It is very common for middle school students to fall in love at present. It is said that the proportion of middle school students in big cities such as Beijing is above 60%. In fact, we don't need to look at such figures. If we pay a little attention in life, we will find that "little lovers" are everywhere. The emergence of this problem naturally has its inevitability. Recently, I read several related articles on the Internet, and found that the teachers who studied this issue were very enthusiastic. They commented on the causes and effects of puppy love among middle school students. However, due to the limitations of teachers themselves, there are many misunderstandings in the research process. Here are two examples:
Many teachers think that what middle school students should do is to study hard and improve themselves. When they have jobs and income in the future, they can naturally enjoy better fruits of love, saying, "I have buttonwood trees at home, but I am afraid I can't recruit golden phoenix?" Of course, we are not saying that this view is wrong, but middle school students are often simple and do not consider the purpose and reality of love. If we realize that we can't fall in love now because we are imperfect, have no job and no income, wouldn't that inject love impurities into our pure feelings? Here, I dare say that the so-called love and marriage of rich and powerful adults is mostly a routine, a choice after weighing interests, rather than showing true feelings. This is the inevitable result of being trapped by the secular wall. Mr. Zhu Guangqian said that for love, if such a thing involves one point, the innocence of love will be reduced by one point. So this view is not desirable and not very convincing.
Some teachers believe that the main reason why middle school students fall in love is that with the germination of their own sexual consciousness, they begin to feel mysterious about the opposite sex (mainly referring to the body) and lack sex education. At this time, they are tempted by some books and networks, have sexual impulses, and are eager to find heterosexual partners, leading to puppy love. This statement is the product of completely western linear thinking mode, and I really beg to differ. Because from this point of view, heterosexual couples seem to be the object of venting, and the phenomenon of puppy love is more common. However, sexual deviance is rare. Because of the mystery of the opposite sex, it is difficult to make sense to go to puppy love. Wang Changling said in Forever in My Heart: I suddenly saw the willow color on a stranger's head and regretted teaching my husband to find the Marquis. Has this boudoir young woman, now the age of middle school students, also been affected by anything bad? It can be seen that this feeling is natural and normal.
It can be seen that although the teachers are enthusiastic, the education system has fixed them into strict and rigid private school teachers, and it is difficult to really understand the students. It takes a person who tied the bell to untie the bell. This problem needs our middle school students to explore, study and think for themselves.
The problem of puppy love among middle school students is like a flood, which comes suddenly and fiercely. Schools, families and society naturally have to think of countermeasures. It is really unwise to be blocked by high walls in reality. We know that at present, we should learn to divert floods, and we can also store water to generate electricity. The more water is blocked, the more it overflows, and then a vicious circle is formed, and the reality is no exception. In the past, the feudal dynasty suppressed the peasant uprising, but it revived like a flood; If the head is a chicken, it is better to make a decree to win over the rabble and make it a "regular army." Naturally, we can calm things down. This is the reason why the problem of middle school students falling in love is becoming more and more rampant today. (However, as long as there is a feudal dynasty, there will be peasant uprisings, and the first day can't escape from the fifteenth. So what is the court behind the "puppy love" rebellion, we will discuss it later)
First of all, we should know that the phenomenon of middle school students falling in love is reasonable. (Don't worry, everyone, let's analyze it slowly. ) Far away, a hundred years ago, I am afraid that all middle school students are now "married", so it is normal for people of this age to be in love seeds; There is also a saying that existence is reasonable, which is quite correct. Because "reason" is found in what exists, existence must be reasonable, not to mention universal. This may be unexpected to many people, but it is reasonable. (We will explain the reasons below)
Since it is a reasonable existence, its influence must have a good side and a bad side. Teachers gnash their teeth when it comes to the influence of puppy love, and they hate it and think it is harmful and useless. Because puppy love students often waste their time on "loveliness", even when they are studying in class, they are also concerned about each other, which leads to unintentional learning and declining grades; Furthermore, puppy love often leads to contradictions and conflicts between classmates.