-Zhuangzi
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See Xu Wugui, Zhuangzi's Essay: "Dogs don't take good barking as kindness, and people don't take good words as virtue. What's the big deal? "It means that a dog can't be considered a good dog just because it barks well; Man is not a saint because he has a glib tongue. What's more, he is a man of great virtue?
Return to Zhuangzi. The title of the article comes from the name at the beginning of the article. The seventeen chapters of this book, except the first two chapters, have their own themes and are incoherent. Taoism advocates "no words", and they think that sages are generally not good at words. As mentioned above, a dog is a good dog because it barks badly, that is to say, people don't treat good words as smart people. The implication is to see whether a person is virtuous, not whether he can speak eloquently. A talkative person is not necessarily virtuous, but the key to judging a person is whether his actions are consistent with his words and deeds.
An intimate whisper
"Dogs don't take good barking as good, and people don't take good words as good." Zhuangzi used this sentence to warn us that we can't judge whether we have virtue by "kind words". Zhuangzi's words are a warning, because we may still make mistakes in this respect, which is a human weakness.
Speaking of human weakness, listening to compliments is probably one of them. Even though Zhuang Zi warned us thousands of years ago not to be fooled by "kind words", how much have we changed? Sometimes, we like to listen to what the opposite person says, knowing it is a lie. In Japan, a country that appreciates others very stingy, there has actually appeared a profession that relies on "flattering" for a living. Two young people named Xiao Shan and Mizuno opened their props on a busy street in Tokyo: a big bulletin board with the words "flattery room" written on it, 100 yen per minute; A red undershirt that says "professional flatterer". The business of this "flattery house" is booming. On the one hand, it reflects the indifference of interpersonal relationship and the tension of work there. Some people are willing to pay for compliments and try to adjust their depressed mood. On the other hand, Xiao Shan and Mizuno saw this clearly, so they took advantage of it. Earn 65,438+000 yen easily in one minute.
Flattery does not distinguish between times, social systems and countries. In his masterpiece The Miser, the French playwright Moliere vividly expressed this "flattering philosophy" through the mouth of a character named Falaer: "The best way to win the trust of important people is to appeal to their hobbies in front of him, praise their mottos, praise their shortcomings and praise their actions. Don't be afraid to be too careful. Although you can tell at a glance that you are teasing them, even the smartest people are willing to fall for flattery. "
Of course, it doesn't hurt to listen to flattery once in a while, but if you get into the habit of listening to flattery and not listening to different opinions, there are some dangers hidden for those who do leadership work. A western philosopher once said, "Many people who kiss your hand may be the ones who want to cut off your hand." There are countless such lessons since ancient times, so everyone should be good at saying flattery and well-meaning flattery, and also be good at listening to others' flattery and distinguishing between true and false.
In other words, it is not too much to talk about.
Extension can also be said to be oral or paper light energy.
In fact, people who can't do things are not really virtuous.