On the road of personal growth (or personal cultivation), there are always many contradictions to be weighed or grasped. This is the topic of humility. We say that "humility" is a virtue and "confidence" is the basic element of success. Obviously, "modesty" and "self-confidence" are a set of contradictions in interpersonal communication (essentially spiritual life), and they are also unavoidable things for everyone. So, how can we correctly grasp the "confident" mentality and "humble" posture? ..... confident but not proud, humble but not self-abased. There are both confident and humble attitudes. Humility: often hidden in the deep heart. Self-confidence: It must be an external behavior. Humility reflects a person's self-cultivation and needs a rich cultural foundation. Self-confidence is the foundation of success, which requires keen insight and tempering. Be a low-key person and do high-profile things. Understand from all angles and correctly grasp the scale. Grasping the scale of humility and self-confidence is what our younger generation needs to learn and inherit. Starting from small things, starting from calmness, is qualified to make public and be proud. Faith is to correctly evaluate yourself and fully affirm yourself. Is the cornerstone of a person's success. If you don't have self-confidence, just like a person without a backbone will never stand up, you will never succeed in anything. Does not mean conceit and arrogance! Modesty is modesty, not arrogance. It is a high gesture and a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation! How to grasp the relationship between them? Self-confidence is a good state of mind and should be maintained at all times. There is a good saying: whoever wants to ride a successful horse forever must hold a confident whip. Humility is a gesture. It should vary from place to place. In different occasions and scope, the performance is different. For example, in this unit, between colleagues at higher and lower levels, in front of people familiar with classmates and friends, everyone knows each other very well, and there is no need to brag about themselves, let alone brag about themselves. Modesty has no negative influence on individuals, and it will also be considered to have traditional virtues. If in another situation, such as job hunting, the two sides don't know each other, and the other side knows nothing about you, what job will you get if you still modestly say that your level is low and your ability is poor? Therefore, it is necessary to analyze specific problems and decide the attitude according to the situation! Humility and self-confidence must not be regarded as opposites, but as a continuous whole. Without humility, it is difficult to absorb nutrients from all the rivers and enrich yourself. On the basis of humility, cultivate savings, accumulate wealth and fly high. This is self-confidence. An unassuming person, no matter how talented he is, is often frustrated by arrogance or self-righteousness. Self-confidence comes from self-confidence, from self-correct assessment of one's own abilities, as well as an accurate grasp of the living environment and space, as well as the time to make a move. Otherwise, it can only be blind self-confidence, or self-confidence, not self-confidence Humility cannot be equated with inferiority. Although there is also "inferiority complex", the title of the former is "modesty" and the definition of the latter is "ego". Modesty is a gesture when communicating and comparing with others. Since, it is to isolate yourself from the outside world and evaluate yourself. Therefore, a truly humble person is just accumulating strength (Buddha's words are good), waiting for the opportunity, waiting for the conditions to be ripe (Buddha's words are mature), exerting his talents, realizing his wishes and achieving his goals (Buddha's words are rewarded). People who feel inferior are those who complain about others, give up on themselves or are controlled by negative thinking, and dare not be confident or unable to be confident. Therefore, humility can only be regarded as Buddhist practice, and self-confidence can be regarded as a good state of retribution after humility practice. Without humility, it is difficult to absorb nutrients from all the rivers and enrich yourself. On the basis of humility, cultivate savings, accumulate wealth and fly high. This is self-confidence. ""Self-confidence comes from self-confidence, from the correct self-assessment of one's own abilities, from the accurate grasp of the living environment and space, and from the grasp of the timing of the hand. "An arrogant and extremely self-centered person, no matter how talented he is, is often frustrated by arrogance or self-righteousness. A truly confident person is modest, and a truly modest person is confident. Many people pretend to be arrogant because of inferiority, and use his arrogance to cover up the emptiness and humility of freedom. The chest accepts everything in the world and is full of gas. Humility shows tolerance, confidence shows strength ~