I grow, I am happy-personal growth analysis report
Life is a process, so is psychology. Growth is full of joys and sorrows, joys and sorrows, and lack of ups and downs. Looking back on my growing process for more than 30 years, my childhood life away from my relatives made me realize the importance of family ties and formed my independent, stubborn and sensitive personality. My unyielding and confident teenage life has created my warm, emotional and strong personality; Active and diligent young people make me feel happy and confident. In particular, the failure of marriage and the successive blows at work have given me a potential inferiority complex and personality change. Every effort in the process of growing up has brought me new gains, and every setback has made me feel inferior, but I still want to thank the setbacks for tempering me, because it has taught me to care, be grateful, be strong and learn to face the enthusiasm of life more actively. Close contact with psychology originated when I was studying in a normal school. At that time, I was full of curiosity about this mysterious and fascinating subject. After working in education, I feel more deeply the importance of mental health to everyone, so I am determined to become a psychological counselor and look forward to a more wonderful life experience in the future.
Psychological counselor's second-level thesis, self-growth experience, self-analysis, professional industry analysis
(Text) I am over 30 years old and suddenly feel a lot of troubles. The confusion of parent-child relationship, the pressure and boredom of work have troubled me for a long time. By chance, I came into close contact with psychological counseling, knowing that psychological counseling is a career of helping others and helping themselves. For myself and my family, I participated in the training of psychological counseling. After nearly four months of study, I feel younger, my troubles in life are reduced, and my health is much better. In the process of learning, I have been thinking about the road I have traveled, some of which are right and some are wrong. From a psychological point of view, I am still immature and need to constantly improve myself. As a result, my mind has become young, full of hope for life, full of curiosity about the world, and have more insights into life. It turns out that after the age of 35, life is the beginning of glory. First, self-growth analysis The starting point and ending point of everyone's life trajectory are the same: the instinct that begins with life and ends with death; And everyone's life course is different: the peak of some people may be the trough of others, and vice versa. Even in the same historical period, the same historical events may have different influences on everyone. The ups and downs of life have made each of us a unique life course. Philosopher Hesse said: "It is not my responsibility whether life is meaningful or not, but it is my responsibility to arrange this life." Everyone can master this period of life between life and death. What makes life meaningful is not the beginning or the end, but the process. In this sense, no matter the peak or the trough, it is the growth of life, which deserves our cherish and aftertaste. In a cold season when plum blossoms smell, I came to a family that is not harmonious. My parents have strong personalities. Everyone has their own opinions, and communication and coordination are not smooth enough, which often leads to contradictions and frictions. Because my parents were very busy at work and my brother was only one year older than me, my parents sent me back to my hometown in Shandong when I was two or three years old. After living in that very poor and backward country for more than two years, I often miss my parents and expect them to take me home as soon as possible. However, the long waiting and missing made me feel neglected. I'm redundant. I don't understand why I came into this world. I don't remember how the days passed day by day. The pain of lacking maternal love and fatherly love is like an invisible sand dune eroding my soul. The sand is piling up. After the oasis receded, the spring dried up and loneliness surrounded me. There is no source in my heart and endless tears in my eyes. Remember I always cry, secretly cry, sad cry, endless cry. In order not to make me cry all the time, grandma and grandma took me back and forth. Every time I go to grandma's house or grandma's house, everyone is very kind to me, which makes me feel concerned. Insecure family environment has put me in a state of stress since I was a child. People have become sensitive, anxious, cautious, emotionally unstable and have a strong defense mechanism. But there are countless beautiful wishes lurking in my heart, which makes my appearance calm, but my heart is undercurrent. I have a very capable father. My father is a meticulous man. Since childhood, my brothers and sisters' schoolbags have been sewn by my father. The kites, lanterns and pistols we played were all made by my father. The elaborate production makes our friends envious. My father is also excellent at work. He is rated as an advanced worker and an excellent party member every year. Looking at my father's stack of award certificates, I admire my father again and feel deeply. I must be a daughter who makes my father proud. My father's earnest persistence also cultivated my earnest and meticulous character. After school, I studied hard and my grades improved rapidly. I experienced the pleasure of diligence. Every praise from my parents and teachers can give me great satisfaction. Excellent grades, teachers' appreciation and the envy of my peers have strengthened my self-confidence, and learning has become the main source of my childhood fun. At the same time, the three teachers I met in primary school, even junior high school and normal school also played a decisive role in the formation of my character. They have enriched my life, guided my life and laid a good foundation for the tempering of my character. When I was in primary school, because of my outstanding performance, I was appointed as a class cadre by the class teacher, which gave me a good exercise in my ability to handle things, communicate with my classmates and lead. More importantly, through the competition, I became a cadre of the Young Pioneers Brigade and was appreciated by the brigade counselor Zhang. He appointed me as the team leader, and I personally directed the major events and meetings of the school brigade. All the teachers and students in the school don't know me. At that time, I really experienced success and felt the great satisfaction brought by self-confidence and success. I began to walk out of the shadow of inferiority, from dependence to self-reliance. I feel that I can make such a big change. Thanks to Mr. Zhang's appreciation, I admire him from the bottom of my heart. It can be said that teacher Zhang is my first lucky star! He made me feel confident again; It was he who made me develop good study habits; It is also he who makes me feel valued, admired and successful. Childhood is a turning point in my life and the first peak of my life development. With this sense of accomplishment, I entered junior high school and met a fatherly class teacher, Miss Wang. When I was in junior high school, I served as monitor and academic Committee member. In three years, my working ability, my will and my abilities in all aspects have been tempered. I'm going to graduate from grade three, and I've always wanted to report to the normal school. Because of the interference of the last examinee, I lost confidence in being admitted to the normal school. Subconsciously, I always thought that I couldn't pass the exam, and I had to make up for a year to be admitted to the normal school. So, that year, I began to give up on myself. Coupled with poor family life, I began to help my parents sell vegetables in the market while going to school, and my grades dropped rapidly. After understanding the reasons for my decline in grades, Mr. Wang helped me to ease my psychology, encouraged me and made up lessons for me like my father. He taught me the purpose of learning, taught me self-esteem, self-improvement and self-confidence, and urged me on the side. Teacher Wang is my second lucky star. It was during this period that I learned to be grateful and care for others. In the third year of the cram school, the school moved to a far, far place. I have to change buses twice a day, and it takes about two hours to get to school. The poverty at home and the placement of students make me feel sensitive and inferior. To this end, Mr. Wang cares for me with fatherly feelings. He asked me to put all the books I didn't need to take home in his office every day. I went in and out of his office like his daughter every day, which greatly reduced my inferiority complex. He often brings me some delicious dishes for lunch every day. I still remember the Mid-Autumn Festival that year. I ate a moon cake with bean paste for the first time. In retrospect, I still think that moon cake is so sweet. At that time, I secretly told myself to study hard and jump out of the dragon gate. For this reason, I dare not slack off, but devote myself to my study. I work hard, assiduously, diligently, never give up and persevere. This has made my grades soar. I ranked first in the regional unified examination that year. In order to get good grades in the physical examination, Mr. Wang leads me to do physical exercise every day and teaches me various sports skills. On the day of the physical education exam, my parents didn't come to take the exam with me, but Miss Wang came. In his encouraging eyes, I played the physical education exam for a long time and achieved satisfactory results. After my diligent study and unremitting efforts, I was baptized in Black May. That year, I was admitted to Fushun Normal School as I wished. I stepped into the sacred ivory tower and successfully completed the qualitative change of "Carp yue longmen". This is the second peak of my life development, and it makes me feel the joy of achievement. Once, I complained that my parents failed to provide me with a superior environment. Now, I thank them very much. It is these that make me develop the quality of hard work and perseverance. I began to learn to give and share for others. I began to feel my own growth and exercise, the bitterness and joy of others, and the ups and downs of adults taking responsibility ... With sincere respect for the teaching profession, I also started my third year of study with great expectation. In normal school, I pay great attention to cultivating my own ability. Under the recommendation of teacher Chen, the head teacher, I became a student cadre, and my interpersonal skills were further cultivated. In front of most students from rural areas, the inferiority complex brought by hours has also been well changed at this time. Because of his excellent work, he has been recognized by many teachers and classmates. This time is also another peak of my life and psychological development. After graduation, I was assigned to teach in Nantai Primary School with excellent results. Because of his outstanding working ability, he inherited his father's advantages: diligence, enthusiasm, thoughtfulness and carefulness, so he stood out in his work and made enviable achievements in all aspects. Soon, I was promoted to be the Young Pioneers Counselor of our school, and the 100-member drum band I personally organized won the championship in the whole region, creating a historic miracle in our school. Since then, I have gradually become the backbone of the school, and various honorary titles have followed. My life's fate has completely changed. It should be said that at that time, I began to enter a peak of my career. The rapid development of my career has brought me unprecedented self-confidence and profound knowledge and understanding of the value of life. The teacher's work ignited my passion, and I really realized what responsibility and greatness are. I grew up with my children, and my dreams and theirs are skillfully woven together, rising slowly, forming an invisible huge magnetic field. I have never let go of my happiness, persistence and emotion. It was then that I realized that I was an adult. While harvesting the success of my career, I also began to look forward to the happiness that love brought me. Because I read too many Qiong Yao's novels when I was young, Qiong Yao's Sketch of Perfect Love, the beautiful description of the hero and heroine, and her persistence in feelings deeply infected me and changed my whole cognitive world. At that time, there were many unrealistic longings and longings for love and marriage, and people became emotional and melancholy, fond of fantasy and impulsive. Beautiful love is intertwined with the love of parents who have been missing since childhood, which makes me full of beautiful longing and yearning for love and marriage. As a result of a long-term biography with a junior high school classmate, Hongyan, he gradually developed feelings, and the attachment psychology formed since childhood played a role in him. Because we are classmates, we know each other very well, and my father and his parents are in the same unit. In addition, he is loyal, enthusiastic and kind, especially his tolerance and my competitive personality complement each other. Psychological compensation made me attached to him, a deep attachment, and soon we fell in love. During the period of love, the lack of sense of security, insecure and sensitive me often put us into contradictions, stumbling and full of personality conflicts, which led him to move on before marriage, but I was once afraid of losing this feeling of being cared for and refused to let him go. Therefore, in his contradiction, hesitation and wandering, we quickly entered the marriage hall in his promise. However, this marriage died when the child was less than one year old. Before I could enjoy the happiness and joy brought by marriage, I suddenly fell into a gloomy abyss. As soon as I went to work on maternity leave, I worked as a young pioneers counselor for four years and was ruthlessly dismissed by the new leader. The failure of marriage and the frustration of career are simply worse! When I go to work every day, facing other people's pitying eyes and different views, the embattled life makes me feel pain and fear, and my heart falls into the ice cave, without support and warmth, and I secretly shed painful tears. Every day, a thick haze hangs over my heart forever. At that time, I fell into the lowest valley of my life, my self-confidence was greatly reduced, and my inferiority complex filled my whole body and mind. I was particularly tired, slept lightly at night, and was impetuous when I met things. Every day, I live in nostalgia for the past, dare not admit reality, escape from reality, and live in the accusation and pain of my ex-husband. In order not to burden my parents, I work hard every day, but I let my careful parents see the clue with a casual sigh. Although they often comfort me, I still stubbornly confine myself to an increasingly narrow space. Later, when my mother followed me to Lacrimosa, my father sighed. I felt deeply guilty and blamed myself: if I continue to be so decadent, I will not only harm myself, but even my closest parents will follow me and shorten my life. However, I can't change my situation. Until an accidental opportunity, I was seconded by the Propaganda Department of the Municipal Party Committee. Facing a group of strangers and unfamiliar environment, I deeply disguised my past. Just like being strong and pretending to be fragile and conceited and pretending to be inferior, I use my own efforts and study to cover up my inferiority and loneliness. But working and communicating with the leaders of the municipal party Committee every day, I was gradually infected by their cheerful attitude towards life and my mood began to change slowly. I work hard, full of energy and enthusiasm. It is said that my youth has injected new vitality into the propaganda department. At this time, although the haze has not yet dispersed, the bright sunshine has spilled in. I try to make myself happy and young. I began to look for lost self-confidence and began to reflect on myself. What reason do I have to complain about my misfortune? Is there any reason why I am not excited about life? "Misfortune" is just an excuse. The main reason is that I poured all my feelings into others and lost myself. I found that my marriage failed because of my cognitive bias. I am still obsessed with it. If I concentrate 99% of my energy on misfortune and pain and get into a dark corner, my life will be bleak; If I concentrate 99% of my experience on my happiness, my life will be very satisfied. Isn't it what people often say, a cup with half a glass of wine, are you staring at the mellow lower half or the empty upper half? Looking out from the fence, do you see yellow mud or stars all over the sky? I have combed my life for more than 20 years and found a very lucky feeling in my own misfortune. So, I said to myself, "I want to face the reality bravely and admit it, and I can't be a deserter divorced from reality." I want to be cheerful and confident, and I want to be an attractive person. "I realized that only through self-efforts and self-improvement can I change myself, reshape my image in the eyes of relatives and friends, and get everyone's respect and concern. In the process of this change, I feel the change brought by changing my cognition, which means that if I want to be a happy person, I must be happy first, so that I can spread happiness to everyone around me. Finally, after crossing this hurdle, I learned to calmly deal with setbacks in life with a grateful heart and a pair of appreciative eyes. Looking back on the road of life, every effort is substantial. Now I pay more attention to the pursuit of self-realization. I signed up for a training course for psychological counselors this year. After nearly half a year's study, I found inner peace, and people became quiet, tolerant, optimistic and positive. In my study, I gradually understand that only by learning to accept and tolerate people around me, less jealousy, more love, less suspicion and more trust, and striving to create a space for true feelings, can we establish a harmonious relationship with others. At the same time, I also understand that no matter how humble a person is, as long as he is confident, optimistic and enterprising, he will certainly become a person of great benefit to society and an accomplished person. Like me, even if I am humble as dust, I will certainly blossom on the dust as long as I work hard. In order to make my life fruitful, I set myself a goal, that is, to become an excellent psychological counselor, to help people around me get rid of the haze in their hearts and to give them a sunny day.
In order to achieve this goal, I think I need to strengthen from the following five aspects: 1, enhance my self-confidence and improve my personality. 2, calm as water, feel at ease. 3. spread love and be tolerant of others. 4. Keep learning and making progress. 5. Learn to be grateful, help others and be happy. Second, the analysis of the professional industry When I was a child, I mentioned the word "psychology". We always associated it with superstitious activities such as divination and divination, and thought it was illusory and mysterious, and there was no scientific basis. From 65438 to 0989, when I was in normal school, I systematically studied psychological theory, only to know that this is an ancient and emerging science, and China people still know little about it. According to the teacher, there were less than 500 practitioners engaged in psychological research and teaching in China at that time. Strong curiosity drove me to buy and borrow many books about psychology, and the more I read, the more interested I became. Learn Teaching Psychology before work to understand the psychological characteristics and laws of students of different ages and lay the foundation for their own teaching work. Now, I teach Chinese in a primary school. In order to satisfy students' curiosity about novelty and stimulate their interest in learning, I often change my teaching methods to keep them fresh. I find that students don't use their brains when writing and copy model essays. I never arrive late or leave early. I was deliberately late for the composition class 10 minutes. As soon as I got there, I came up with an essay topic "In the 10 minutes when the teacher was late", so that they could write their own psychological activities in class and encourage them to write their true feelings through comments, thus improving their composition level. Therefore, my classmates all like to listen to my class, and they are willing to ask me for advice when they encounter difficulties and problems. Usually, I often read books such as Teacher Psychology, and plan and organize educational activities according to students' hobbies, so I can work with ease. My relatives, friends and colleagues often ask me for advice when they encounter problems, and all problems can be solved promptly and effectively through my guidance and help. Whenever I see their sad faces and relaxed and happy faces, I feel extremely satisfied and gratified. Someone once asked me why I wanted to be a counselor. The answer is interest, expectation and rational professional thinking. From the perspective of their own profession, teachers are a profession of dealing with people, and troubles will plague every student. Teaching and educating people are two skins. As a qualified class teacher, we should not only teach good books, but also educate good people. I have been teaching for more than ten years, getting along with students day and night, and seeing them off every session to witness their little changes. Nowadays, students are under too much psychological pressure and have too many psychological problems: the pain of growing up, the pressure of studying, the confusion of socializing, the temptation of puppy love and so on. Facing those clear and childish eyes, my heart is quite unhappy. Years of teaching career have made me feel special about students. I hope to help them solve various psychological problems, shape a sound personality and enable them to grow up healthily. To be a qualified psychological counselor, you need to have a healthy psychological state first. Because the fundamental purpose of psychological counseling work is to help clients to alleviate their emotional and behavioral troubles caused by contradictions and conflicts in their inner world, and to help them achieve psychological soundness and maturity in self-knowledge and self-improvement. If there are cognitive blind spots, unresolved conflicts and emotional obstacles in the psychological counselor's heart, then he (she) will not be able to help the helper clarify the distorted points in his/her understanding and resolve his/her inner conflicts and contradictions, and may unconsciously project his/her bad emotions on the helper during the consultation. At the same time, only when you are healthy inside can you have the confidence to consult others. I will learn more about myself, clean up my problems and improve my personality through self-reflection and self-analysis, or with the help of higher-level psychological counselors, so as to lay a good personal quality foundation for future psychological counseling. To be a psychological counselor, you need to have rich psychological knowledge, good personality charm, necessary help skills and necessary knowledge of laws and regulations. I have a good personality, good communication skills, certain psychological knowledge and help skills. I can constantly know myself, enrich myself, analyze myself and improve myself, and have the basic conditions to become an excellent psychological counselor. At the same time, I am also soberly aware that at present, my knowledge and experience in psychological counseling are not rich enough, and my practical experience is also relatively small. To be an excellent consultant, you need to be in line with the academic level of the world's leading related majors. You should read more, learn more, listen more, think more, summarize more, and more importantly, practice more and innovate more. First of all, I want to change the current lack of psychological knowledge. I will spend a period of time reading psychology books extensively, choosing genre theories that are in line with my psychological characteristics, which I recognize and admire, further studying and exercising psychological counseling skills, increasing practical experience and meeting the needs of counseling work. Secondly, I want to change the way and content of the original professional characteristics. Having been a teacher for more than ten years, I have a professional problem in communicating with people. I must abandon the original shortcomings in the process of communication and form a conversation style that meets the requirements of psychological counseling. Finally, I want to change my inherent identity. I used to listen to students talk about psychological problems and help them solve their worries. But at that time, my identity was to solve problems as a teacher, and the psychological counselor was faced with help seekers. The task is to identify people with normal psychology and mental illness, help them solve psychological problems and carry out psychotherapy. So I must completely change my identity and be a good psychological counselor. To be a psychological counselor, we should not only have enough reserves and training in knowledge and skills, but more importantly, we should be able to uphold the concept of pursuing life growth and constantly increase our ability to transcend our own limitations in real life. I have a set of methods to relieve or release psychological pressure. I will take measures when psychological pressure appears, and I will not be close to collapse. Walk for half an hour every morning, do exercises and exercise with students every day, and insist on yoga training. I will vent my bad emotions during exercise, consume energy and ensure a good sleep and rest. I will use reading books, listening to music and writing blogs on the Internet to relieve my bad mood. Keep a peaceful mind, learn to tolerate yourself, learn to let go at the right time, and learn to take a step back at the right time. Because I believe that as long as you are alive, there is hope, the sun will definitely rise tomorrow, and there will be new hope in a new day. In the past few months, I have studied the related knowledge of psychology in a targeted, in-depth and systematic way, learned all kinds of theoretical knowledge and operational skills needed for psychological counseling, and also felt the pain and tears buried in my heart. I witnessed how this pain and tears slowly turned into courage, strength and action. These days, my own heart has also undergone unprecedented changes. So I fell in love with this profession and enjoyed it, because helping others solve problems is also a process of self-reflection. Help others help themselves and improve themselves. I find that while helping others, my greatest gain is to become full, happy and happy. Looking back on my growing experience, I find that the setbacks and pains I suffered in the past are actually a kind of resource and a fortune, which can make me realize the values of kindness and sincerity in life. Now, through systematic study, my inferiority and depression in the first ten years of my life began to dissolve. Gradually, my feelings and experiences about my parents, others, things and life have changed in a directional way. I finally found that life is so happy, so rich and so cherished! Through the analysis of my own life course, I personally feel how important it is to have a good and healthy mentality, which is the premise of success in life. The career of psychological counselor is a lofty career that can make me mentally mature, mentally healthy and perfect my personality. At the same time, it is also a cause of giving away roses and leaving fragrance in my hands. When I can use psychological knowledge and psychological counseling skills to urge others to make such changes, I find that I am really willing to realize the value and significance of my life in this way. Finally, I want to end my growth report with a passage from teacher Isabella Chow: "Every one of us wants to flow into the sea, a happy hometown. When water flows into the sea, it will fluctuate. In other words, there will be disappointment, success, failure, joy, pain and frustration in our life. Which paragraph is not good? Which paragraph can be rejected? Happiness is a kind of wisdom, a pursuit, an artistic conception and an attitude towards life. Face life with appreciation, don't give up if you fail, that is your future success; Don't despair of pain, it is your future joy; Continue to persevere in setbacks, that is your future success; Enjoying pain, loss, worry, loneliness and injustice is like enjoying the night as the dawn of the future, because it is inevitable in life. " "How can you see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain?" I expect, I work hard, I enjoy, I cherish the happiness and happiness I have experienced, and I also cherish the misfortune and pain I have felt. Life itself is a rich dish, and my occupation is the main ingredient in this dish. If I appreciate it with my heart, all the encounters will be the joy of life-I sincerely thank everyone I meet in my life, and with your support, my life will be meaningful.