Keywords: college love research
introduce
In recent years, it has become a common phenomenon for college students to fall in love. All walks of life and colleges and universities have also paid great attention to this phenomenon. But it still failed to form a relatively complete and systematic conclusion. As far as the present situation is concerned, the love craze set off by colleges and universities has a wide coverage and deep influence, which can not but make people think deeply.
1. College students' love situation
1. 1 Love psychology is independent and random.
Nowadays, most students are only children, perhaps because of loneliness in the process of growing up. They are impulsive to feelings and pay little attention to factors such as money, power and status. Psychological autonomy is very strong, on the issue of love, personality is outstanding, emotional light reality, impulsive, limited by traditional concepts since childhood.
1.2 weak self-control.
Once in love, college students are often not good at controlling their emotions, lack rational control ability, rely too much on the object of love, and suffer a little twists and turns. Because of the immaturity of college students' love, the success rate is low and the duration is short. Lovelorn is the inevitable result of most love. Once love is frustrated, it will get out of hand and have a great impact on school. The sadness, pain and other emotions brought by lovelorn will cause great psychological harm to the parties, and some even form a shadow, which may easily lead to serious psychological or physical diseases. If not solved in time, it may even lead to serious consequences such as suicide.
2. Several wrong views of love among contemporary college students.
2. 1 the purpose of love is not clear, just to experience love.
A considerable number of college students regard campus love as an ornament of life to dispel the loneliness of after-school life and change the monotony of life. Love becomes an emotional experience seeking excitement. According to our survey, 63% of college students think that campus love ends with graduation. This view of love indulges emotions, shirks responsibility and causes endless harm.
2.2 priorities are unclear, and love affects learning.
On the relationship between study and love, a few students think that love will promote study, more students think that love will hinder study, and more students think that love will be the same as before. College students' subjective desire is to do their studies well, but they lose themselves in deeper and deeper feelings, neglect their studies, and finally fall into endless sink because of failing classes or twists and turns in love.
2.3 too liberal, not in line with China's traditional moral values.
The western open thinking has impacted people's inherent ideas, and the oriental tradition of implicit and restrained has been gradually diluted by people. Answering "What do you think of college students living together?" 39% people think it is "resolutely opposed" and 6 1% people think it is acceptable and doesn't matter. When answering their own views on extramarital affairs, half of the students agreed and the other half disagreed.
3. Guide college students to establish a correct view of love.
Many colleges and universities take an attitude of neither supporting nor opposing the phenomenon of college students falling in love, which is incorrect. Ideological educators in colleges and universities should study college students' incorrect or even wrong love motives with a positive attitude, relieve their emotional confusion, guide students to straighten out the relationship between study, career and love, and establish a correct view of love. 3. 1 carry out emotional education
The specific contents of love education mainly include love moral education, love emotion education, love art education, love and career relationship education, lovelorn education, love and sex education, love principle education, gender view education, physiology education, law and discipline education and so on. Through education, college students should deeply understand the essence of love.
3.2 Strengthen the function of campus culture, with noble emotional education.
Schools should vigorously strengthen the construction of campus culture, enrich the campus cultural life of college students through campus culture and art festivals, social practice activities, academic reports, cultural quality education films, actively introduce Chinese and foreign classic literature and aesthetic works, meet the spiritual needs of college students in many ways, cultivate high-quality young people who know, understand, cherish and appreciate love, create a positive and civilized campus cultural atmosphere, and let students aim high, concentrate on their studies and aspire to become talents.
3.3 Maintain a healthy love psychology
The problem of college students' love health is unavoidable for educators. Ideological educators had better cooperate with school doctors to instill adolescent physiological and psychological knowledge into students, so that students will no longer feel mysterious and curious. We should attach importance to psychological counseling and educate students to maintain a healthy love psychology. It is necessary to guide students to get rid of the confusion of love in time, relieve the pressure brought by love, abandon the frustration brought by love, and be a sound person.
3.4 Guide students to correctly handle the relationship between study and love.
Love is actually a time-consuming, expensive, laborious and exhausting "fatigue war", which will distract the learning energy and affect the learning effect to some extent. The main task of college students is to learn and accumulate knowledge and cultivate their adaptability to the future society. At present, we should put learning first, and don't let love squeeze the study time too much, which will affect the effect and efficiency of learning.
3.5 Schools, society and families should guide students hand in hand.
Because adolescent sexual psychology, sexual behavior, love behavior and views on marriage and love are all personalized and private issues, on the basis of school education, we should establish an effective mechanism to promote communication between schools and parents, guide parents and children to discuss some psychological, emotional, love, choice of lifelong partners and other related issues, and work together to form a joint force, so that every college student can become a pillar and be healthy and happy forever.
4. Conclusion
Love is a pure and sacred emotion, whether it is the sweetness of flowers and moons or the persistence of suffering, it makes the world yearn for intoxication. As a special group, college students' pursuit of love has gradually become the master of life after entering the university. How to make college students treat love correctly and handle the relationship between love and their studies and careers has become an unavoidable problem for college educators. Whether college students' view of love is correct or not has an important influence on their study, life and work, and is also related to their future development. As ideological and political educators in colleges and universities, we have the responsibility and obligation to pay attention to this issue, pay attention to college students' love psychology, point out a correct way for college students in the confused period of love, and serve their growth and success.