formation of accusatory personality

1, from parents

If parents are accusatory personality, there is a high probability that children will become accusatory personality.

2, from the past life

Teenagers are traumatized by too much criticism or serious failure, and their subconscious sense of self-worth is seriously insufficient and they feel inferior. Therefore, it is a psychological defense way to improve one's sense of value by criticizing others.

3. Working environment

At work, I have benefited a lot from finding fault with others and performed well. For a long time, I have formed an accusatory personality.

What should I do in the face of accusatory personality

1, if you have an accusing partner or parent and you don't want to leave them and want to improve your relationship, you can do this:

(1) Learn to distinguish. This is t? Saying that you are wrong is not really wrong. What TA said does not mean that it is like this.

(2) There is no need to argue. Tell ta that you are great, you are smart, you speak well, approve ta, and then stop arguing.

If you are an accusatory person and don't want to blame others, you can try to do so.

(1) Cognitive adjustment. Realizing the seriousness of the problem, the harm it has brought to TAs, and the courage to admit mistakes are more worthy of being loved.

(2) Subconscious adjustment Don't be overly immersed in inferiority and fear to enhance self-confidence and softness, and you will be treated well.

(3) You can try to face all this and take the initiative to say: I was wrong, that is the beginning of maturity.