Whether a person can succeed depends not on how many superior conditions he has, but on how he knows himself and how to make use of these conditions. Sometimes, self-knowledge determines others' evaluation of themselves. The following are several criteria for effectively evaluating the core of EQ: 1. Have a positive and happy mood. Now let's study it carefully. If you meet someone today and you just start talking, you can say: I feel terrible, really terrible. At this time, you mean: first, you are saying: I need sympathy. But people don't like those who ask for sympathy. Second, you focus on yourself. But a leader should focus on the person you are talking to. Third, you yourself have become a symbol of pain and an object that people try to avoid. Complaining is equivalent to transferring the pain in your heart to others. People don't like to accept the pain of others. The ancient Greeks had a philosophy of pursuing happiness and avoiding pain, but modern people still can't get rid of this idea. As long as you say that I am restless, you will really make yourself very bad. Suppose you say that I feel very happy instead, and today is really a beautiful day, then: First, you already represent happiness and happiness. Everyone likes this song very much and wants to share the fun with you. Second, you will really feel better. This is the role of self-suggestion. If an idea enters the center, it will grow. If it is the seed of negative thoughts, it will bear negative fruits. The seeds of positive thoughts will bear positive fruits. Every day, you have the opportunity to hear many people tell you in different ways that they feel uneasy. Some people may complain about various diseases-headache, backache, lumbago or stomachache; Others complain about unfortunate events, such as I work too much, I am too tired and so on. These people cast an ominous shadow on themselves all day, although these problems are not serious. Once you have a positive mood, you will think positively and know yourself positively. 2. Say goodbye to inferiority and self-esteem. A young life insurance salesman went to consult an expert. He set records repeatedly in the first year, but then fell badly. What's his problem? At first glance, the young man is depressed and worried about the future. His expense bill continues to increase, but his commission income is very small. He found himself in trouble: the more commission he needed, the less he could earn; The more you want to promote business, the less you can close the deal. He said: Why on earth is this? I even asked for insurance! This shows how much I want to win the business! Experts soon realized the key point. He told the young man to think in the direction of wealth as far as possible, not in the direction of poverty, and convinced himself that even if he faced bankruptcy economically, he was still rich in other aspects, such as my strong ability, great ambition and many opportunities. And the result is really amazing. In less than a week, he got a high amount of insurance and returned to his previous high income. A year later, he went to see an expert again. I want to show you something. He opened his briefcase, took out something and said to him, look at what is hanging in my office and what box is installed. Here are some words he framed: I am rich! I have strong ability, great ambition, many opportunities, and my family is full of love. We should remember this lesson. That is: thinking that money can make people rich; Thinking about poverty will make people poor. Self-esteem, true and sincere self-esteem, is the most basic element to obtain all wealth, including money. There is a big difference between being poor and having no money. When a person has nothing but the feeling of poverty, he will continue to be poor. Please think more about wealth and stop thinking about poverty. Because the road to prosperity is paved with rich ideas. Inferiority, willingness to be realistic, and even giving up on yourself will always be the performance of the weak. Only self-esteem and self-confidence can gain social recognition. I believe that I will always be the most needed person in society. People yearn for crowded places and concentrate on crowded places. Those busy and prosperous enterprises or people seem to be what people need most urgently. This is not a tricky statement, it is the highest truth. As long as you can create a prosperous and much-needed atmosphere, your popularity will soon rise. The weakest way to sell is to make people feel poor. I am poor. Please give me some business! This kind of begging for mercy will never bring business, but will only drive away the business you have already got. As long as you keep an atmosphere of lack of money, embarrassment and I'm not doing well, the situation will get worse and worse. People like to deal with successful people-everything is the same. When doctors start a business, they will encounter such difficulties-people are unwilling to give their health to an inexperienced doctor. A young doctor told his legendary experience: I have been in this town for less than a month. Few people come to see me. They are all common diseases. But after a high school football match on Friday night, the situation changed rapidly. A friend of mine came to my town that night. I happened to have a personal business trip to another city and forgot to tell my wife. My friends can't find me. He knows that I like football very much, so he guessed that I must have gone to the football match. So he called me three times in a hurry. As a result, in the next week, the number of patients will suddenly increase to twice the total number of patients in the previous four weeks. Do you find it strange? When people knew that they needed me badly, my medical career flourished. People will go to busy shops to snap up things; Queue up to see a doctor in a busy hospital; Men compete to date girls who are full of frequent dates; People will go to places with frequent activities and share what others are enjoying. The following suggestions can increase your popularity and influence on others, that is, create a prosperous scene and let others know that I have many customers or admirers. Everything you can think of gives people the impression that you already have a lot, and then you will rise with it; If you keep an atmosphere where I don't do very well, then you are bound to become a mess. So we can say that prosperity leads to prosperity; Poverty and decline will cause you poverty and decline. I believe I have a beautiful world. There is a story: an old man sat on the roadside outside a small town. A stranger drove to this town and saw the old man. He stopped, opened the car door and asked the old man, "Old man, what town is this?" ? What kind of residents live here? I intend to move in. The old man looked up at the stranger and replied, What kind of people are in the town you just left? The stranger said: The town I just left is full of irresponsible people. We are unhappy living there, so we are going to move here. "I'm afraid you will be disappointed, sir, because the people in our town are just like them." Soon after, another stranger asked the old man the same question: What kind of town is this? What kind of people live here? We are looking for a town to settle down! The old man asked him the same question: What kind of people are in the town you just left? The stranger replied that the people who lived there were very nice people. My wife and children had a wonderful time there, but I am looking for a small town with more development opportunities than where I used to live. I don't want to leave that town, but we must find a better future. The old man said, you are very lucky, young man. The people who live here are exactly like you. You will like them, and they will like your life. It is very valuable. Today, with the development of medicine and health, the average life expectancy of human beings can reach almost 70 years. That's 25,566 days. We don't have that much time to waste in worry, inferiority, depression and despair. Life is really short, so short that we can't waste it moaning. Now please take a moment to think about what happened yesterday. Ask yourself: What would I do if I knew yesterday was my last day alive? Ask yourself: What kind of dinner should I prepare for my husband? What attitude will I take towards my wife? Will I still scold children for walking in the mud? Will I still worry about money or promotion? Will I still be angry? Will I still hate the weather? It is a good practice to reflect on yourself once a day. Remind yourself that this may be the last time, and then do what you want. Please remember: today is a very special day. When we know our day, we will feel lucky and avoid doing things that are headache, disappointment and sadness. Everyone is doomed, so every day should be regarded as an extra bonus.