1. Experience of watching family education lectures
Recently, Yongquan Primary School prepared a meaningful education class for parents, and listened to the class of Ms. Zhu, an excellent classroom lecturer for parents, which benefited a lot. Teacher Zhu talked about the seven knives of education: nagging, comparison, neglect, doubt, irony and doting. It really touched my parents' hearts. In contrast, as parents, we often unconsciously carry several knives on our backs. Today, everything the child says and does is the result of our own knife.
I am Tian Jiaxing's mother in Class 83. First of all, the first knife is to catch a knife, which I fully embody. A very small thing, sometimes repeated several times. I don't think so. I didn't notice it until Tian Jiaxin became impatient and even covered her ears with her hand. Finally, I accused him of disrespecting his parents. Escalate to a sweeping scolding, so repeated vicious circle. Finally, as Teacher Zhu said, I cut off the child's patience and sunshine. It has brought future irritability to children. Tian Jiaxing once wrote such a sentence in his composition. "Mother began to nag, just like Tang Priest in a Chinese Odyssey," like a fly buzzing in the Monkey King's ear. "In retrospect, Tian Guxing is so helpless and unhappy. It was originally a trivial matter, trying to help children grow up happily, and finally broke up in discord, and even escalated to beating and cursing, which became another knife.
2. Experience of watching family education lectures
It is a great honor to attend Sister Zhu's lecture on "Seven Knives of Family Education", which has taught me a lot about children's family education. What's more, it makes me feel ashamed of being a parent in the family education of my children. I wrote it down, constantly reminding myself, constantly urging myself, so that my children and I can make continuous progress on the road of growth! At the meeting, the teacher mentioned seven knives for educating children. I didn't think there was anything wrong with my behavior before attending the lecture. After listening to the lecture, I think these seven knives are aimed not only at children but also at the depths of each of our parents. They nag, compare, beat and scold, ignore, doubt, satirize and coquetry, which can be described as knives and knives, cutting off children's patience, confidence, security, kindness and even the future. Hearing this, my pores stood on end, and I was covered in cold sweat, a heart-wrenching pain and a deep sense of guilt. I thought my education methods were right and good for children, but the result was just the opposite.
I remember that once a child came home from school half an hour later than usual. When the child came home, I asked him directly without asking, why did he come home so late? I don't know whether he will go home directly after school or play with other students on the way. My face was heavy, and the child was too scared to answer, bowing his head and looking depressed. Seeing him like this, I felt that I had gone a little too far, so I slowed down and asked him. He told me that it was because the teacher arranged for several students to clean up with him in the afternoon. As a result, those students forgot that he came back after cleaning the classroom alone. Because of their own guesses and doubts, children feel inferior, give up on themselves, fear and disappointment. As the world psychotherapist and family therapist Ms. satya said, the child is fine. There is nothing wrong with parents, but there is something wrong with communication.
3. Experience of watching family education lectures
I am/kloc-the mother of Cao xx in Class 0/20. Fortunately, Hanzi was able to enter Yongquan Primary School and meet excellent principals, excellent teachers Guo and excellent teachers. "The source of happiness and happy growth. Cultural guidance to create a harmonious and happy campus atmosphere. Teamwork promotes the construction of happy teachers. Moral cultivation ensures students' happiness and all-round development. Building an autonomous and efficient happy classroom based on students. "This is the school for children. Through the experience after class, I would like to express my heartfelt thanks to all Yongquan teachers who care about the growth of our children. I'm not a competent parent, and I don't do well in many aspects, so my child's performance is very average now. I always feel at a loss when my children have problems, and I try to consult the parents of excellent students, but it seems that they all show the same confusion. It was not until March 30th that I finished the first class of "Seven Knives of Family Education" given by Mr. Zhu that I found the real reason and made a profound reflection.
In view of many problems existing in current family education, Mr. Zhu started education around the seven knives of family education-"nagging, comparing, beating and cursing, ignoring, suspecting, satirizing and doting". In view of these problems, Mr. Zhu cited a large number of examples and interacted with us, which made me understand that it is very important to form good communication with children in family education, improved my attention to family education, handled problems with a good attitude and rational methods, kept learning, improved my self-cultivation, learned to be an excellent parent, and trained excellent children to grow up with them. Thanks again to President Jinzhong of Yongquan Primary School for providing our parents with this learning opportunity and communication platform.
Before attending this class, Hanzi was often criticized by me for such a trivial matter, and sometimes she hit her, and gradually felt that she had learned a lot of condemnation. It is often said that parents are children's first teachers, and the quality of family environment directly affects whether she can grow up healthily. As a parent, I always can't control my emotions after things happen, and my nagging, comparison, beating and cursing are all reflected by me. Psychologists say: living in hostility, children learn to be aggressive; If you live with encouragement, you will learn to be confident; If you live in a popular environment, you will learn to like others; If you live in friendship, you will feel that you live in a beautiful world. Parents need to grow as their children grow. They treat every child's problems with a normal heart. These days, they have changed a lot slowly. They always remind themselves that they have to fight and scold. They gradually learn to communicate face to face with a good attitude and rational methods, and the effect is really good.
When I see Hanzi's grades, I will ask my classmates with good grades in school to check their academic performance in the class collection WeChat group, and then let her see her performance. At the same time, I will look for more reasons. As a parent, have I been serious and responsible for my children's study? Have you ever relaxed your study of your children because you were busy for a certain period of time? There are many reasons for poor grades. I will envy children with good academic performance, but their parents must work hard and sweat several times more than us. You handled the child's homework check today, and he will learn to handle it tomorrow. You dealt with your child's study today, and tomorrow he will deal with you with poor grades. Therefore, as a parent, I always remind my children to set a good example.
With the development of the information age, mobile phones really make us ignore every important moment of children's growth, when children should do their homework and have fun, master knowledge, communicate with classmates, children's interests and various performances. Deeply reflect on yourself, put down your mobile phone from today, spend more time with your children to study and play games, cultivate your behavior habits, overcome your irritability, correct your careless habits, work and rest on time, do your own thing well, be self-centered, stand up to criticism and setbacks, encourage your children to participate in various activities organized by the school, and enhance the sense of collective honor and teamwork spirit. Only in activities can children feel the collective strength and their real happiness!
Everyone is lazy. It is natural for children to play, and so are adults. We should not blame children blindly after their playful behavior, but encourage them to finish their homework quickly, so that they can have more time to do what they like, and check their homework from time to time to let children know that we have been paying attention to her. Spoiling should not happen to parents like me. I love Hanzi properly and reasonably. I always treat her equally, don't easily meet the requirements, often avoid being spoiled every other generation, and always accompany her to take care of herself. This is what I am most proud of.
Being a man is the foundation of a child's life. To make children successful, we must first teach them to be human. This is the most important task of family education. I believe that as long as I can do the above, with my company and the scientific guidance of teachers, Hanzi will grow up healthily and she will be our pride! May I join hands with the school to hold up the sun of tomorrow!