On the one hand, in order to pursue a better life, the efficiency, system, wealth and status of modern civilization have turned people into machines. On the other hand, when we return to our daily life, most of us always have to face trivial daily necessities, which is the plain.
Over time, people will soon forget their original intention of struggling to survive, working hard, discussing order and stressing rules, that is, living happily and freely.
But there are always people who can find a balance, have a little of their own appearance, don't care about wealth, and don't indulge in worldly trifles.
In my bones, I value it, live an interesting life in plain, and have a due seriousness about life.
This is the life principle that Cai Lan pursued all his life. He once said, "A stable life must be boring. I can't stand being bored, so I decided to live an interesting life. " ?
Mr. Cai Lan, Jin Yong, Huang Zongxi and Ni Kuang are also called "four great talents in Hong Kong". He likes eating and drinking, so he travels around in groups, tastes all the treasures in the world and likes movies. So he worked as a producer in Shaw movies for 40 years, addicted to words, writing columns and books …
You can eat, play and enjoy life. Cai Lan lived a chic life, which is why Jin Yong said: Cai Lan is a truly chic person and a first-rate romantic figure in the world.
However, the original purpose of life is to have fun. Life will be interesting only if you are always curious and willful.
This living method seems spontaneous and natural, but it is full of life wisdom. Therefore, Cai Lan, an interesting life scientist, decided to write down his 70 years' experience and compile "I Decide to Live an Interesting Life" to tell us how to live an interesting and transparent life when a person comes into this world.
Next, let's follow Cai Lan and see how to live an interesting life. ?
Cai Lan seems to have lived a wonderful life that ordinary people can only live for several lifetimes. Not only the food, but also the emotion. He advocates pleasure and freedom, and his views on marriage have always been sharp.
So there are always many young people who encounter emotional problems and like to find him on Weibo to answer questions. And his answers are often sharp and hit the nail on the head, so Cai Lan was dubbed as "emotional expert".
He agreed with Wilde: "Men get married because they are tired; Women get married out of curiosity. Both of them are very disappointed. "
His attitude towards marriage can sometimes be said to be shocking. In his book, he describes it like this:
If every relationship is aimed at getting married and having children, it is a very annoying entanglement.
Some people's genes are naturally sown, and their sperm is excellent. A woman can't satisfy such people. It is barbaric to restrain them with the marriage system.
Monogamy was conceived by a group of guardians with weak sexual ability. They can't even handle one person, so they created this system to protect themselves.
However, he is not a "straight male cancer" who ignores the value of women. On the issue of extramarital affairs, he also demanded that "wives enjoy equal rights."
For those so-called "leftover women", Cai Lan even waved the flag and shouted: not getting married means not getting married, and getting married does not mean perfection.
He thinks there is no such thing as leftover women. He respects their attitude of not getting married and appreciates their courage not to be bound by the secular world and not to bow to the system. For the barbaric attitude of marriage, women don't have to worry about not getting married and having children.
However, Cai Lan also mentioned in the book that at present, we can't expect society to change the problem of women's marriage soon. The biggest problem is to ask those girls to overcome their demons, resist the discussion around them, not to belittle themselves, and become truly free people and good women.
Cai Lan said that there are many such good women around him. Travel when you have time, visit old friends in distant places, love reading and watching movies. These soul mates are much better than a bad husband.
Cai Lan undoubtedly witnessed the perfect marriage. He said in the book that his parents are, and they really grow old together, just like those old couples who walk hand in hand. You can see that they may have many helpless differences of opinion as partners, but they can accept each other's shortcomings and give each other love and care from beginning to end.
It seems that those seemingly cynical feelings and attitudes are actually just Cai Lan's "jokes" about marriage. What he opposes is not a marriage that can really work together for a lifetime, but a marriage that is maintained by certificates and systems.
Perhaps this is a projection of Cai Lan's attitude towards married life. He knows that there are too many uncertainties in life and should be a free and happy person.
Cai Lan believes that true love means being single-minded and earnest, but not so earnest. If you love someone, you will be bound for life, and it is most important to enjoy this moment.
Just like when he was young, celebrities were romantic and never concealed their love for beautiful women. He often lamented that emotional things were the easiest to change with time, but he was very devoted to his beloved wife.
In an interview with Lu Yu You Yue, he talked about his wife. He didn't say much, just bowed his head slightly and repeated "deep love" several times.
Everything Cai Lan likes is "evil": food, wine, playing cards, smoking ...
Whenever we are faced with delicious food, we often have such confusion: eating too much will support us, eating too little will give up, and it is always difficult to choose between indulgence and enjoyment.
But for Cai Lan, if you must satisfy your appetite, then try to eat until you vomit.
Indulge once and you will know where your limit is, and the result you get is often not to make the same mistake again. So, eat everything and eat with your heart! Is the best way to experience life.
So do cigarettes. Cai Lan shows himself in the book. He met Yan at the back of school at the age of 13, and he hasn't left his hand for decades. Use it as an air freshener when you go to the toilet. When you are reading, you should smoke. The more you look at it, the more delicious it is.
Smoking can cause cancer. Of course, Cai Lan knows that he doesn't encourage young people to touch cigarettes. But for lonely elders, people who work hard in the city, and people who have worked hard all day in the countryside, nothing can replace the tranquility brought by smoking, so smoking is just as well. Who has the heart to force them to take away their last pastime?
Cai Lan loved wine all his life and had his own unique views on wine. He thinks there are two kinds of people who drink: one is drinking and the other is drunk. You will get drunk every time you drink any wine. That's because the wine is for you, not you.
He agreed with Li Yu's "five expensive" about drinking and sprinkling, and also made a detailed explanation in the book:
First, it's important to be good, but it doesn't matter how much you drink.
Second, you love to talk, and you can drink with any number of people.
Third, it is important to be sustainable. Good wine and bad wine are not a problem.
Fourth, it is feasible to do what you promised after drinking.
Five, you can stop, drink long and short, drink more and drink less, and stop drinking a drop.
Smoking and drinking without exercise, how comfortable, eating and drinking can also be a respect for life.
Cai Lan always persuades others not to stretch all the time and enjoy it. Life is beautiful. If you are unhappy, what's the point of living long?
This hedonistic attitude is suitable for any time. This also makes Cai Lan the only one among the four gifted scholars who is still active in the public eye, and it is reasonable to make programs, publish books, eat, drink and be merry.
We always say that we should be self-disciplined, eat healthily, go to bed early and get up early, and discipline ourselves with various rules and regulations. This idea is of course very healthy.
On the other hand, our life is obviously very tired. If we keep putting pressure on ourselves, will life get better?
Sometimes if you are too restrained, you will lose a lot of fun in life.
Cai Lan's most famous identity is a gourmet, which is simply a living encyclopedia. However, he prefers to be called "delicious goods". He likes eating and trying new things. After eating for decades, he has a little research on eating.
Regarding food, Cai Lan explained in his book that he felt that what we ate was not simple food, but a habit and a kind of homesickness.
If you don't believe me, an oriental travels abroad and eats western food for a week, so he can't help but want to eat a bowl of white rice in a Chinese restaurant. When a foreigner comes to China, he will find an opportunity to eat bread in a fast food restaurant every day.
The taste buds must be branded with everyone's nostalgia for their hometown and childhood. So not everyone can eat all over the world casually, which is the limitation of the tongue.
Those lucky enough to wander around young people can accept more things, just like Cai Lan himself. He was born in Singapore, studied in Japan, and then returned to work in Hong Kong. Too much travel affected his understanding of food.
He is often asked how to become a gourmet.
The book mentioned: "To be a delicious person, you must first be curious. Try everything, because you are qualified to judge after trying, and your tongue needs exercise. In the long run, you will gradually become a person who knows how to appreciate food. "
Isn't life the same? Maybe we are just a curious distance from the interesting life.
In Cai Lan's view, eating is not only a gift, but also a curiosity and a knowledge. When you learn the knowledge of eating, you will find it is the best weapon to make friends.
According to the book, people in Ningbo will be very excited when they talk about crab paste, yellow snails and smelly wax gourd. If you tell overseas Hong Kong people about wonton noodles, you must know which one is the best.
I have tasted everything in the world. What does Cai Lan think is the best? For this kind of question, he mostly replied: "The food eaten with his girlfriend is the best."
Because your partner will affect your mood, and your mood will affect everything. When you are in a good mood, the food in front of you will naturally be fine. It is precisely because of this mentality that Cai Lan can be called a glutton.
Eating and drinking is always a big event, and it is also a great pleasure in life. You look for it and find the most unique bite. It's fun, but the ultimate happiness is not to find many delicious dishes, but to be with the people you love the most, even simple rice. Even if it is wasted on a cup of tea and a meal, it is bliss on earth.
People who care about food must also study other aspects of life. This is the case with Cai Lan, who not only has a soft spot for food, but also has his own opinions on clothes.
He is familiar with the production places of big brands, how to use materials, and which products of which design line are the best, but this does not prevent him from being indifferent to luxury goods.
In his book, Cai Lan emphasized that it is not important whether clothes are famous brands, but it is important to wash them cleanly, iron them smoothly, and wear corresponding clothes according to the occasion, so as to be decent and comfortable. Because clothing is a kind of respect for others, but also for yourself.
An acquaintance often sees Cai Lan running around the market in Mong Kok in slippers and shorts. Cai Lan doesn't care. A public figure doesn't need to wear a suit to go to the market, which is inappropriate and uncomfortable.
He doesn't chase famous brands or pay attention to the ostentation and extravagance of clothes, but he is strict with fabrics.
Cai Lan tells his story in the book: One summer, he accidentally got an Indian silk linen shirt, which was thin and cold to wear, and it was indescribable pleasant to rub on his skin.
After putting it on for the first time, he swore to himself that he could not wear more than two clothes in a free environment on a hot day.
He doesn't have many suits and styles that are not fashionable, but he will definitely choose materials, otherwise his clothes will wrinkle badly after wearing them several times.
However, the colors of his shirts and ties often change to give people a fresh feeling.
It is said that clothes are the embodiment of a person's value preferences and personality cultivation, and the appearance is not easy to change. For everyone, the space for their own operation is relatively broad. Without talking, the appearance of clothes is your language, silently expressing your truest attitude towards life. Dressing well makes life a lot easier.
Cai Lan believes that whether you wear a suit or jeans, you should wear what you want, want and like. Instead of what others want you to wear, this is the minimum freedom requirement in life.
Actually, to tell the truth, it's not good for people like Cai Lan to be husbands, and free people are more likely to be romantic, so it's best to be friends.
Because he is an interesting person, he loves to visit the vegetable market, and he can talk about the past and the present. His mind is sexy and his words are sharp, which is rare in the world.
Cai Lan's friends are not inferior. He is one of the four great talents in Hong Kong. Although he is famous and flashy, so are his lifelong friends. He spent a lot of time introducing it in the book.
First of all, Jin Yong, he is very strange. He and Cai Lan have completely different tastes in food. "Cai Lan and I agree on some things, but I don't like what he ordered." Once Mr. Jin Yong and I went to eat Cantonese porridge noodles, and he said the same thing.
Speaking of drinking, it is said that Mr. Jin Yong was a good drinker when he was young, but he seldom drank too much. Cai Lan said in the book that when drinking with him, watching him drink whisky without ice is evidence of his capacity for alcohol.
There is also an interesting story in the book: many years ago, Mr. Jin Yong was seriously ill and was forbidden to eat sweets by doctors.
But the more the old urchin forbids it, the more he wants to eat it. He would hide a long chocolate bar in the apron bag of a female nurse and put the other one in his pajamas to reveal a piece.
When Mrs. Cha found out, she naturally confiscated his chocolate. He didn't dig it out of the nurse's pocket until his wife left.
Probably only strange people will write the strangeness in those novels.
The other Ni Kuang, he can play. Ni Kuang lived his decades into several eras. In each era, he played wholeheartedly and became an expert, which made Cai Lan appreciate.
Cai Lan said that Ni Kuang was not very particular about playing. He lived through the carpenter's era, goldfish era, shell era, immigration era and so on. Every era enjoys it to the fullest, but at the end of each era, he doesn't miss it, and he doesn't leave any collections.
This is his personality. In the shell age, he wrote many papers and was praised by experts of the International Shell Society. If he leaves one or two rare shells, they are still valuable, but it is not a pity that he gives them up with a smile.
The book also talks about Ni Kuang's "film age", which was initiated by Cai Lan. A few years ago, Cai Lan produced Wesley and Legend, with a luxurious cast, Chow Yun Fat, Maggie Cheung and Chen Xiaohao …
Before Ni Kuang was allowed to play, Cai Lan had to say good or bad. Ni Kuang refused at first, but the acting was accompanied by good wine and beautiful women. Ni Kuang thought it was a good job, and it got out of hand.
On the set, the two friends also teased each other, but Cai Lan still felt from the bottom of his heart that this old friend who can enjoy everything has a broader world than the average person.
Speaking of James J.S.Wong, it is said that he is brilliant. More than 2,000 songs he composed run through the golden age of popular culture in Hong Kong since the late 1970s.
James J.S.Wong once commented that he was "lascivious, good wine and good money." However, in Cai Lan's eyes, this friend is very affectionate, especially his love past.
In his book, Cai Lan talks about what James ·J·s· Wang told his friends about his beloved wife, Wai-Man Chan, when he recorded the program "No One Defends Tonight".
Wai-Man Chan is twenty years younger than Uncle Zhan, and he loves David Henry Hwang wholeheartedly. They got married on 1995 in Las Vegas, USA.
Everyone knows that Las Vegas is the most convenient and quick place to get married in the world. Lm ho was in no hurry. He took the beautiful woman to the casino to watch the performance, and then went to lunch, before slowly thinking about the marriage registration.
The wedding is simple. There are substitutes in the circular church. Without the preparation of the parties, in less than an afternoon, the license was obtained and the wedding ceremony was held.
Cai Lan envied this love in his heart, because Wai-Man Chan's love for David Henry Hwang seems to have only been seen in novels, and it is very affectionate. Really can love each other regardless of return and care about each other regardless of conditions. This is Cai Lan's most respected love.
If there are such friends in life, it is really a blessing in life. Their legend, talent, and free and easy can save a lot of time and make you feel more interesting.
I heard a short story about Cai Lan. Once he was on a night flight, he was bumped by the airflow. An Australian around him clung to the armrest of his seat, but Cai Lan had been drinking.
After the plane stabilized, the man wondered, "Dude, have you ever died?" Cai Lan slowly put down his glass and said, "I'm alive."
This may be the truest Cai Lan. If he is alive, he is not afraid of anything.
When he was young, Cai Lan knew: "Compared with the whole universe, we are only a matter of decades, and we hope to be happier." So he has been pursuing happiness in his own way all his life.
In his early years, he made movies popular. Later, he became a host, writer, traveler, gourmet, calligrapher, painter and seal engraver ... He played various roles and was the best practitioner of experiential life.
Because of this experience, he warned young people:
Life is like a dream, rich as smoke. After seeing the world, it is also a noble way of life to be not tired of life and full of enthusiasm.
Have a playful attitude towards life. There are no small things in life. Eating and drinking, pure appetite is the most difficult to satisfy. Studying hard can also be fun, whether it is failure or success.
Responsible for every love. When you are together, tell the other person that you love him, let the other person know his own value, feel the beauty of love, stop loving, don't blame yourself or others. Is the greatest respect for love.
Respect your friends and treat others sincerely. Cai Lan's friends are strange and eccentric, promiscuous, drunk and cunning, but everyone can live in peace and talk about everything. This is true friendship. Because we have the same hobbies, we cherish each other's efforts. I don't interfere with your other side. Everyone has his own hobbies, as long as you are a good person and don't harm the world.
The existence of such an old man also makes us reflect.
When we look around, we see that everyone is busy, tired, greedy or helpless. When we take it for granted that fun is contrary to progress, and struggle is against the clock, there are a group of such people who, after being confused and struggling, jump out of the shackles of boredom and the limitations of the times and live a different world for themselves.
This may require full courage and great ability, but try to start from eating, drinking and having fun around you, look down on utility, find your real hobbies, and do some hobbies you are interested in, and slowly your life will be different.