After dinner, standing on the balcony, staring at the high night sky, I suddenly remembered that a friend once sighed and told me the other day that a quiet, beautiful, natural and real person like you lacks sophistication and imagination, devotes himself to his dreams, is unmoved by material desires and is willing to write wholeheartedly. Here, "the world is bustling, all for profit; In an era when the world is bustling and everything is profitable, how can people not worry about you? Don't you want to think about your future?

I just smiled, there is no difference. At the moment, I think about it silently, but I feel that her words are of great significance.

Bing Xin once said: "The flower of success, people are only amazed at its present brilliance, but they don't know that its bud was full of tears of struggle and blood rain of sacrifice." These short sentences reveal a fact, an absolute fact, that is, life is a process of suffering first and then giving up. Only by holding your head high and accepting the hardships of life can you transcend mediocrity and vulgarity, gain the value and significance of life, and win the admiration and respect of the world! However, to my surprise, there are still many people who privately believe that such a life belief and such a life path are only applicable to men. As for women, what they mean is that it is better to marry well than to do well. They relish: "Men conquer women by conquering the world, and women conquer the world by conquering men." The implication is that men and women are "born" different, and they can fully display their intelligence on the stage of life. After hard work, they have a successful career and enjoy a good life. Such a life experience is a man's business, while a climbing Campbell flower is attached to a successful and powerful man. A full and idle life is a woman's scenery and happiness. This is really irritating. This ideology, and "women without talent is virtue" (not reading is virtue! The traditional concept of "Miao" has the same effect, which will corrode a woman's soul like mold, destroy a woman's independent consciousness, make a woman completely dependent on a man from her soul to * *, lose herself, become a man's doll, and become an out-and-out "second sex"; If this ideology is left unchecked, it will cause endless harm. Not to mention the great loss of the whole human society, it will waste a lot of talents for no reason. It is an extreme contempt for women's own intellectual development, spiritual improvement and dignity needs. It is a seemingly colorful and comfortable trap, but in fact it will be endless. Driven by traditional consciousness and self-interest, men advocate that it is understandable for women to live like this. If women are not alert and plan their lives according to the settings of men, it would be a big mistake. Thousands of years of feudal history, women have no sense of independence, attached to men, blindly catering to men's life and aesthetic taste, and are easily accused of compromising everything. Even in order to save themselves, they do not hesitate to destroy the living conditions of their own kind. This is a mirror, which should be able to reflect women's hearts, so that women can overcome their own inertia, overcome their natural fragility, rationally look at their relationship with the world, tap their inner strength, and bravely face and undertake life choices. Maybe my friend didn't realize it. Subconsciously, she wants me to escape suffering, be a woman in an innocent girl, rely on a pair of strong arms, enjoy the cool under the big tree, live a carefree life, and do not seek literature. ...

This meditation gives me the creeps!

My thoughts are flying all the way, and I can't help thinking of lev tolstoy's anna karenine and Margaret Mitchell's Gone with the Wind. Anna, a "Tuoweng", equates love with life because of her lack of ideals and narrow interests. She was addicted to the emotional world and finally chose * *; Hao Sijia in Mitchell has long attracted Rhett and won Rhett's love with her strong courage and charm in life! The two unforgettable women portrayed in these two masterpieces are as beautiful as flowers and pure as jade, but their endings are completely different. How to write about the future and destiny of women is sobering!

Think about yourself again. For many years, for the sake of my innocent literary dream as a teenager, I stayed away from my hometown relatives and lived in a foreign land, enduring deep homesickness and resisting the temptation to play, so that my life was soaked in the book, time splashed in a blank field, and my spirit followed the feathers of ancient sages and flew like a cloud crane! Is there anything wrong with this life? At least I don't think so. If I was infatuated with the artistic conception in Tang poetry and Song poetry when I was a teenager, or Chenxi Yu's first morning, or a quiet afternoon, or a quiet evening, or a quiet rainy night, it is one of the beautiful memories of my life, then now I, like an infatuated jingwei, have never stopped believing in filling the sea with stones, never bowed to fate, never compromised to the secular, persisted in my ideals, looked forward to love, tirelessly pursued knowledge, and embraced compassion for human suffering.

At this moment, I find myself still willing to imitate the spirit of Martin Luther: "Even if I know that the world will be destroyed tomorrow, I will still plant my apple tree." Let me go all the way along this life belief! "Classic" reminds you that the article is taken from "Go Your Own Way", please indicate it when you reprint it.