"Three Moves to Meng Mu" is about the influence of environment on children. We can easily notice that Meng Mu is worried about the influence of the environment on children's interests. Like father, like son, on the one hand, it refers to parents' role models and genetic factors, on the other hand, it refers to parents' influence on their children's interest, which is consistent with Meng Mu's worries. We also notice two common extreme situations: one is that a son inherits his father's business; Second, Zi is determined not to follow in his father's footsteps. In addition to persecution, if parents love their careers and always talk about their careers at home, children are more likely to inherit their fathers' careers. On the contrary, if parents often talk about their careers and things at work in a complaining tone, then there is a great possibility that children will resolutely refuse to follow in their father's footsteps. Because for the sake of career, parents intentionally or unintentionally affected their children's interest.
Therefore, if parents want their children to follow in their father's footsteps and engage in the same career as themselves in the future, they should talk about their work and career optimistically and positively. When there is a problem, you should actively solve it, and don't show that you are complaining at home. Share your happiness with your child after the problem is solved. For parents' happiness and troubles at work, they think that children don't care, but in fact, children care. How you look at your job determines that children are likely to look at your career in the same way. When children talk about their parents' work, we often hear the answer: I won't do their work! Or: I can do anything except my parents' work. In fact, parents may like their jobs very much and just complain about something casually, but children don't think so.
In learning, we should pay attention to cultivating children's interest in the course. Children should praise their parents when they learn. When children are praised, they will become interested in the course. There is a phenomenon that needs attention, that is, parents often pay close attention to their children's academic performance. For example, there are 30 students in the class, 10 students get full marks, 8 students get 99 points, and children get 98 points. Parents will be very angry and scold their children: Why did you do so badly in the exam? Rank 19 ...
In fact, this situation is very common. Parents should never make a mountain out of a molehill just because their children make a little mistake because of carelessness or poor learning. The child's two points are not that important. Parents attach great importance to those two points, and putting their children in 19 will hurt their self-confidence and reduce their interest in the course. The correct way is to praise. Why? Because of what the teacher taught, the child has learned 98%, which is good. Parents, in turn, should comfort their children, not caring about 2 points, not to mention 18. Finally, help children analyze the reasons for losing two time points. If you are careless, tell your child to be serious in the future; If you don't learn, help your child analyze why you don't learn and what the problem is.
Parents pay too much attention to grades, which leads children to pay too much attention to grades. They are always pondering grades when studying, which distracts their interest in the course content. In this case, even if children go to college, they are slaves to their grades. Students who pay too much attention to grades and get high marks may not have strong working ability in the future; The score may not be high, but students who are interested in what they have learned are definitely not weak in their work ability.
A simple observation can let parents see whether their children are really interested in what they have learned in order to cope with the exam. That is: whenever an exam or test ends soon (for example, one or two months or more), if your child has forgotten a lot of what he has learned, he is probably not interested in the subject. On the contrary, if a child remembers most of what he has learned or the core basic content long after the exam, it generally means that the child is interested in the course. Because people remember what they are interested in firmly and forget what they are not interested in quickly.
At the same time, it further shows that overemphasizing scores may greatly distract children's interest in knowledge; On the other hand, what's the big deal if children's interest in courses and knowledge is emphasized, even if their grades are a little worse? Of course, because children's memories are different, the observation results vary from person to person. Parents should not copy mechanically and treat their children wrongly.
Learning without interest and pursuing achievement is like no water without fire. Even if boiling water is added to the pot, it will definitely cool down in the end. Being interested in learning, even if the score is lower, is like adding fuel under a kettle, and boiling is inevitable.
When children are interested in learning, their thirst for knowledge will rise, learning will be more active, and learning itself will become a pleasure and form a virtuous circle. If children are interested in learning, parents no longer need to urge their children to learn, or even worry too much about their children's learning. On the other hand, if children are not interested in learning, but just learn by rote and passively, learning is a real burden for children, and the learning effect will certainly not be good. Parents also need to worry about their children's study.
I have met many such students. When they graduated, they said happily: Finally graduated! I will never go back to school again; Some students said: I will never engage in scientific research; Wait a minute. Yes, grades scare children, so they are not interested. In fact, with the intelligence of these students, if they were interested, they would not say so when they graduated. Therefore, interest makes many children become scientists, engineers and doctors. Scores also stifle the possibility of many children becoming scientists, engineers and doctors. Strangely, however, as soon as these children got married, they began to deprive their children of their interest in learning with their grades, and unconsciously began the next vicious circle.
When parents cultivate their children's interest in learning, they can often combine what their children have learned with practical application. If a child finds that what he has learned can be used in practice, his interest in learning will be greatly increased. For example, after learning the specific gravity, parents can give their children a bucket, let him measure the bottom area and height of the bucket with a scale, then calculate the volume of the bucket, and finally calculate the weight of a bucket of water with the specific gravity of water. Because the weight is generally weighed by scales, children also get the weight of water in different ways, and finally they can compare the results obtained by the two. Seeing that the results of the two methods are the same, children's interest in related physics and mathematics will immediately increase.
Curiosity and asking questions are signs of children's interest. Parents must patiently answer their children's curious questions; Parents should encourage their children to get to the bottom of it. When the correct answer is beyond the children's understanding, or parents can't answer it, it is a good opportunity to educate children to study hard. Let children know that studying hard and reading can not only get answers to questions, but also know more interesting things.
If children are interested in things that their parents don't approve of or are unhealthy, parents should detect them in time and take action as soon as possible. Meng Mu is a good example. For example, when parents find that their children like computer games, they must make rules at the beginning, otherwise it will be difficult for them to change back as their children get deeper and deeper. You know, adults sometimes have this experience, and playing mahjong is addictive. "Just this once" and "the last time" have become the mantra of some people, let alone children. Therefore, it is necessary to stop and guide children's bad hobbies and unhealthy "interests" in time.
It is precisely because interest is so important that parents should be more careful. Anyone will always have one hobby or another in his life. Good hobbies will lead children to success, while bad hobbies will lead children astray and even ruin their lives.