Carnegie once said: "The weakness of human nature lies in shrinking in the face of difficulties, making predictions with fear and making perfunctory resistance with weak actions." Yes, we are easily frightened in the face of difficulties. In fact, the difficulty is a paper tiger, which can be broken with a poke. It's not as difficult as you think. When you remove those bits and pieces of stones and find that there are no hills, you will have a big smile and a sense of pride in overcoming difficulties.
Someone has done such an experiment, putting some flies in a vessel and covering them with a transparent glass plate to isolate them from the outside world. At first, these flies will madly hit the glass and want to be free; A few days later, people removed the glass. Strangely, they stopped trying to hit them, but flew aimlessly on the ship. Obviously, these little things were frightened and gave up their original dreams in the face of difficulties, and their will was destroyed. I don't know that I can return to the blue sky and enjoy my freedom as long as I fly again. But they only saw the hill in front of them, and they didn't want to move stones anymore. They flinched from fear; Because of retreat, it can only be mediocre.
On the contrary, when we don't magnify difficulties and predict failures, we can often create miracles.
Young people in the room are still fighting with rulers and compasses in their hands. A glimmer of light in the sky gave him a smile. He finally succeeded. He was ecstatic and went to his tutor with the drawings. He almost choked up and said, "Teacher, the topic you gave me yesterday-making regular heptagons with rulers and compasses, I did it, but I was stupid and spent the whole night." The teacher took the picture in his hand and said to him in a trembling voice, "Did you really draw it?" He did not understand, so he showed it to the teacher. The teacher shouted, "You are a genius! This is a problem left over for more than 1000 years. Aristotle did not solve it, and Newton did not solve it. You solved it in one night! " He was shocked and wrote in his diary: If I had known this was a Millennium problem, I would have been frightened. He is the prince of mathematics, Gauss. In fact, the door of truth is left unlocked. As long as you don't get scared by the mountain in front of you and move the stone down to earth, the door will open for you.
Throughout ancient and modern China and foreign countries, the history of human development is a history of fighting to overcome difficulties and get rid of shackles. It is precisely because of countless people with lofty ideals who are not afraid of difficult actions that this glorious history has come about. So what is mediocrity? It is a person who gives himself an ideal and gives himself a discount when he encounters difficulties. If you can't be president, you can be governor. It's still a little difficult for a governor. It's better to be a district chief, or else it's a civilian. If you give yourself a discount, fate will give you a discount. You won't encounter any difficulties in doing anything. Retreat because of fear, and you can only accomplish nothing after retreating.
On the road of life, we will encounter some difficulties. Don't magnify these difficulties infinitely as insurmountable mountains. Come on, let's go.
Later, I discovered that they are just stones that can be moved.
Chapter II: "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" _800 words.
People often say, "Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you." In interpersonal communication, caring for one's heart is a good communication criterion. If we care more about each other in life and consider everything from the standpoint of others, then harmony will be easy.
A writer went to the hospital for an infusion. The young nurse gave her three needles, but they didn't get into the blood vessels. She saw a bruise on the eye of the needle. She wanted to complain about the pain, but when she looked up, she saw that the little nurse was sweating on her forehead, so she comforted: "Never mind, try again." The fourth needle really succeeded. The little nurse sighed and repeatedly said, "Aunt, I'm sorry. I really appreciate you letting me try again. I'm here as an intern. You are my first patient. If it weren't for your encouragement, I really wouldn't dare to stab you again. " The writer told her, "I think of my daughter, who is studying at a medical university." I only hope that she can get the tolerance and encouragement of the first patient. "
Take care of your heart, you will have more love for your children, and you will have more understanding and tolerance between people.
At the same time, it is also a clever way to encourage. The hardest part is actually in the beginning No matter others or yourself, when you do something for the first time, you will encounter some difficulties more or less, which may bring trouble and trouble to others. At this time, getting the tolerance and understanding of others is the most powerful encouragement.
A guest clamored to see the restaurant manager, and a waiter went to solve the situation. "Look, your milk is bad, ruining my good cup of black tea!" The waiter immediately apologized and quickly put on a cup of black tea. As before, he put fresh lemon and milk on the side and said gently, "May I suggest that if you put lemon, don't put milk, because sometimes citric acid will make milk agglomerate? "The guest blushed at once, drank it quickly and left. Someone asked the waiter with a smile, "It's obvious that he doesn't understand. Why don't you just say it? He called you so rudely, why didn't you answer back? " Replied: "reasonable! "
Sometimes you encounter such misunderstandings, you should use euphemism to resolve them. Because the reason is clear, we don't need to shout it out. Confidence is right. But when dealing with people, should we consider whether "self-confidence" can solve contradictions in the atmosphere at that time, take care of other people's mistakes, and point them out kindly and gently, leaving a step for people. If you refute loudly in an already tense atmosphere at that time and finally embarrass the other party, it will deepen the contradiction.
In life, think of others more, and others are thinking of themselves. If you have more empathy, people will have more tolerance and understanding.
Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you, and interpersonal relationships will be more harmonious.
Chapter 3: Without "fantasy", how can it be "heaven opened" _ 1000 words?
In class, the teacher asked, "What happens when the snow melts?" A student writes "water" on the blackboard, and B student writes "spring". What a divergent thinking! Compared with classmate A, classmate B's answer is much better. He didn't use the well-known answer "water", but used his brains and deliberately innovated to get the novel answer "spring" from the natural phenomenon of melting snow. What reason can we deny such an answer?
From this, I thought of the idiom "whimsical". Wonderful, which means that this idea is very bizarre and derogatory. But in a sense, "fantasy is the source of knowledge evolution" (Einstein's language), which is the source of invention and creation. When we talk about whimsy, we mean to dare to doubt others' unknowns, to find a new way, and to explore and innovate in a unique way. Kant said, "Originality must be the basic feature of genius". Blake also said, "The way to break away from convention leads to the hall of wisdom". It can be seen that it is worthy of recognition to dare to "empathize".
Without "whimsy", how can there be a "groundbreaking" initiative? Throughout the invention and creation of ancient and modern China and foreign countries, this is the case. How could paper be invented if we didn't "please" the words from heavy bamboo pieces to light things? Without the "fantasy" of displaying images on the screen, how did Baird make the first TV set? Similarly, if there is no "fantasy" of flying in the air, the Wright brothers' plane will never get into the sky! It can be said that the development of society and the progress of mankind are all based on whimsy.
Dare not or can't be whimsical, what will the scene be like? According to statistics, among the 148 people mentioned in Biography of Famous Foreign Writers (I), only 12 people have studied in the literature department of the university. Of the 400 new scientific and technological talents in China in recent years, only 43% have studied in universities, and similar phenomena are common at home and abroad. Einstein once asked a thought-provoking question about this phenomenon: Why are some important scientific ideas often put forward by people who have not received any systematic education? In my opinion, I'm afraid an important reason is that people who have received systematic education are often superstitious, and their way of thinking is often subject to traditional thinking patterns, so they can't or dare not "fantasize"; Those who have not received systematic education can boldly explore and innovate because of few restrictions in their minds, so they are easy to "fantasize" and get "open-minded" pioneering work. From this point of view, how slim is the hope of making inventions without "fantasy"!
Nowadays, the wave of reform is impacting ancient China. China's great cause of the four modernizations needs people who dare to be whimsical, break the old rules and customs and have pioneering spirit. No matter whether you are engaged in scientific research or social work, you should dare to forge ahead and be whimsical. But how can we cultivate people with whimsical spirit? Take school education as an example. As a teacher, we should abolish the old teaching methods of "cramming" and "cramming", don't just tell students the answer is "water", don't kill them without asking a different answer, and restrain them with our own understanding; On the contrary, we should encourage those students who are curious and can ask novel questions, and guide them to think positively and seek novelty and difference: as students, we should be willing to use our brains, dare to question, and not be superstitious about books and teachers.
Lenin said that whimsy is an extremely valuable quality. I hope that more and more scientific workers will be brave in whimsy and forge ahead.