Fu Mingmei of Nanchang University

By reviewing and analyzing the experience of self-growth, this paper expounds the process and reasons of an individual from naivety to maturity, deeply reflects and analyzes the personality characteristics of himself, thus revealing his inner pursuit and desire to become a psychological counselor, analyzing the conditions and shortcomings of his career as a psychological counselor, and pointing out the direction of self-efforts.

Key words: psychological counselor's second-level thesis, growth experience, self-analysis, career analysis.

Life is like a pearl necklace, and what happens at each stage is like a beautiful and shining pearl, which is connected in series to form a colorful life. Everyone has his own past and present, no matter what the state of the past and present is, please learn to accept and tolerate, because we all have a beautiful vision for the future, and we are willing to work hard to resolve all our sorrows and troubles and welcome a brand-new day. As Russian writer Pushkin said, "If life deceives you, don't be sad or impatient. Melancholy days need peace. Believe it, happy days will come. The heart always yearns for the future; I am often depressed now. Everything is instantaneous, and everything will pass; In the past, it will become a cordial nostalgia. "

First, self-growth analysis

I was born in February 1986, an ordinary peasant family. My father is a diligent barber, and my mother is a hardworking and capable housewife. Although my parents haven't studied for a few years, they firmly believe that knowledge can change their destiny, so they scrimp and save for my school. I also strive for the best in my studies, and my academic performance has been above average in my class. My father is also willing to invest in me and buy me math exercise books from time to time to strengthen my math practice. In the fourth grade of primary school, my father asked me to learn bookkeeping. Every night when my father comes back at 8: 00 or 9: 00, I will keep an account according to my father's requirements, such as how much XXX paid for his haircut. Then I realized how difficult and easy it was for my father! How important it is to study! If I could write, I wouldn't have to bother. So my father always tells me how many college students have come out of a village as an example for me to learn, so as to encourage me to study hard and become a pillar of talent as soon as possible.

The most unforgettable time was in the fourth grade of primary school. After my father cut someone else's hair, he went to my class teacher at school to find out about my study. Once in a Chinese class, the head teacher said, "How much Minmei's parents care about their children's study", and praised my efforts in public, which made me very happy. So I am more interested in learning, and the good quality of diligence was probably laid at that time.

Later, I naturally entered the rural middle school and studied hard as always. With the increase of physical chemistry subjects, I feel overwhelmed, which leads to my failure in the senior high school entrance examination. At the suggestion of the head teacher, I repeated my studies for another year, but the opportunity was reserved for those who were prepared. In the second year of re-reading, the first high school in the county enrolled students in the spring class, and I was lucky enough to enter the high school. Just in time for the liberal arts branch, I chose liberal arts according to my hobbies and specialties. In three and a half years of study, I have developed the character of independent thinking; In the interaction with my classmates, I learned the qualities of understanding, tolerance, optimism and positivity, and the teachers' earnest teaching made me full of gratitude to them. I was successfully admitted to the rural regional development major of Shanxi Agricultural University.

University is a paradise of freedom and scholarship. Although my major is not my favorite, I found infinite fun in the library. Read novels, poems, economics, law, medicine, psychology, philosophy, etc. It has become my biggest hobby. I am as eager for knowledge as discovering the new continent, and I can't extricate myself from the ocean of knowledge. Psychology is my greatest wealth. University is the most colorful stage in my life. I play badminton with my dormitory sisters, climb mountains with my teachers, write blogs online, tutor, go to the countryside for research, do small business, and listen to china national radio's night flight to China. During this period, I became more open, confident and optimistic. While trying to increase my knowledge, I also began to pay attention to social practice and cultivate good execution. In my senior year, I actively prepared for the postgraduate entrance examination. Due to the high score requirements of the school I applied for, I failed in the postgraduate entrance examination. So I actively looked for a job and successfully passed the village official exam and the special post teacher exam. In order to take better care of my parents, I chose a school close to home to be a rural special post teacher and embarked on the road of self-realization. After work, I didn't forget psychology, and I still picked up my textbook to prepare for the postgraduate entrance examination. After hard work, I successfully passed the exam of applied psychology in Nanchang University. What makes me happier is that I also found the right partner at school. We are soul mates. Similar family background, similar work experience, similar personality characteristics, his unique care made up for my consistent carelessness, and we gradually established a sense of intimacy, trust and security.

Looking back on these 25 years, I am thinking that it is these talents who care for me and support my growth that have gradually made me more mature, confident, optimistic and cheerful. In the continuous study and life, I have learned some basic skills, cultivated the ability of diligent study and dialectical thinking, and developed a good character. Suddenly remembered a paragraph: "People, the most precious thing is life, and life is only once for everyone." How should this only life be spent? Whenever I look back, I will not regret wasting my time, nor will I be ashamed of being mediocre. When I die, I can say that my life and all my energy have been dedicated to mankind. The most precious thing is the cause-fighting for the liberation of mankind! "I dare not say to fight for human liberation, I pay more attention to the realization of self-worth. Through the training of psychological counselors, I recognize and love the profession of psychological counselors more, hoping to help visitors achieve the purpose of helping others and helping themselves. I not only helped others, but also gained a great harvest-a sense of satisfaction.

Second, the analysis of professional behavior

I know that psychology started in college, and I like listening to the radio at night, especially the night program "Night Flight in China" by Voice of China in china national radio. This is an emotional program. The host is Yin Qing, a native of Henan. I was attracted by the voice of my hometown when I was studying abroad. From personal growth to gender relations, from workplace topics to family conflicts, with the unique delicacy, sensitivity and unique observation and love for life of the hostess, together with many well-known psychologists and sociologists in China, she carefully combed all kinds of psychological troubles and emotional problems encountered on the road of life for the audience. Since then, I have known and understood psychology, and formed an indissoluble bond with psychology. I am determined to be a psychological counselor and solve psychological problems for others. Later, I read books on psychology in the library and learned that she is a young and promising subject. With the development of social economy, there is a growing demand for psychological counseling in the future, and my interest is also stronger.

Two postgraduate entrance examination experiences have given me a broader and deeper understanding of psychology. I remember that when I submitted my homework paper and planned my career, I chose the career of psychological counselor without hesitation. My interest in psychological counselor, her unique charm and social demand for it made me firmly choose this career. At the same time, after a year of professional study, I have a preliminary understanding of psychological counseling methods, and I also feel that psychological counseling has the effect of "suspecting that there is no road, and there is a village again". In addition to theoretical study, I also worked as an intern in the building and gave psychological counseling to several students, which achieved certain results. To a certain extent, this has increased my confidence in learning psychological counseling and experienced the happiness of "giving someone a rose and leaving a lingering fragrance in my hand".

To be a competent psychological counselor, you must first have a healthy psychological state. Because the purpose of psychological counseling is to use the theories and methods of psychological science to solve the psychological problems of visitors, maintain and improve their physical and mental health, and promote the process of personality development and potential development (Ma Jianqing, 1992)[ 1]. If there are contradictions and conflicts in the psychological counselor's heart, it will easily affect the consultation process, and may project their bad emotions on the visitors, resulting in poor consultation effect. As one of the lifelines of psychological counselors, their physical and mental health must be maintained to the greatest extent. Before doing psychological counseling, we must keep calm and emotional stability, constantly examine our own shortcomings, improve our personality, and lay a good quality foundation for future counseling.

Now I will analyze the advantages and disadvantages of becoming a psychological counselor from an objective point of view.

Its advantages are as follows:

(1) My love for the profession of psychological counselor stems from my strong interest, and I am full of respect and expectation for this profession. I believe that interest is the best teacher.

(2) The experience of studying for more than 20 years has made me strong, optimistic, enthusiastic, tolerant and considerate. Kindness has always been my belief in life, and my outlook on the world, life and values are relatively stable. I have a good personality foundation, good communication skills, certain psychological knowledge and help skills, and I can consciously analyze myself, enrich myself and improve myself, so I have the basic conditions to become an excellent psychological counselor.

Disadvantages are as follows:

(a), lack of psychological knowledge, theoretical foundation is not solid, psychological counseling knowledge and experience is not rich enough, less practical experience. In architectural practice, consulting is equated with chatting, lacking the substantive content of consulting methods.

(2) I like to impose my values on others, and I like to give advice to others. In the process of consultation, do not be value neutral, so that visitors can find the answers to their own questions.

(3) There are still some defects in theoretical knowledge and professional consulting skills, which can't help visitors solve their psychological problems well.

After analyzing their own advantages and disadvantages, the direction of future work is determined.

(1) Constantly improve theoretical knowledge and consulting skills, overcome weaknesses in personality, be strict with yourself with professional rationality, keep a value-neutral attitude in work, and accept visitors unconditionally. Apply what you have learned and use theoretical knowledge to guide consultation. When you can't give good advice to the seeker, you should refer it to an experienced teacher in time and treat every visitor with a responsible attitude.

(2) In addition to storing and honing knowledge and skills, it is more important to have a heart that pursues a high-level life, dare to face setbacks and frustrations in life, be willing to share success and joy in life, and maintain physical and mental health. Read more books, write blogs and listen to music in your spare time, keep a calm mood and learn to be tolerant. In other words, people should be rational in their left hand and emotional in their right hand, so as to improve their understanding of body and mind and lead a balanced and happy life. [2]

Finally, I want to end my growth report by quoting the poet Wang Guozhen's Love Life: "I don't think about whether I can succeed. Since I chose the distance, I only care about hardships; I don't think about winning love,

Since you love roses, you should be brave enough to reveal your true feelings; I don't want to think about whether there will be cold wind and rain behind me. Since the goal is the horizon, all I can leave to the world is my back. I don't think about whether the future is flat or muddy. As long as I love life, everything is expected. "

References:

[1] China Employment Training Technical Guidance Center of China Mental Health Association. National Vocational Qualification Training Course "Psychological Counselor (Basic Knowledge)" [M]. Ethnic Publishing House, 20 1 1.448-448.

[2] China Employment Training Technical Guidance Center of China Mental Health Association. National Vocational Qualification Training Course "Psychological Counselor (Basic Knowledge)" [M]. Ethnic Publishing House, 20 1 1.423-423.