Please write an argumentative essay or narrative of at least 800 words in combination with your real life.
Tip: grasp the core sentence "how do you evaluate others or how do you treat others' evaluation?" "Can be conceived from two aspects:
1. How do you comment on people?
How to treat other people's comments?
For example: how do you comment on people?
Example 1: Be frank and open your heart.
In real life, judging others is a common problem for everyone. Whether we can correctly evaluate others is not only the embodiment of world outlook, outlook on life and values, but also the display of moral cultivation and cognitive ability. Sometimes inadvertently, blurt out; Sometimes thoughtful and methodical; Sometimes detached and free, eloquent ... our ideological motives, our standards of right and wrong, our likes and dislikes, and even our views on things and attitudes towards life will be revealed unconsciously. Therefore, judging others is like a mirror, which seems to reflect the appearance of others, but actually shows our own soul. In this sense, we should open our hearts frankly and evaluate others correctly.
If we can honestly open our hearts and correctly evaluate a person, others will think that we are an upright person; If our evaluation is unique, others will admire us from the heart. However, if our evaluation of others is superficial and one-sided, others will think that our knowledge is mediocre; If we describe the good as bad, or the small shortcomings of others as big shortcomings, others will think that we deliberately belittle or vilify others out of selfishness, thus creating resistance; If we treat the bad as good and praise the obvious defects as achievements, others will think that we are flattering, or accept the benefits of others and deliberately shelter.
On the journey of life, we will consciously or unconsciously play the role of evaluating others anytime and anywhere. As for whether our role is elegant or clumsy, public opinion is outside the hearts of the people. For example, if a person spreads some hearsay everywhere, or makes mischief among comrades, or speaks ill of Li Si in front of Zhang San, then his "gossip" image will make people around him take in everything in a glance. Evaluating others not only shows our ability to understand things, analyze problems and distinguish right from wrong, but also shows whether we have public interests.
A person's knowledge level is high or low, and his eyes on problems are deep or shallow. Coupled with the influence of objective environment and personal feelings, it often leads to mistakes or even distortions in evaluating others. Therefore, it is necessary to look back and reflect on your own evaluation of others from time to time. If you judge people by their shortcomings, whether it is praise or slander, it is madness. Evaluation often has strong personal likes and dislikes and emotional color, which makes it easy for people to mix a lot of water when evaluating people with close relationships and deep connections; It is easy to enlarge the "dark side" when evaluating people who hate and have bad relationships. At this time, we might as well try to put others' comments on ourselves or another person, which is also a kind of empathy. Let's think about it. Do we have the same evaluation of ourselves? As an honest, selfless, upright and fair person, when evaluating others, we should try our best to find the causal relationship between the development and change of things from many aspects, levels, angles and all directions, try our best to reduce personal subjective color and strengthen objective standards. In this way, our evaluation will be more accurate.
Treat others as you treat others; You respect others, and others will respect you. As long as you open your heart frankly, you will realize the spiritual communication between people, the pleasure of understanding, the success of your career and the happiness of your life.
Example 2: Learn to evaluate others correctly.
Treat life correctly, communicate with others with an equal attitude, learn to correctly evaluate the advantages and disadvantages of others, be good at discovering the bright spots in others, and open your heart frankly, which will achieve spiritual communication between people, the pleasure of understanding, the success of career and the joy of life.
First of all, we overcome interpersonal cognitive prejudice.
In fact, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. Compared with others, it is to learn from each other's strengths and make continuous progress. In social communication, people's cognition may be influenced by many factors, and cognitive prejudice may even become an obstacle to communication. Only by working hard to overcome cognitive prejudice can we treat others correctly, stimulate their positive reactions and ensure the smooth progress of interpersonal communication.
The key to overcoming interpersonal cognitive prejudice is to establish confidence in successful communication, know yourself realistically and prove your strength through practice. Only when you are full of self-confidence, can you relax mentally, be calm and calm, and communicate with others naturally and generously. Always remember: My God is myself.
Students, today's society is an information society, and the process of interpersonal communication is actually the process of information exchange and circulation. A person who is not good at communication must be poor in knowledge and can only be a frog in the well. In interpersonal communication, people exchange ideas and experiences with each other and learn from each other. Through close and friendly communication with others, we can get sincere criticism and help from others, thus promoting self-improvement. In Zhu Zhechi, college students can get more valuable information and discover their own shortcomings by actively interacting with outstanding classmates around them, which is conducive to the improvement of their own abilities and the healthy development of their body and mind.
Secondly, we cultivate good psychological quality of communication.
In social communication activities, it is an important factor to cultivate good psychological quality of communication, which mainly includes sincerity, trust, restraint, self-confidence and enthusiasm.
Sincerity. Sincerity is an attitude of seeking truth from facts and a sincere friendly expression to others. People know each other, you know me, and a sincere heart can make the two sides in communication have mutual affinity and treat each other sincerely. A sincere heart can make the friendship between the two sides last forever. On the contrary, hypocrisy is the enemy of communication, and lies, deception, teasing and selfishness are the demons that destroy friendship and must be resolutely abandoned.
Trust. Trust is a positive attitude towards people. Only by treating people with great manners can people show great manners. In social communication, trust means trusting others' sincerity, understanding others from a positive perspective instead of being suspicious and protecting each other. Trust others must be sincere, not duplicity.
Restrain. Restraint is a tolerant will quality. When interacting with others, friction and conflict will inevitably occur, and restraint will often have the effect of turning enemies into friends. Restraint focuses on unity and the overall situation, even when one's self-esteem and interests are damaged. This open-minded and modest attitude is of great significance to the development of interpersonal relationships. Restraint is not unconditional, it should be rational, beneficial and restrained. If you just want to live in peace for a period of time and give in to others' unprovoked attacks and accusations, it is a sign of cowardice and not a correct attitude towards communication.
Confident. Self-confidence is a positive attitude towards yourself. As the saying goes, self-love has his love and self-esteem has his respect. So is self-confidence. In interpersonal relationships, confident people are always supercilious, natural and graceful, and talk calmly. Confident people are by no means narcissistic and blindly lofty, but are aware of their own shortcomings, good at listening to other people's suggestions and help, and brave enough to correct their own shortcomings and mistakes. However, in actual social activities, some people often lack this spirit, and often adopt an evasive attitude in the face of communication, which is too timid to cope with. I want to associate with people, but I am afraid that others will reject me and dislike me, so I don't want to walk in public and be embarrassed in front of everyone. Enthusiasm is an advanced emotional form, and it is a positive, powerful, stable and profound emotional reflection form for something. Enthusiasm can give people warmth, promote mutual understanding and melt cold hearts. Therefore, treating people with enthusiasm is an important psychological quality to communicate people's emotions and promote social communication.
In short, the communicator's good personality and psychological quality can arouse the object's positive similar reaction, and make it establish more and more intimate and harmonious interpersonal relationships with the increase of communication frequency and depth.
How to treat other people's comments?
Example 1: Have a pair of ears that are good at listening.
Text/Xiao Mengping
Children should listen to their parents at home; Listen to the teacher at school; Going to the society, we must consciously abide by various rules, laws and regulations ... As the saying goes: "If you don't obey the rules, you can't become Fiona Fang." Therefore, people live in the world and can't listen! Who can really be as helpless as Zhuangzi's dream of "taking the meaning of heaven and earth, resisting the debate of six qi and swimming endlessly"? But then again, you can listen to anything and decide everything. Actually, it is not. Isn't there a famous saying that it is the first duty of soldiers to obey orders? But there is also the truth that "the main order will not be affected". Is there no motivation to "dare to fight against bad people and bad things"? But at the same time, there are also exhortations to "save yourself, don't make unnecessary sacrifices" ... So, do you want to "listen"? Is it "listening" or "not listening"? In fact, this requires us to analyze specific problems and grasp the degree.
First, we should "listen". "Listening" is the source of wisdom.
Obeying instructions, suggestions, orders and laws and regulations ... these are the basic essentials we must have to acquire knowledge, solve contradictions, perform tasks and live a normal life, and can also be said to be survival wisdom. Cheng Hao, a Dali scholar in Song Dynasty, gave a lecture, and his disciples were fascinated. He naturally enriched his knowledge and increased his talent. "It's better to study for ten years than to listen to you", isn't that a witticism about "listening"? "Thousands of miles to write a book just for the wall, so let him three feet what's the harm? The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, and I can't see Qin Shihuang! " How can you not listen to this serious warning full of peace? As for caring for public property, not littering, consciously queuing, etc., it is not a good performance of "listening" ... As a student, if you can't be a modest listener, you will get lost in emptiness and superficiality; For disputes, if you can't listen to advice, it will inevitably deepen contradictions and expand cracks; For the order of daily life, if we can't abide by it one by one, society will be turbulent and life will be greatly affected ... so, we can't help but listen! Listening is also a kind of wisdom, which is of great benefit to both people and themselves. Listening has accumulated knowledge, resolved contradictions, promoted unity and maintained normal life order. There is no such wisdom, okay?
Listen, so important; So, what if you don't listen?
If you don't listen, you have great wisdom It is conditional not to listen, only in specific occasions and appropriate circumstances. Galileo dared not listen, breaking the conclusion that Aristotle had dominated for many years. Bruno had the courage to "not listen", opposed "geocentric theory", adhered to "Heliocentrism" and adhered to scientific truth, and paid the price of his life ... From this, it is not difficult to find that it is a responsible attitude to dare to say "no" on the premise of scientific knowledge instead of making random "guesses"; At the same time, we should also have considerable courage to break the traditional bondage spirit, even if we shed our blood, we should also have the spirit of sacrifice. We live in an era of advocating and encouraging "no". Our brand-new creativity, our dream of breaking through the shackles of old ideas, and our new discoveries that do not stick to old models must be based on science, courage, determination and even opportunities, and these must be based on wisdom. It is not a "no" based on careful consideration, it may be a shout, or it may be a few words in my sleep. In this way, it will affect individuals and the whole country. Didn't the late Qing government listen to the advice of loyal ministers, be conceited, close the door to the country and destroy the country? Didn't Wang Ming, a left opportunist, listen to advice and stand with the Kuomintang regardless of the national conditions, causing heavy losses to the Red Army and being forced to make the Long March? If Mao Zedong doesn't listen to the advice of Professor Ma Yinchu, a famous population expert, it will lead to a sharp increase in China's population and trigger a series of social problems ... If you don't talk about science, saying "no" casually is reckless, arrogant and reckless, which is extremely harmful!
So choose carefully between listening and not listening. This requires a pair of listening ears.
"Advice when least heeded is helpful to action", we are not easy to hear the voices of criticism and opposition, and we are also easily tempted by good words. We hear too many sweet words, flattering words and even slanderous words, and it is easy to "confuse our wisdom" and confuse our actions. Therefore, we must have a pair of ears that are good at listening. It should be widely spread and absorbed; We should also be good at learning from others' strengths and be keen on clarity. It should be able to distinguish right from wrong and tolerate honor and disgrace. Only by grasping this degree can we understand everything and bring forth the new.