There are three main reasons for teenagers' rebellious psychology: ① Subjective reasons. Teenagers are in a "transition period", and their sense of independence and self-awareness is increasing day by day. They don't want to blindly follow adults, and they tend to be exclusive to their peers and go their own way without being restricted by others. ② objective reasons. The credibility of the preacher and the inappropriate methods, means and places of education are easy to cause rebellious psychology. ③ Parents' random doubts about their children may also induce teenagers' rebellious psychology. Some parents expect too much from their children and discipline them too strictly, which makes them breathless. So the less they trust their parents, the less willing they are to tell their parents what they think, and rebel against their parents with rebellious behavior, which eventually leads to irrational behavior. (4) Treatment of rebellious psychology Once adolescents have symptoms of rebellious psychology, they should correct them in time from the following aspects: ① Help adolescents learn to know themselves correctly and understand the serious harm and consequences of rebellious psychology. ② Improve the education mechanism. Strengthen the moral education and psychological quality training of teenagers, and help them establish a correct outlook on life and values. Pay attention to the influence of complex social factors on teenagers' psychology and promote the fundamental improvement of social atmosphere. (4) Educators should teach according to people, things and places, and have a heart-to-heart relationship before teaching others, so as to overcome the rebellious psychology of teenagers and achieve the purpose of education. College students are in a critical period of individual development, with immature psychological development and weak self-regulation ability. When an individual's desires and needs can't develop according to his own subjective wishes, it will often lead to fierce conflicts between psychological contradictions, psychological obstacles and rebellious psychology, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of college students. Therefore, we should understand the mechanism of college students' rebellious psychology, improve educational methods, improve students' comprehensive quality, create a good educational environment, and cultivate more useful talents for society. In the past, the discussion and research on teenagers' rebellious psychology were generally carried out from two aspects: the characteristics of teenagers' physical and mental development and the parenting style, which revealed the physiological, psychological and educational reasons for teenagers' rebellious psychology to a great extent. However, at present, the rebellious psychology of teenagers is mainly caused by the changes of social culture, that is, there are profound social reasons. This paper intends to explore the causes of adolescent rebellious psychology from the perspective of sociology. "Half-grown boys make me angry" and "Uncle is hard to do". These complaints from parents in daily life are all about children's rebellious psychological phenomena. It is generally believed that rebellious psychology is a psychological state in which people take opposite attitudes and words and deeds to each other's demands in order to maintain self-esteem or meet their own needs. Everyone has rebellious psychology since childhood, but it is more prominent in children's adolescence. People feel that children in this period are more difficult to discipline than at any other time, and the opposition between parents and adults is more prominent than at any other time. Specifically, teenagers' rebellious psychology is mainly manifested in the following aspects: (1) They don't like their parents' excessive care, management or intervention; But to practice independently, I especially hate repeated instructions and requests from adults. (2) I don't want to discuss many things with my parents, but decide for myself. (3) Parents are no longer obedient; But they have their own opinions and opinions, and dare to put forward their own different opinions. (4) For traditional ideas, ready-made conclusions and authorities often do not blindly follow; But a critical attitude. In a word, they oppose adults to treat themselves as "children" and demand to appear as adults. A survey shows that among middle school students, 76.4% are only children who want others to treat them as adults, and 78.2% are not only children. Only children rate themselves as "independent", accounting for 63. 1%, and non-only children account for 66.3%. Therefore, in the eyes of many parents, their children were fine in primary school, but they changed after entering junior high school. They are particularly disobedient and love to bicker with adults. You told him to go east, but he insisted on going west. There is a phenomenon of "not being taught" and "not obedient", and they often "fight with their parents". Sometimes they scoff at the positive propaganda made by society, schools and parents, and think in the opposite direction of disapproval and distrust; Unreasonable doubt or even fundamental denial of advanced figures and role models; With the feeling of identifying with bad tendencies, drink their colors; Passive resistance to parents' teaching, ideological education and discipline, even contempt for confrontation and so on. All these performances seem to go against common sense. Parents and other elders are not good to their children, why should they show lofty and extraordinary attitudes and behaviors? On the one hand, teenagers' rebellious psychology is caused by physiological changes, on the other hand, it is caused by parental discipline. But why do some parents' ways of discipline cause resentment among teenagers and children? This also requires some rational thinking from the changes of social culture. 1. Social and cultural changes make parents no longer the absolute authority in the possession of cultural knowledge in children's minds. China's traditional culture holds that parents are very dignified and inviolable authorities in the family. Traditional concepts such as "monarch, monarch, minister, father, son, son" and "father is son" have accumulated into a psychological and cultural stereotype in the long-term evolution. But in modern society, the authority of parents has been shaken with the changes of social culture. Specific performance in the following aspects. (1) Parents are no longer the main knowledge carriers of children. With the development of science and technology and modern media, this generation of young people has obviously increased their opportunities to acquire knowledge and information and broadened their horizons. Especially teenagers' mastery of computer and network technology weakens the authoritative position of adults in the world of teenagers. Fighting for control and getting rid of control will be the focus of contradictions between the two generations. (2) Teenagers' awareness and ability to accept new things are often stronger than their parents'. Young people accept the new production lifestyle quickly and can learn it immediately with little concern; Parents not only have some knowledge and experience that has fallen behind the development of society, but also are often slower than teenagers in accepting new ideas and concepts. (3) Various cultural metaphors coexist in the family. What our ancestors learned when they were young can be used for a lifetime; What our parents learned when they were young can last half their lives, while what our generation learned when they were young was only 1/4 or 1/3. Therefore, some sociologists say that we are entering the era of "figurative culture" in which adults and teenagers learn from each other, and the "pre-figurative culture" mode in which a single offspring in the family has to learn from the elderly to survive no longer exists. Moreover, the "post-figurative culture" mode in which the elders take turns to learn from the younger generation also occurs frequently. The existence of "parallel figurative culture" and "post-figurative culture" knowledge transfer mode also weakens the authority of parents. Cultural imbalance, even the anomie of social behavior norms in some aspects, brings conflicts of ideas, attitudes and norms. In the changeable society, today's parents are deeply influenced by traditional culture, and it is inevitable that they will consciously or unconsciously implement the old value standards when dealing with parent-child relationship; On the other hand, it can't avoid the all-round impact of the existing society, and its own ideas are often discontinuous or even contradictory. However, modern children are less or unaffected by the historical burden, and most of them have a more practical view of the real society. Intergenerational differences exist objectively, but they are the most prominent at present. Moreover, in the era of rapid development of science and technology, the social structure and function are constantly changing, and the future is difficult to predict; In an era when everything is multi-dimensional and multi-standard, and everything is changing rapidly, it is difficult for teenagers to establish their own beliefs, predict the future, know how to treat themselves and judge what is trustworthy. In this regard, parents are often equally confused, not to mention convincing guidance to teenagers. 3. The emergence of nuclear family and adolescent subculture makes the socialization of adolescents more influenced by peer groups. In a family with many children, the socialization of children has three lines: one is the influence of vertical parents, the other is the influence of oblique brothers and sisters, and the third is the influence of horizontal peers; In the nuclear family, the lack of the influence of diagonal lines between brothers and sisters makes the only child have relatively little emotional support in the family, but the spiritual independence is relatively early, which makes the children seek to get rid of the influence of their parents in many ways. With the emergence of peer groups and even the formation of youth subculture, teenagers seek more emotional recognition and support from peer groups or organizations to develop their independence. Of course, we do not rule out that some of them try to force themselves to accept their parents' ideas on the one hand, and hope to respect norms in peer groups or organizations on the other hand and be accepted by their peers. However, taking both into account, although well-intentioned, the effect is often poor. The result of most efforts is that parents don't understand and don't want to be treated coldly, coldly or even rejected by their peers, because it is uncomfortable to be looked down upon and isolated by their peers. 4. Social and cultural changes have caused conflicts between parents and children in role-playing and role expectation. As far as children are concerned, they are influenced by all kinds of TV, movies, online culture and public opinion, so they have their own ideal standards for the role played by their parents: guidance rather than demanding; Undisturbed love; Willing to provide necessary help; Inform them of possible faults in time; Respect their interests and choices; Accept their classmates and friends; Participate in their games and activities with the greatest interest; Give priority to children's thoughts; Treat children fairly and reasonably; Always listen to your child's voice. They hope that parents should avoid: unfair punishment, inappropriate criticism and excessive protection; Disturbing persuasion, always thinking that their children are still young; If you make a little mistake, you will nag; Boast everywhere when you make small achievements; Never listen to your child calmly; Always treat children's friends with suspicion and hatred; Complaining about too much housework all day, the children are not sensible. I always like to talk about how good other people's children are in front of my own children. For parents, children's roles are: being knowledgeable, being polite and behaving in line with social norms; Diligent and studious, mechanical progress; I hope that children can inherit their own mantle or shine the lintel; Sometimes, parents will regard their unfulfilled idealizations as expectations for their children's roles, such as going to college or becoming experts in a certain field. From the above analysis, we can see that the change of social culture is an extremely important reason for teenagers to have rebellious psychology, parent-child disharmony and even conflict. Therefore, we must reflect on the past knowledge and practices, examine the current social and cultural changes, and think about the parent-child relationship in the new turning period. We might as well change the angle and way of thinking. From the standpoint of teenagers' growth, socialization and human social progress, we can not only see teenagers' psychological development and behavioral defects, but also see their progress, mainstream and development direction, overcome negative factors with positive factors, improve and harmonize parent-child relationship and promote the healthy growth of teenagers and children.