The key to dealing with interpersonal relationships is to be aware of the existence of others, understand their feelings, satisfy themselves and respect others. There are several important interpersonal principles: 1, the principle of sincerity in interpersonal relationships. Sincerity is the golden key to open the hearts of others, because sincere people make people feel safe and reduce self-defense. The better the interpersonal relationship, the more the two sides need to expose part of themselves. That is, to communicate your true thoughts with others. Of course, this will also take some risks, but it is impossible to win the trust of others by completely packaging yourself. 2. The initiative principle of interpersonal relationship. Being friendly to others and expressing goodwill can make people feel valued. People who take the initiative often feel good. 3. The interaction principle of interpersonal relationship. Goodwill and malice between people are mutual. In general, sincerity for sincerity, hostility for hostility. Therefore, communication with people should be based on good motives. 4. The principle of equality in interpersonal relationships. Any good interpersonal relationship makes people feel free and unrestrained. If one party is constrained by the other party, or if one party needs to act according to the other party's face, it is impossible to establish a high-quality psychological relationship. Finally, it needs to be pointed out that good interpersonal relationships must be found in the practice of interpersonal relationships, avoiding interpersonal relationships, and trying to get the friendship of others can only achieve the ideal goal. I believe that being popular is sometimes better than being rich. The interpersonal relationship in college is relatively simple, so how to deal with the relationship with teachers and classmates has become the first thing we have to learn. First, how to deal with the relationship between classmates 1? How to deal with the relationship with students in the dormitory is a problem worthy of attention. Because of the different living habits, students living in this group feel particularly uncomfortable and uncomfortable. Some students feel very distressed because they are isolated by their roommates. "I don't know why, maybe I don't pay much attention to my way of speaking. I think people are starting to talk to me sarcastically. I may have accidentally mentioned that classmate, so everyone helped her. I feel very depressed. I think it's boring to go back to the dormitory, but I'm afraid I'll get into more trouble by saying the wrong thing. So I get up early every day, go to the classroom with my schoolbag on my back, and go back to the dormitory very late at night. Sometimes, even if you don't like it, you don't want to go back to the dormitory. I wandered around the playground and didn't go back until the lights went out. The students in the same dormitory are also sad. " One of our classmates has gone too far, but he has been isolated now, but I am also worried now, because the dormitory is not angry, forming an antagonistic situation. Actually, I don't think that classmate is useless, and I really want to talk to him. But everyone ignored her. If I take the initiative to be nice to her, it will inevitably lead to such a result and will not be ignored by everyone. "Some students, even if there is no such situation, feel that they are not very happy in the dormitory." Our dormitory relationship is ok, there is no quarrel, but everyone is very polite, and there is nothing to say about missing them, which makes them feel bored. "This may be a problem that all college students may encounter. How to deal with the relationship with students in the dormitory? First of all, we must face up to this problem. Learn more about your own problems and their impact on interpersonal relationships in the dormitory. Because of frequent contacts and differences in students' personalities, all kinds of frictions and conflicts are caused, and dormitory conflicts are highlighted in various small things; Littering, making noise, earning a little money, smoking casually, disordered work and rest, overbearing words, being too intimate and so on. If it is not suitable, you can adjust your living habits appropriately and change your way of speaking in a way that others can accept and understand. Second, strive for more communication. Don't avoid communication because of some misunderstandings, but take the initiative to communicate with you and participate in your discussions and activities. Only in this way can we better understand ourselves and others, eliminate misunderstandings between them and strengthen mutual understanding and trust. Third, be broad-minded and be more understanding and tolerant of others. A college student with a new world should absorb the advantages of others and be more understanding and tolerant of his own shortcomings. Don't be too upset about some trivial disputes in your life at ordinary times. You should forget, forgive and understand. The so-called "big things are smart, but hours are confused." Spend your limited energy on doing the main things, such as doing your own study. Fourth, be strict with yourself. Pay attention to your words and deeds in the dormitory, and do not do to others what you don't want others to do to you. Help your roommates a lot, even if it is such a small matter as carrying water and asking questions. Start from me and strive to create a warm, harmonious and happy dormitory atmosphere. Be sincere to others again. People always unconsciously abide by the principle of reciprocity in interpersonal relationships. If you show your sincerity, you will be rewarded accordingly. Some people are afraid that their shortcomings will be seen by others and affect their image in others' minds. Psychological research has proved that people don't like a person who is perfect in all aspects, but a person who is excellent in all aspects and has some shortcomings is the most popular. So you don't have to care about your own shortcomings, you should have enough confidence in it. Finally, praise others from the heart, learn to appreciate and praise others, and say at least one comfortable word every day, such as: "You are great!" " ""Your hairstyle is beautiful! "This kind of praise will bring happiness and cause positive emotional reactions. Emotions are contagious, that is, they will infect people around them and bring happiness to them. " Happiness will melt the deadlock of interpersonal relationship and make dormitory relationship very harmonious. 2. How to deal with the relationship with other students First, learn to smile. On campus, you may meet your classmates anytime and anywhere. If you meet someone you don't know very well, just smile, stare at each other and nod your head. If you meet people you know well, you can also say hello to them. Smile is a symbol, a symbol that expresses "I like you, I like knowing you, I like touching you". In the material world, there is the law of conservation of energy, and in the emotional world, it is also the law of conservation of energy. Treat others as you treat others. Secondly, don't care too much about face. This means that when you encounter something we don't know, understand or know, we should accept it with an open mind and dare to admit it. Any attitude and behavior of covering up, avoiding and hiding is harmful to interpersonal relationship, because interpersonal relationship needs sincerity. Third, no emotions When we have different views on a classmate or something or a request and feel unhappy, we should remind ourselves that "the outside world is the outside world and I am myself". I should be emotionally independent from the outside world, remain stable and calm, and not be disturbed by the outside world. This is extremely important! Many students quarrel and fight because of contradictions, all because these students are too impulsive to control their emotions rationally. Therefore, we are responsible for all our emotions, even if it seems obvious that others are provoking us. This is a person's mental health with full self-esteem. Fourth, dare to say "no". This is very important, as long as we say "no" without emotion, it is a rational decision. These clauses are very influential. The most taboo is that you are unhappy, but at the same time you obey others with unhappy emotions and do things against your will. If you go against your will, you will lose yourself after a long time. After a long time, you will make the mistake of cutting your feet and fitting your shoes. Fifth, independence first, relationship. Don't take feelings as a lifeline. Whenever you encounter problems and difficulties, you should be the first to solve them and overcome them. If we weaken ourselves and are always eager for the care, teaching and safety of the outside world, then we will always be a child who is afraid of risks and has no creativity. And relationships that rely too much on others will not last long. Many of our female classmates are too close and dependent on each other, which will only bring pressure and restraint to both sides. Right deviation without distance will only suffocate both sides. Sixth, we have others in our hearts. At this time, others are not what others think of us, but their needs deserve our attention, their sufferings deserve our sympathy, their strength deserves our learning and their difficulties deserve our help. We're not just doing this for good relations. We can help a person who is attached to our military attache or sympathize with our enemy. We can learn from heresy and understand that even criminals have their needs that deserve our attention. Second, how to deal with the relationship with teachers In universities, teachers play many different roles, such as imparting cultural knowledge, guiding students' future and life path, students' psychologists, students' intimate friends and so on. Therefore, we should deal with the relationship with teachers. First, respect the teacher's work and have a good class. Respecting teachers is an action, but also a kind of respect from the bottom of my heart. Classroom teaching needs the recognition and support of every student. At the very least, don't be late or absent from school for no reason. Second, listen to the teacher with an open mind and do it in strict accordance with the requirements put forward by the teacher. In our daily study and life, teachers will teach us a lot of knowledge and the truth of being a man. As a student, it is not only a responsibility to oneself, but also a respect for the teacher's work, and it will also give the teacher the greatest comfort. Third, be polite to the teacher. Miss Lu Yu greeted me with a smile, active and enthusiastic. When the teacher goes to the dormitory, he should get up and say hello, stop the ongoing game or other things and wait for the teacher's instructions. When the teacher leaves, he should get up and see him off. When you meet a teacher by bike, you should take the initiative to get off. Fourth, when the teacher speaks, listen quietly and carefully. Don't clap, hush, whisper. Fifth, if you have any complaints about teachers, you should raise them through proper channels, and you can't contradict or abuse them face to face. After making a mistake, you should face the teacher's criticism bravely. Sixth, let the teacher go first when entering and leaving the gate and going up and down the stairs. When you accept the items given by the teacher, you should stand up and take them with your hands. Don't call the teacher indiscriminately. The teacher should stop when sweeping the floor. Seventh, you must ask for leave according to the procedure when you go out. Eighth, you should stand up and answer the teacher's questions. Pay attention to listening, be modest, and learn to use modest honorifics. Ninth, do what you can for the teacher, and take the initiative to help the teacher correct it if you have difficulties ~