Love is a sensitive topic for teachers and parents, and it is also one of the most troublesome problems for class teachers in class management. The so-called puppy love is puppy love, which is an out-of-control behavior. In fact, "puppy love" is the temporary loss of students' ideals and values in adolescence, and it is an irregular and rebellious ideological and psychological quality. There are many reasons for this kind of psychology and behavior, such as the bad influence of society, untimely and inadequate family education and class management, which can all cause students' "puppy love". There are four reasons why middle school students usually fall in love early: puppy love is because they can't get the warmth of their families; Puppy love is because of conformity curiosity; Puppy love because of imitating adult life; Being misunderstood by others leads to puppy love. Once students fall in love early, it is difficult to educate and guide them, and improper handling will lead to a series of adverse consequences. I have been a class teacher for many years and have accumulated some work experience on this issue. The following are my views and practices:

1. Respect and care, and actively guide.

Puppy love students should never be discriminated against. We should understand and respect their feelings, win their trust on the basis of understanding, approach them with caring attitude and help them. Some class teachers regard puppy love as a "big violation", and once they find out which student has puppy love behavior, they take "emergency measures", such as innuendo criticism without name, breaking off diplomatic relations within a time limit, etc., and even denounce it as "improper style" and "poor ideological quality", or humiliate students in public with sarcastic language, or complain to parents, and take strict discipline from them. This simple and rude treatment greatly hurts students' self-esteem and makes students who fall in love with each other feel depressed and depressed.

When the class teacher finds that the student has signs of puppy love, or after careful observation, confirm the student's puppy love. Generally speaking, he should not rush to deal with it, but calmly analyze it first, consider the education and help plan according to the students' personality characteristics, and avoid everyone. He can talk and teach alone, respect the privacy of students and keep secrets strictly. Still have to get in touch with your parents in time. The purpose is to persuade parents not to scold or abuse their children, so that parents and children can live in harmony, trust and understand, and get close cooperation from school education.

2. Be rational and self-disciplined.

Puppy love students should not interfere rudely, forcibly separate, condescending and severely reprimand. The head teacher should be the guide of students' life path. As a friend and "adviser" with an equal attitude, knowing the interests and helping them to handle the relationship is related to their lifelong happiness. Because of the poor self-discipline ability of middle school students, on the premise of persuading students through persuasion and education, the class teacher can help students to formulate a self-discipline standard and help urge them to consciously implement it. There are two boys and girls in my class who often get together and have a close relationship. They were in a trance in class and their academic performance plummeted. After I found out, I chatted with them and got to know their relationship. I promised them not to tell their parents for the time being, and put forward two rules that they must abide by: first, they are not allowed to be alone and keep normal communication at school; The second is to pay attention to learning. Two students obey the rules, and they gradually feel that there is something wrong with their love. In fact, it is not their own problem, but the timing of love is wrong. This is just a beautiful mistake. As a result, the relationship between them gradually became a normal classmate interaction.