What I appreciate is Professor Yu Dan's simple and happy understanding of The Analects. Every nation has its own mother tongue culture. The Chinese nation respects the earth after the emperor and takes the earth as its mother, so it has formed a national traditional culture with the Confucian doctrine of the mean as the main body and the characteristics of peace and generosity.
The following are some points that I have learned deeply in my study:
First, Confucius talked about making friends.
Confucius warned us to make three kinds of friends, not three.
Three kinds of friends: 1, friends should be frank, friends should be tolerant, excessive criticism is not as lasting as the power of tolerance, and friends should listen more.
Three kinds of bad friends: 1, grumpy friend 2, indecisive friend: waste your ability to live, and you will always be suspicious when the opportunity comes. 3. People with ulterior motives.
In short: make happy friends who can enjoy life.
Confucius told us some principles that we must pay attention to in the process of communication: 1, don't talk in a hurry, 2, don't have anything to say, 3, don't talk nonsense with your eyes closed.
Second, Confucius talked about life.
1, 15 and learning, that is to say, you should know that learning stands at the age of 20 or 30 to build self-confidence in your mind. 3, 40 is not material, the more people, the easier it is to get confused. This means learning to give up 40 or 50, that is, there is a calm force inside to fight against the outside world. Fifty or sixty is obedience, compassion, understanding and tolerance. 60 or 70, that is, only by establishing your own value system can pressure be transformed into external tension.
Third, Confucius speaks mind.
Mind: Who can regret a hundred years of life? Accept this regret first, and then try your best to make up for it. Be a brave person and use the power of life to resolve regrets. Don't take many shadows too seriously. Don't take many things too seriously and have no moral constraints. Courage is the disaster of this society. There are brave people in the world: those who are not surprised, those who are angry for no reason, but those who are far-sighted and can tolerate what others can't do. Courage is sometimes a kind of self-confidence and tolerance under rational constraints. Only people with virtue and benevolence can truly be brave in their hearts.
We have received the Confucian ethical education of "benevolence, righteousness, courtesy, wisdom and faith" since childhood. From Kong Rong's respect for pears at the age of three to Fan Zhongyan's sense of hardship, which is "worrying about the world first, and enjoying the world later", all show the inseparable infiltration of Confucianism in the process of national growth. For thousands of years, the world is still willing to respect Confucius and take his words as the motto and the principle of self-cultivation. I think this has something to do with Confucius' "Being straightforward and serving people, why not!" Our thoughts are closely related, because we all firmly believe that tomorrow will be the world of upright people.
Confucius advocated benevolence, but he didn't think that we should forgive everyone's mistakes with unprincipled kindness. The Analects of Confucius tells us that we should respect everyone equally and rationally, and keep a little sense of proportion between each other. As the saying goes, the world is a big family. Since we are at home, it is inevitable that people have their own aspirations and different temperaments, just like tea lovers like Longjing and Oolong tea, but they are all seeking truth. "don't take away its true fragrance" and "don't damage its true taste" So, what makes you unable to treat others sincerely, speak sincerely and be a real person?