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First, the analysis of the current situation of adolescent interpersonal distress

Interpersonal distress refers to the experience process of disharmony in interpersonal communication caused by various factors, accompanied by negative emotions such as anxiety, loneliness, inferiority, depression and depression. Interpersonal distress is the main reason that hinders the smooth development of people's social activities and affects the normal operation of other psychological lives. American psychologist Scott believes that "everyone needs others, so everyone has the need for interpersonal communication." Ding Zan, a mental health scientist in China, also pointed out that "the most important psychological adaptation is the adaptation to interpersonal relationships, so people's mental illness is mainly caused by the imbalance of interpersonal relationships".

It can be seen that effective interpersonal communication is the premise of mental health. The greater the time and space of interpersonal communication, the richer and more substantial the spiritual world of people, and the more conducive to maintaining psychological balance and harmony. At present, the society is in the information age, and interpersonal communication is becoming more and more complicated, which plays an increasingly prominent role in the health and development of individual psychology. Once interpersonal troubles occur, psychological imbalance will often occur, leading to psychological problems, and even serious crisis events such as attack, self-harm and suicide will occur.

The interpersonal relationship of teenagers mainly refers to the relationship formed by teenagers' getting along and communicating with surrounding individuals or groups during their school days, including classmate relationship, teacher-student relationship, family member relationship and other relationships. Teenagers are in the stage of rapid physical and mental development, and interpersonal problems are more likely to occur. Their self-awareness has been continuously enhanced, and their sense of independence has also been significantly improved. They are more eager to get respect and recognition from others, especially easy to understand and ask others from their own point of view, and often deny others according to their temporary likes and dislikes. The change of living environment from family environment to school environment also requires teenagers to change from being cared for to caring and sympathizing. Most teenagers still want to be the center of attention. They are usually harsh on others but ignore their own reactions. Once teenagers have interpersonal troubles, it is often difficult to adjust and eliminate them in time, which leads to the existence of troubles for a period of time, and some even exist for a long time. It will become an important reason to disturb normal life, affect the physical and mental health of teenagers and trigger various abnormal reactions.

Second, the relationship between adolescent interpersonal distress and mental health

1. Interpersonal troubles breed interpersonal barriers, which is not conducive to the construction of a harmonious interpersonal environment for teenagers.

Interpersonal estrangement is a phenomenon that people are wary of each other, unable to understand each other, unable to tolerate each other and unable to exchange ideas sincerely. In daily life, people always try to exchange ideas with others through some interpersonal activities, share emotional experiences, and learn "nutrition" from each other, so as to gain a sense of identity, support and self-esteem and overcome loneliness; But once there is trouble between people, it will breed interpersonal barriers and hinder the smooth communication and sharing between people. Teenagers with interpersonal troubles tend to distrust others, and are alert in interpersonal communication, which reduces the enthusiasm of interpersonal communication and is not conducive to building a harmonious interpersonal environment. If you don't trust others, you can't integrate into the group well and you can't really communicate with others; If communication is not smooth, it will lead to negative emotional experience, psychological pressure and maladjustment, which will affect mental health and even gradually obliterate enthusiasm and hope for life.

In real life, some teenagers often pin their emotions on virtual worlds such as the internet and online chat, trying to seek spiritual support from them, mostly because they are deeply troubled by interpersonal relationships, which breeds obstacles in interpersonal communication, making them farther away from real life and more seriously hindering the improvement of their interpersonal relationships and the construction of a good interpersonal environment.

2. Interpersonal troubles affect the emotional state, which is not conducive to teenagers to maintain a stable and positive attitude.

Interpersonal distress not only leads to disharmony in interpersonal communication, but more importantly, it is easy to cause negative emotional experiences such as anxiety, depression, worry, disappointment and fear in personal daily life, which is extremely unfavorable for individuals to maintain a stable and positive attitude and easily leads to the formation of many psychological obstacles. The research shows that there are significant differences in anxiety among students in different interpersonal states, and the more serious the interpersonal distress, the more obvious the anxiety.

Interpersonal distress will also affect the individual's emotional adjustment strategies. Studies have shown that interpersonal distress has a significant positive correlation with the restraint of positive emotions and the suppression and venting of negative emotions. The more serious the interpersonal distress, the lower the level of emotional regulation strategies.

Teenagers who are troubled by interpersonal relationships often find it difficult to deal with negative emotions rationally and easily fall into a state of helplessness and helplessness. Instead of venting and eliminating all kinds of bad negative emotional experiences in time and effectively through reasonable emotional adjustment strategies, they will fall into a vicious circle in the form of depression, depression and fear, showing a more intense state of depression, which is very unfavorable for teenagers to maintain a stable and positive attitude.

3. Interpersonal troubles affect self-evaluation, which is not conducive to the formation of correct self-cognition among teenagers.

An important role of interpersonal activities is to help individuals know and evaluate themselves in interpersonal comparison, thus forming correct self-cognition. Teenagers with interpersonal troubles often can't objectively understand themselves from the evaluation of others, nor can they grasp their own advantages and disadvantages from the praise and criticism of others, and can't organically combine "self in the mirror" with "ideal self" to form an objective self-cognition. Teenagers' self-evaluation and self-concept are in the process of rapid formation and development. Teenagers with interpersonal problems tend to be negative in self-evaluation, and tend to feel inferior, laugh at themselves and give up on themselves. They always think that they are unpopular, inferior to others, and can't take the initiative to accept themselves. The research shows that individual's self-esteem and self-evaluation are negatively correlated with interpersonal distress, that is, the more serious interpersonal distress, the more self-esteem individuals show and the lower self-evaluation.

Teenagers with interpersonal troubles are often accompanied by negative self-evaluation, and are used to treating and dealing with problems with the style of "I can't do it" and "I am poor". In the long run, their self-cognition and evaluation will be seriously deviated, and even lead to more serious psychological problems. Correct self-cognition and evaluation are the basis for guiding people to constantly overcome their own shortcomings, develop their own advantages and accelerate the improvement of their own quality; Teenagers who are troubled by interpersonal relationships often have deviations in self-cognition and self-evaluation. Even if they have excellent literacy in other aspects, their mental state is difficult to reach a truly healthy level.