? Abraham maslow (1908- 1970), the founder of humanistic psychology, 1, was born in Manhattan in April, 2008. He's Jewish. His creativity in motivation and personality transcended the limitations of academic psychology and entered the field of management and marketing. His thoughts have great influence on the whole social science, industry and extensive culture. ? /kloc-in June, 2008, I listened to the course taught by teacher Zhang Tianbu in EMAP class of Fudan University: Oedipus Triangle of psychoanalysis, and I burned my brain for 12 hours all day. I was fascinated by it and felt that I would meet again after such a long separation. After reading several chapters of Maslow's biography, I hope to enter Maslow's childhood world from the perspective of "Oedipus Complex" in psychoanalysis, with the following two questions. After finishing your homework, take the opportunity to interpret Master Ma.
Question 2: Problem children who are introverted, reserved, shy and have an inferiority complex will eventually become world-class psychologists. What factors have a great influence on their childhood psychological development?
Question 3: Maslow came from a very bad family, but Maslow and his wife have a very good relationship. He and Bertha have been married for life. In addition, there are three children who have a good relationship. How did he do it?
Maslow's father, Samuel Maslow, immigrated to new york from Kiev when he was 14 years old. He is a businessman. As a child, Ma Si Noel was indifferent to his father. Every day, Samuel leaves home early in the morning and goes to the factory in Manhattan by bus. After work, he usually gets together with friends and doesn't come back until his son goes to bed. On weekends, he occasionally takes Maslow out to a nearby restaurant to eat baked apples or something. In addition, he pays little attention to his children's daily life, is busy with work all day, has little energy, and has never even thought about establishing close feelings with his son. Although he was Jewish, Samuel was indifferent to faith and not as enthusiastic as his mother Ross. Samuel didn't come home for another secret reason: he was disappointed with his marriage and spent as much time outside as possible to avoid conflict with his wife in front of his children. "For the sake of the children," Samuel and Ross divorced while Ma Si Noor was in college. After his old age, Maslow's relationship with his father gradually improved and he finally lived together.
My mother's name is Rose, and she is my father Samuel's cousin. She is a very devout and superstitious woman. She often tells her children some small mistakes: God will severely punish you! Ma Si is very disgusted with this. In many ways, he was unhappy with his mother, which led to the negative evaluation of his mother in Ma Si Nuo's memory. Ma Si Nuo left home when he 10 was in his teens. He only went to see Ross several times when he was alive, and even when his mother Ross died, he didn't go to the funeral. This is so difficult and absolute. How much does Maslow dislike his mother?
Maslow also has three younger brothers and three younger sisters, one of whom died in infancy. This incident also hit Maslow hard, and he felt that his mother Ross was at fault.
In Maslow's memoirs, he wrote the following words about his family and mother:
I am a very unhappy child, my family is a miserable family, my mother is a terrible person ... I have no friends, and I grew up in libraries and books. However, it is strange that I have lived such a childhood life, but I am not mentally ill. -Maslow
When I was about four or five years old, I began to test all kinds of things she predicted and seek all kinds of ideas and opinions about these things. For example, if she says you do this and that, God will destroy you. However, I did it, and God didn't destroy me ... I remember once she told me that if I climbed out of the window, I wouldn't grow tall. But I climbed out. Later, I measured my height-of course, I have been growing, far exceeding the original mark. -Maslow
My childhood and adolescence were very unfortunate. In my memory, they seem to be dark and sad times. I'm surprised that I can put up with it without any problem. Searching all my memories, I can't find any happiness ... My father misunderstood me, and I am an idiot and a fool. Perhaps, he was disappointed in me. ? -Maslow
My reaction to her, as well as all my antipathy and disgust, lies not only in her external image, but also in her values and world outlook, her meanness, her lack of love for people in this world, even her husband and children, her narcissism, her prejudice against black people, and her selfishness at the expense of others. Anyone who disagrees with her thinks the other person is wrong. She lacks care for her parents, brothers and sisters. She only cares about her selfish instinct like an animal. I often wonder where my idealistic tendency, my concern for ethics and morality, and my cherish of all good things such as humanitarianism, kindness, love and friendship come from. I'm sure they're not the direct result of my maternal love. However, my philosophy of life, the whole orientation of the founding theory and all my research can be rooted in my disgust and resentment of everything she likes. ? -Maslow
1, Will Maslow
? Will is Maslow's cousin. They are about the same age, 19 17, Maslow 10. When the family moved to 96 1 Dumont Avenue in Brownsville, Brooklyn, Will lived nearby. This was a great encouragement to him, and he finally found a rather emotional and intellectual partner. Two years later, his family moved again, this time to a wealthy middle-class residential area in Follette. Fortunately, the Will family just moved nearby. He started his first real friendship with Will and Maslow. Although he is still relatively withdrawn in character, he will still take part in sports activities in the neighborhood with his will. They practice boxing and hanging ball, which is a relatively extensive street sport in Brooklyn. As their home is near the tennis court, the two young people soon became energetic tennis lovers again.
1922 65438+ 10, Maslow and Will entered one of the best middle schools in Brooklyn-boys' high school. Both of them were similar in height and appearance, and soon they were inseparable. In the school yearbook, they are called "golden twins". Will's natural self-confidence, cheerful optimism and even a little rough have had an important impact on helping Maslow overcome shyness and loneliness. During weekends and summer vacations, Will will take the lead. They often work together. Driven by Will, Maslow became a complete tennis enthusiast. As long as the weather permits, he will play tennis with Will and other friends. He also plays softball, handball, golf and participates in middle and long distance running. In addition, he is the captain of the men's high school baseball team.
2. Cousin Bertha Goodman (later became the only wife in Maslow's life, and they had a very good relationship and lived together all the time).
Bertha is Maslow's cousin. 1922 She came to new york from Russia in March. When we first met, she was only 13 years old and Maslow 14 years old. Ma Si Noel respects Bertha's mother very much, and thinks that she is a gentle and humorous person, good at arranging family life, and has a natural ability to appreciate art, which Maslow especially appreciates. When he was a teenager, Maslow never dated other girls his age, Bertha being the only exception. 1June 927, Maslow was 20 years old. He felt Bertha was very attractive to him, and he was determined to develop further feelings with her. However, Maslow is too shy to ask her out on a date and dare not express her feelings boldly. With the help of Bertha's sister, he finally broke the silence and shyly expressed his love to Bertha. Incredibly, Bertha did not refuse to accept Maslow, which had a great influence on Maslow's self-awareness and image. He feels that he has grown up and is an adult. "He was accepted by a opposite sex and felt extremely happy and happy with her." During this period, many people strongly opposed the combination of the cousins, including Maslow's parents and cousin Will. 1928 65438+February 3 1, Maslow 2 1 year old, Bertha 20 years old. They married their cousins in front of their immediate family.
3. Sebastian Little
Sebastian Little is a physics teacher at Maslow High School. When he was in high school, influenced by Sebastian, Maslow first came into contact with Upton Little's book, which aroused Maslow's potential interest in social and moral issues and experienced a real enlightenment.
1932 1 month, Maslow wrote in his diary:
I remember how I started thinking about research. Since I was in a boys' school. At that time, Mr. Sebastian Little mentioned Little's money worship in the physics laboratory. He read the book about Dostoevsky and prostitutes to Vere and me. I was surprised, even a little shocked, because I was still cautious in this respect. It was unusual for a teacher to say such a thing ... I don't remember why, but Will and I borrowed money from the library ... Since then, I have started reading every book written by Sinclair. In addition, I have read some books about adventure, baseball and college life.
4. william graham sumner
1September, 927, Maslow resumed his studies at Shili University. The teacher of cultural philosophy assigned them to read william graham sumner's book Social Customs, which Maslow regarded as "Mount Everest". It influenced Maslow's life.
Maslow later recalled: This is what our professor warned us in the first class of this semester: "If you read this book, you will not be like before, and you will not be a simple-minded person"; He's right.
5. John Watson
1928 in the summer, john turner, Maslow's philosophy teacher, talked with him about career choice planning, and recommended many psychological books to him, including 1925' s Essays on Psychology, among which three articles by John B. Watson deeply shocked him. Watson is the founder of American behavioral psychology. Since then, Maslow has put this discussion on behavioral psychology. He will never forget the moment when reason rejoiced. At that time, he was sitting in the reading room of 42nd Street Library. He recalled:
What really excites me is Watson's article ... In an exciting moment, I suddenly saw a prospect of scientific psychology, a solution that can bring real progress and really solve problems. All we need to do is work hard and strength.
? The normal psychological development is to get out of the Oedipus triangle conflict. If you can't break through, you can't extricate yourself from the inner entanglement, and your personal energy will be slowly consumed in the tangled conflict. It is impossible for a person to play a constructive or creative role and become an inexplicable loser. A mature and complete Oedipus Triangle can end the relationship among children, father and mother in one's mind, and can also explain the desire, inhibition, obsession, love-hate interweaving and so on that everyone will experience. Finding a balance in complex feelings is a task that every normal person should complete in Oedipus period.
? Objectively speaking, Maslow's childhood life environment should be said to be very bad. Without the help of external forces, Maslow could hardly get out of the Oedipus conflict. My understanding is that Maslow is very lucky, although the roles of his father and mother are unclear, and both sides in the triangle are incomplete. However, the appearance of cousin Will and cousin Bertha became an important and ideal object for him to repair the Oedipus Triangle.
? The appearance of my cousin Will made Maslow have a real friendship for the first time in his life, walked out of the small world of self-isolation, integrated into the school, integrated into the society, fell in love with sports, and chose a positive sunshine avenue at the critical crossroads in his life. In addition, although my father is often absent, he is very supportive of Maslow in education. No matter what decision Maslow made, his major choice, school choice and hobbies, his father unreservedly chose to support the appearance of his cousin Will. In a sense, Will and his father * * * assumed the responsibility of one side in the Oedipus Triangle. .
? Regrettably, the contradiction between Maslow and his mother Ross has not been solved in the end. It is estimated that many latecomers will seize this issue and make a big fuss about it. My point of view: Bertha's appearance has more or less assumed the functional responsibility on the other side of Oedipus Triangle, and Maslow has not reached a dead end psychologically. Maslow spoke highly of Ross and his mother. Maslow is happily married, and Ross is the only wife in his life. They love each other all their lives and grow old together. People are not saints. Maslow finally chose not to forgive his mother. Apart from other angles, from another angle, it just shows his maturity in thought and decisiveness in behavior. Psychologically, it is a complete and mature Oedipus triangle.
? Sebastian Little, William Graham sumner and John B Watson, heavyweight professors, are important figures who influenced Maslow's ideological enlightenment and decided his career choice. Listen to the next decomposition.
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