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Interpersonal rules to help you succeed.

Platinum rule

The golden rule comes from a passage in the Christian New Testament: "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you." This is a law of being a man, also called "the law of being a man", which has almost become a universal principle of human life.

The Platinum Rule is the research result of Dr. Tony Alessandra, one of the most influential speakers and the most popular commercial radio speaker in the United States, and Dr. Michael O'Connor, a human resource consultant and subject expert. The essence of the Platinum Rule is "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you". Starting from studying the needs of others, we can adjust our behavior and use our wisdom and talents to make others live easily and smoothly.

The Golden Rule and Platinum Rule enlighten us that when dealing with interpersonal relationships, we should treat people with respect, sincerity and fairness.

Everyone has self-esteem. Self-esteem is caused by self-love and self-confidence, and the emotion of expecting to be affirmed by others or society. However, many people have the idea that I only respect those who deserve my respect; I don't need to respect someone who doesn't deserve my respect. In fact, respect and whether someone can do it are completely different. There is no question of whether respect is worth it. We should respect everyone's personality, just as we want to be respected by others.

Treat people sincerely. "Everything is wrong" says: "Clever deception is better than sincerity." A clever trick may succeed for a while, but it will be exposed after a long time. Honesty means doing things in good faith and treating others in good faith. Although you may be stupid and straightforward in words and deeds, you will win the trust of most people after a long time.

Treat people fairly. People want to be winners, but their opponents are losers. Under the guidance of this concept, people's actions are all centered on how to defeat their opponents and make themselves win. In doing so, the final result, whether you win or lose, will hurt each other. At the same time, the other party will treat themselves in the same hostile way, which will eventually lead to both losses.

Primary effect

The function of first impression is called the first cause effect, which refers to the influence of the first impression left by the social perception object on social perception in the process of effective communication.

The experimental research of real life and social psychology proves that people will leave a deep impression on each other in the first communication, people will consciously evaluate a person according to the first impression, and will use the impression to verify the first impression in future communication. The first impression people make on each other in communication often determines the interpersonal communication and relationship in the future. If you have a bad first impression, you may not continue to communicate with each other in the future, and it is difficult to form a good interpersonal relationship.

The significance of understanding the first cause effect is that it can make us consciously use this social psychological effect to help us communicate smoothly and establish good interpersonal relationships. In the actual interpersonal activities, leaving a good first impression on the communication object plays an important role in effectively carrying out the work.

recency effect

The so-called recency effect refers to the influence of the last contact on the social perceiver in the process of communication.

The first cause effect generally plays an important role in the perception of strangers, while recency effect plays an important role among familiar people. Frequent and long-term ambiguous contacts between people often take each other's last impression as the basis for understanding and evaluation, which often leads to qualitative and quantitative changes in their interpersonal communication and relations. In real life, the breakdown of friendship, the estrangement between husband and wife, and the breakup of friends are all related to recency effect.

halo effect

Halo effect, also called halo effect. It means that people look at the problem, just like a solar halo, and gradually spread from a central point to a bigger and bigger circle. Under the influence of halo or halo with outstanding characteristics, it is a social psychological effect to generalize the whole by replacing the surface with the point.

In our daily life, our cognition of others is mostly influenced by this effect. Because it makes people evaluate, know and treat people only according to a certain outstanding characteristic of people. If someone performs well once, he thinks everything is excellent, makes mistakes and says that he has been performing poorly. Therefore, the halo effect is a common social psychological effect, which leads us into the misunderstanding of human perception. The harm of halo effect is to turn a blind eye, which easily affects the accuracy and credibility of people's evaluation.

Stereotype effect

The so-called "stereotype" refers to the fixed image of a certain kind of people that exists in people's minds. There are countless stereotypes in people's minds: people of different ages, occupations, social status, places of origin, nationalities and genders all have a fixed image in people's minds. For example, intellectuals are "white-faced scholars" with glasses and pale faces; Farmers are rough, unpretentious and so on.

Stereotype effect, also known as social stereotype, means that when people meet others, they often consciously classify others according to their appearance and behavior characteristics, combined with the stereotype in their own minds, so as to evaluate a person.

Stereotypes in people's minds reflect people's past experiences. However, due to the great differences between various people and the influence of social development and changes, the image of the same kind of people cannot be the same or the same. Even the same person's language, behavior and even personality will change at different times and in different environments. Therefore, it will obviously enable us to understand diverse and changing people and their behaviors based on fixed images.

Thus, stereotype effect is also a kind of social psychological effect that makes people biased. In real life and work, we must consciously overcome the negative impact of this effect, strive to understand people and things around us historically, comprehensively and correctly, and reduce mistakes in judgment and decision-making.