1 Cultivate children's sense of responsibility
1920, an American boy aged1/kloc-0 accidentally kicked his neighbor's glass while playing football, and the neighbor claimed $65,438+$02.50. After the boy who made a mistake confessed to his father, his father made him responsible for his mistake. He said awkwardly, "I have no money to compensate others." Father said, "I'll lend you this 12.50 yuan first and pay me back one year later." Since then, the boy has gone out to work hard every weekend and holiday. After half a year's hard work, he finally earned enough 12.50 dollars and returned it to his father. This boy is Reagan who later became the president of the United States. When he recalled this incident, he said, "Taking responsibility through my own labor made me understand what responsibility is."
Parents should teach their children to be responsible for their actions from an early age. As long as it is the result of their own independent behavior, we should encourage children to dare to do it, don't shirk their responsibilities, and be brave enough to bear the consequences. Parents should not bear everything for their children, which will dilute their sense of responsibility.
2 capture the sensitive areas of children's success
/kloc-When Maxwell, a famous mathematician and physicist in the 0/9th century, was a child, his father once asked him to draw a still life painting with a vase full of autumn roses as the object. Maxwell finished painting and handed in the paper. My father smiled while reading it, because all the papers were painted with geometric figures: vases were trapezoidal, chrysanthemums became large and small circles, and some strange triangles probably represented leaves. Careful father immediately discovered that little Maxwell was particularly sensitive to mathematics. In his eyes, many things seem to be geometric figures. So his father began to teach him geometry, and later taught him algebra. Sure enough, Maxwell soon showed amazing mathematical talent: at the age of 15, he wrote a mathematical paper and published it in the Journal of Edinburgh Rubber Society, which surprised some professors.
Most children with normal development, at the age of five or six, began to show a special sensitivity and strong curiosity about a certain aspect. If parents, like Maxwell's father, are good at finding things that children are interested in, grasping the "sensitive areas" of children quickly and timely, and guiding them according to trends, it will open the way for children to become talents.
3 Cultivate children's interest in learning
Education mode: Nobel Prize winner Otto Heinrich Wahlberg is a very great scientist, and his father is a famous German experimental physicist. When Warburg was a child, his father never told him that you should study hard and become a scientist in the future, and he would not be asked to do this or that. My father just often tells him stories about how scientists are eager to learn. In Warburg's home, some famous professors and scholars often visit to discuss scientific problems with his father. Father always naturally asked little Warburg to listen to their conversation. After the guests left, my father gathered around little Warburg to discuss with him. Father listened carefully to the feelings and experiences of young warburg, and gave him praise and appreciation from time to time. Slowly, little Warburg fell in love with science and study. In middle school, his grades were always among the best, which laid a good foundation for him to become a great scientist in the future.
Interest is the best teacher to learn. If children want to study hard, they must first cultivate their interest in learning. But interest does not come from parents' persuasion and coercion, which will only make children more disgusted with learning. Parents should establish a relaxed, harmonious and loving learning environment for their children, so that they can love learning in a subtle way.
4 How to grasp the discretion in children's sex education
Director Wu Dongmei has a close friend who agrees with her sexual enlightenment education.
There is a boy in this friend's house. The mother-child relationship is very close and democratic. Children have a lot of whispers and are willing to tell their mothers. Once, she went to her best friend's house. Her child was in a small kindergarten class, about 2-3 years old. When the child came out of the shower, he found that there were already guests, so he gave a cry of "Oh, my God", suddenly blocked his penis with his hand and rushed into the room. ...
The child's reaction aroused the director's curiosity, so his mother told many interesting stories about the child in this regard. Once my father went to the toilet, thinking that the child didn't wake up, he didn't close the door. As a result, the child came in and saw it, said "I'm sorry" and ran away. He ran to his mother's "whispering" and called his "penis" big and hairy. Mother smiled and told him that because dad is an adult, his genitals are bigger than yours (that was the first time the child heard the name genitals).
One day, after the child came back from kindergarten, he asked his mother: Why don't girls have dicks? The mother told the child why boys and girls are different, so the boy stood to pee and the girl squatted. As a result, the child said, "Well, it's better to be a boy. Girls are too much trouble! " Mom immediately added: "Yes! Therefore, as a boy, you can't bully girls, you should protect girls! "
Once my mother had her period and accidentally got it on her pants. The child found out and went to her father in tears, saying that her mother was bleeding ... My father explained it to him and asked him to pay more attention to her.
Although the father and the children don't take a bath together, he often takes the children swimming, so the children are no strangers to this man's body. However, once the child asked his mother to take a bath together, and the mother asked the child to explain the reason. The child said he wanted to know if it was the same as the picture in the book, and the mother agreed. After this time, the child never made a similar request.
Now that the children are in junior high school, they study hard, love sports, and are very popular at school, which is the pride of their parents. Once, Wu Dongmei asked him why he likes sports so much. He said: "Only when you are in good health can you take good care of your loved ones in the future. Boys with sunny personality will be liked by many girls. " Ask him again: "Are there many girls?" He replied: "Many girls came to cheer when I was playing, but I won't get married so soon because I haven't the ability to support my family and have children. I have to study hard now and get married when I earn a lot of money and have a house. "
Dong-mei wu listened to a face of astonishment! Later, I learned that his father often consciously showed his children an indomitable man image through his own actions, and when the children mastered some physiological common sense, he consciously told them that getting married and having children was a very sacred thing and could not be too casual. When they are not fully prepared, they can't just make people. First of all, you have to love someone, and of course, she has to love you. You are willing to take care of her all your life, have a child of your own, and have the ability to support this family and your children. Then you should get the blessing of your relatives and try to be a good lover and father. It's not easy.