(A) calm face, happiness control
Facing setbacks, different people have different attitudes. It is better to face up to it than to escape, fear and refuse. In the face of irresistible setbacks, the only acceptable attitude is to accept it calmly. If we can happily control the troubles caused by E5A48DE 588B6E79B5Baa63133365653835 setbacks, then a "trauma" will become a precious "pearl". "Pearl" is something sublimated from a healed wound. It can not only effectively heal wounds, but also let us cherish experience and reduce mistakes.
I remember a story: a butterfly didn't go through a painful struggle before it broke its shell, so that after it broke its shell, its body was bloated and its wings shrank, so that it couldn't fly at all and soon died. This short story shows that pain is the only way to grow up, and to get happiness, you must be able to bear pain and setbacks. In one's life, we not only have the painful experience of setbacks, but also have the opportunity to turn misfortune into happiness, pain into priceless treasure, and heartbreaking defects into new strength. When we face it calmly, we can control setbacks; When we have enough courage and remain happy, we can get the most precious harvest.
(2) vent moderately and get rid of it as soon as possible.
In the face of setbacks, some people are pessimistic and bury their pain and setbacks in their hearts; Others choose to talk-I agree with the latter. If you are depressed, you might as well find one or two close people to pour out your feelings and let unhealthy emotions be vented. Venting is a kind of self-psychological salvation, which can eliminate the mental stress caused by setbacks.
Venting should be moderate, and "beggar type", "offensive type" and "touching type" are not worth adopting. If you still want to live with dignity and do something, don't always tell the story of "Amao" like "Sister Lin". That only shows that you haven't come out of the shadow of pain, and your crying can only remind people of your incompetence. When you realize that there are so many serious things waiting for you to do, there is no need to choose the way of "autumn chrysanthemum", because too much "litigation" is too expensive and always "talking" will affect business. Use the time saved to do what you should do, maybe you have long been away from the influence of a "storm".
(3) Stimulate potential and help yourself.
Self-help is the most shining character in life, which has been proved by many examples. In the face of setbacks, some people are devastated, while others inspire their potential and save themselves-the former fails to see their own potential, while the latter fully absorbs it.
There is a short story: "A pig dislocated its waist and struggled to climb there. His grandson is going to massage the pig. Grandpa stopped him. Grandpa picked up a clod and threw it at the pig. The pig was frightened and struggled to run. Grandpa chased after him and saw the pig running over and returning to normal. " People who suffer setbacks are like dislocated pigs. What can really help you is not others, but yourself. Sometimes, in the pain of setbacks, we ignore our potential and courage to correct our mistakes, and blindly wait for the help of external forces, which is equivalent to giving up our responsibilities and obligations. This is a lazy and ineffective practice.
The "horse fly effect" discovered by Lincoln is actually the same as the "doomsday management" of Wuxi Little Swan Group: using the pressure generated by the crisis to stimulate the great potential of life. People need pressure. Under pressure, dare not relax, work hard and make continuous progress. In fact, keeping yourself busy in life is a way of self-pressure. In the face of setbacks, appropriately diverting attention and increasing benign pressure can effectively improve one's mood. For example, you can adjust your mood by engaging in interesting activities such as stamp collecting, writing, calligraphy, art and music. To relieve all kinds of depression caused by distress. As time goes on, depression will gradually disappear.
(4) Choose appropriately and stay away from troubles.
Giving up is a kind of wisdom and realm, but how many people can do it in the face of all kinds of temptations in reality? Many people used to live peacefully, but once they were involved in too many temptations and desires, they were troubled. Sometimes, we set our goals too high; Sometimes, we set too many goals-this is an important reason for our setbacks. Whether it is the former or the latter, we all feel that what we are willing to do exceeds our ability, and we may eventually lose our way and go to despair.
It is wise to learn to choose, not to strive for the first place in everything. It is not a bad thing to give up the goal that you have no ability and conditions. "A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise"? Only by knowing what you want in life, making wise choices and learning to give up can you get rid of unnecessary troubles and have a comfortable life.
In a word, some setbacks look terrible, but what is even more terrible is that we give in to them. There are many ways to deal with setbacks. You can try stepping on it and crossing it. If you can't step on or cross, go around. Some setbacks cannot be erased, and the fundamental way to treat them is to face them squarely and feel them. As long as we have confidence and courage, we will step through the mud, through the rainy season and mature.